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How To Get Your Marriage Back On Track (Things To Do To Get Marriage Back On Track)

Isn't it frustrating that you have to spend your time trying to figure out how to get your marriage back on track, when it seems like everyone else is walking around happy and in perfect little marriages. How has your search gone so far for things to do to get your marriage back on track?

By John BillPublished 3 years ago Updated 2 years ago 6 min read
How To Get Your Marriage Back On Track (Things To Do To Get Marriage Back On Track)
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Your marriage is shaky at the moment and you want to really make things work with your spouse. These tips will help you build a stronger marriage, and if your spouse was even thinking divorce, these tips will crush that word dead silent.

Start implementing these tips today, and you will have a chance to save your marriage.

• Take some time out. This will be effective if your spouse has mentioned divorce or maybe you have been talking about for a bit. Time apart will help both of you, because you will use the time to reflect on your marriage, and think things through, and try to figure what needs to be done to deal with the issues at hand. A week where there is no fighting or screaming at each other will be refreshing for the both of you.

• Work on your issues. These may be issues that are affecting your marriage or whatever baggage you may have brought into the relationship. Do not expect to solve any issues in this time, but at least you will have done the work to identify the issues, and you will be at a better place to get them sorted out.

• Communicate. Once you have identified the issues that are messing up your marriage, you can now start to implement solutions to those issues. Start talking about them, be willing to set time apart every week just to focus on those problems and talking about them honestly and in a open manner. If you and your spouse are incapable to being civilized with each other and you end up screaming at each other and not listening, you might want to have a professional mediate these meetings.

• Spend time together. Do you remember how much time you used to spend together when you were dating? Well, now your marriage is in trouble and it is most likely that you have been spending time apart than together. Make it a priority to set aside time where you do something that you both enjoy doing every week.

• Forgive each other for past mistakes. Your spouse and you have probably hurt each other or disappointed each other one way or another over the years or months that you were married. If you really want your marriage to have a fighting chance, you need to forgive each other, you cannot keep dredging old hurts all the time. You need to move on from this, forgive each other and focus on solving the issues that are spoiling your marriage right now.

• Stop criticizing each other. Nobody is perfect in the world, including your spouse and you. Stop focusing on little things that your spouse does and let go of the irritating traits that your spouse may do. You also have irritating traits that your spouse has to deal with, so you need to stop zooming in on those and stop criticizing each other.

• Be patient with your spouse. Your marital problems did not happen overnight and they will not disappear overnight. You need to be patient, the important is that you are doing something to make your marriage work. It will take time to get your marriage in good standing, so keep doing what you have to do to sort out your marriage.

How to Avoid the Top Marriage Killing Pitfalls

Is it really possible to sustain an affectionate, passionate, respectful, fun, successful marriage that will not only stand the test of time, but thrive through it? Obviously we all think so when we walk down the aisle. But it is well known that over 50 % of marriages in this country end on divorce. What goes wrong? While certain marriages need to end due to serious problems such a violence, addiction and controlling behaviors, the vast majority of marriages end for reasons much less dramatic. They basically just "wither away".

Below are the top factors that contribute to couples simply "drifting apart". Many divorces could be avoided if couples just worked on these areas.

1. Couples stop making each other a priority.

It really is as simple as that. Stressful jobs, taking care of young children and aging parents, the million details involved in running a household... all of these things take our time and attention away from our partners. Unless we make a special point of making time for just each other, scheduling "couple time" on the calendar, it is easy for literally months and years to slip away without us making our partners feel a treasured priority. Let me define "couple time" (gentleman, it is not simply scheduling physical intimacy on the calendar). "Couple time" is taking time, preferably away from the home and it's multitude of responsibilities, to connect with your partner through conversation, having fun, going on a date, or doing anything that reminds you both that you are indeed still a romantically involved couple, not just housemates or co-parents.

2. Couples neglect basic marriage maintenance.

When you are thirty or forty, you are simply not the same people that you were when you were in your twenties, which when most couples marry (for the first time). Have you grown together, or have you grown apart? Successful couples take time every year or two to realign their goals and commitments with regards to their marriage and continued life together. Are things going as they hope, what can they do to improve the strength of their connection? These are questions that should be asked and answered on a regular basis.

3. Couples engage in destructive behaviors.

Certainly in instances of abusive relationships or where there are issues of addictions not all marriages can or should be saved. However, in the vast majority of cases, destructive behaviors that kill marriages are far less dramatic. Excessive TV viewing, excessive time away from the home pursuing your hobbies (golf, fishing, hunting, scrap booking weekends), being overly involved in anything and everything to do with your children...these are all behaviors that take you away from your relationship with your partner. If any of these have become acceptable excuses for you to avoid intimacy and connection with your partner, then these behaviors certainly are destructive. Couples can literally go years being focused on their overly scheduled children ("quick, we have soccer practice, we need to get to dance, I'm volunteering at the school!") only to find, when their children suddenly get more independent, they literally have no idea what they have in common any more with each other.

4. Couples wait until it's too late to get professional advice.

Most couples wait until they are on the brink of divorce before they seek help. In many cases it's simply too late. Much of traditional marriage counseling focuses on communication techniques. What this means for many couples is that they now have more effective ways of communicating their frustrations, boredom and disappointments. Seeking professional advice earlier on or being involved in regular "marriage maintenance" is a much more successful approach.

Do you want to reawaken a committed and loving relationship in your marriage? There are proven steps that are amazingly powerful that will help you overcome conflicts and breathe life back into your marriage. This is a plan you do not want to pass by. Click here to see the proven steps on how to save your marriage.

Divorce does not have to be your only option. Even if it feels as though your relationship can't be saved because of the ongoing conflicts between you and your spouse, it can be. There are techniques that you can begin using today that will not only stop a divorce but will help also you build a stronger and more loving marriage. To learn more visit: Steps to Save Your Marriage

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