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How to communicate with children? Remember these benefits for life

The world of adults is to some extent cut off from the world of children. This is a phenomenon that we cannot ignore, and at the same time a law that cannot be overcome without a door.

By SonnyPublished about a year ago 4 min read
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Father and daughter who are studying

In daily life, the world of adults is to a certain extent separated from the world of children. This is a phenomenon that we cannot ignore, and at the same time, it is a law that no door can be crossed. Because of the different habits of the two groups and their perceptions of the external environment, which eventually lead to fragmentation and mutual lack of understanding between the groups, this phenomenon is common. One part of the population recognizes this phenomenon and tries to regulate it, while the other part does not understand it and does not treat it differently in terms of perception. Of course, this group refers to adults, because adults can speak out, while children are not.

When we talk about a phenomenon, do we have more knowledge about it? This is often the key to the problem, for example, the film we recommend today is about a problem of perception. The film "Calling Friends", this film uses a documentary approach to tell us the story of a silent middle-aged man and his young nephew, this kind of story helps us understand the differences between children and adults and their perceptions.

The man has to make a documentary, yet he has to face another problem, that is, his little nephew needs to be taken care of. The man has to continue his filming with the child, which is a challenge and a difficult journey at the same time. No one thinks that a man can bring up a child well, because the man in his daily life is a silent person, and such a person cannot be trusted by the adults around him. There is no way to guess his heart and no way to judge a man. Therefore, in the world of adults, men cannot survive. Of course, this is a bit exaggerated, but long-term loneliness is the biggest killer of men, and even their loved ones have doubts about it.

And for the child, such an uncle who is not accepted by the adult world does not have too many negative effects on himself, even to the extent that men listen to themselves better than their mothers. The nephew's fondness for his uncle has surpassed his mother's, so the nephew feels happy during the time he spends with his uncle.

The father and daughter who are playing

The film does not have a strict storyline, but there is a clear theme, and the theme lies in what communication between adults and children means. In the world we are accustomed to, children are children and their demands can be ignored, while adults are the masters of the world. With this view, the world of children can be ignored because the demands of children who do not have a general impact on the world of adults are naturally ignored.

They don't have much of a voice in the first place, and when a lack of understanding is imposed on them, the communication between adults and children is even worse. The mutual understanding that we expect does not exist in our common values, and the man in this film can do so because he is a man who has been abandoned by the adult world. The man's withdrawn personality is difficult to understand even by his own family, let alone by other strangers with whom he has no connection. Yet this aloofness is relative because in the world of children, the man is an adult who can communicate, and this is crucial for his nephew.

A man cannot command respect from others in his world, but when he makes the effort to interact with small children, there is a universal satisfaction with the word respect, which is a surprise for the man. Life is not supposed to be absolute, when we look back on a certain thing, may not be perfect, but for men, in the adult world who passed away in their documentary, and in the world of children a little bit to gain.

And the intersection of the adult world and the world of children is to understand each other, and the premise of mutual understanding comes from the perception of differences, adults understanding children is easy, and children understanding adults is very difficult. Because the knowledge base of the world is not enough, but also for the original things they do not understand empathy which is even more difficult.

During dinner

The young nephew in the film makes his uncle angry because of a prank, a scene we can all encounter in life, but most people encounter such a scene and can not reflect on it as the adults in the film, which causes a rift between children and adults, we are not unable to understand, but unwilling to understand, and this reluctance to understand the emotions eventually led to the gap between the two sides.

Mutual understanding is based on equality, but does equality exist in the world of adults and children? Naturally not. Adults are naturally unable to be truly equal when dealing with children, and our lack of understanding of children combined with our disdain for them makes us play a condescending role most of the time in our daily communication. Communication is simple, but difficult to implement.

No one seems to think it's a complicated problem when it comes to how children and adults should communicate, but when we need to get down and solve the problem, the problem that shouldn't be a problem starts to become a problem, and neglect is always a catalyst for complicating the problem.

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