HOW MY MOTHER'S SISTER TEACHES ME HOW TO SMOKE, DRINK ALCOHOL AND WOMANIZED

ATTENTION: This is a true life-story about a young man from which I hope all parents can learn.

My name is Ken, and I'm 29 years old, married with two children, yet when I met Doctor Lucas, I felt helpless and drained, almost crying.

I knew my spirit was in despair and desperately seeking strength to soar above the numerous challenges surrounding me, but Doctor Lucas was willing to assist me because I saw the solution in his strength.

In his office, he gestured to a seat for me and inquired, "How can I assist you, Mr Ken?" as written behind my folder. "Doctor, I want to stop smoking, drinking, and womanizing," I replied. "I want to come to a complete halt." "Wow, what a fantastic resolution you made there," he said.

He vowed to assist me in reaching my goal, but before he did so, he needed to know how I got there. He inquired, "How many cigarettes, alcohol, and women do you consume on a daily basis, and how long have these habits been present?"

Soberly, I replied, "average of 10 sticks daily, 10 bottles over the weekend, and in one week I sleep with an average of 10 girls, the majority of whom are serving corp members."

He exhaled and exhaled loudly. He exclaimed helplessly for himself first. Then he went on to elaborate on what I had just told him. "If I understand you correctly, you started doing all of these habits when you were 19 years old, as a teenager?" I said yes regrettably, but added that it was becoming worse every year.

"How did you start?" he inquired further. "Doctor, two groups of people were responsible for my helpless situation today: my mother's sister (my aunt) and the group of friends I was keeping at the time," I explained.

"When I was about 15 years old, my mother asked me to go and stay with her younger sister because her work required her to travel most of the time." "My father is late."

"My mother's younger sister stayed single and unmarried," I continued. Every weekend, she brought home a different man. She drank beer as well, but I had no idea she smoked until I caught her inside the bathroom one day."

She assured me that those things were unimportant. I should have fun while I was still young. That once I married, my wife would not let me live my life. Most of the time, she would send me to get her cigarettes and bottles of alcohol. When I returned, the door was sometimes locked because she was with a man.

So, four years later, after watching all of this, I decided to experiment with them as well. One day, I drank a bottle of her beer. She described me as a frail young man. I should be able to finish two bottles at the same time. She made fun of me for not having a girlfriend at my age, and then I got one.

She informed me that one wasn't enough, so I got two, three, and so on, and then I started smoking. In the process, I met friends who were doing the same thing, so we became friends and continued living our wild lives together until I married at the age of 27.

Doctor, I told myself and promised my wife that if she agreed to marry me, I would give up all of my bad habits. Doctor, I was only able to stop for a few weeks before I married, but I always kept the behaviours hidden from my wife. If you asked my wife now if I still practiced any of those three habits, she would laugh and tell you that I quit doing them two years ago.

I used to wear perfume while I smoked outside. If I drank, I would brush and rinse my mouth well and wait for the affects of the alcohol to wear off before returning home. If I slept with any girl, I'd do it in a hotel far away from my house, where no one could see me, let alone my wife.

I recently went to see my aunt, who, although being 47 years old, was still doing all those things she was doing, still unmarried, but she was full of sorrow now apologizing to me to please forgive her for teaching me those horrible things so early in life. She advised me to stop and avoid becoming an addict like her. As far as I could tell, her life was now a shambles.

"So, how come most of the girls you slept with are corps members?" He inquired. "Doctor, they're very easy to come by now." For starters, they are young girls. Second, they are visitors from other state. Many of them need accommodation or money to get accommodation. Third, how much is their monthly allowance? So, if you offer to meet their needs, they will take care of you as well." I replied.

"But I hope you used condoms with all these women sha," he inquired. "Yes, doctor, I'm not joking," I replied, "but you can still check my HIV and hepatitis status." I don't have any. I double-checked them last week."

He then questioned me, "What caused you to become sober so suddenly, and why do you want to stop this 10-year habit right now?" "Doctor, this my aunt I’m talking about, died three days ago," I replied. When she went to see her best friend, she collapsed and died.

As a result, the case became a police investigation. The commissioner of police then suggested that an autopsy be performed on her. The doctor who performed the autopsy informed me that she died of lung cancer. Her lungs were the color of charcoal. The doctor showed me photos of her lungs that he had taken during the autopsy.

He photographed her lungs during the autopsy.

"Doctor, you can't look at those pictures more than once." I still can't believe they are my aunt's lungs. I made the decision to stop everything, even alcohol, because I learned that alcohol, too, causes cancer, and that even if you use condoms all the time, the chance of contracting HIV and HEPATITIS remains." He stated unequivocally that I was correct.

Doctor Lucas' final question to me was, "How about your mother?" Did she find out about everything that happened to you at her sister's house? "No doctor," I said.

"My mother only comes to see us, gives us more money, and then returns to work." She has no idea that I drink, smoke, or womanize."

To shorten a long tale short, Doctor Lucas and my mother collaborated with a therapist. He begged my mother to allow him bring my wife to therapy. He desired her participation. One year later, I have never fallen back into those patterns.

In fact, I'm now involved in assisting others who are experiencing similar issues. In actuality, I've cut myself apart from the friends with whom I was doing all of those horrible things. I'm not going to the club every Friday anymore. Every weekend, I now spend at home with my wife.

WHAT ARE THE LESSONS WE CAN TAKE AWAY FROM THIS STORY:

1. Parents, be cautious about who you allow to raise your child. The finest thing you can do is raise your child as much as possible personally. So you can enter any values you want to see in him or her.

2. Parents do not substitute job for family. When you retire, you may find that you have no family to return home.

3. Take an interest in your child's social circle. Good manners are corrupted and even killed by poor communication.

4. Seek help if you are currently smoking, consuming alcohol, or having several sexual partners. They will cut your life short and prematurely bury your purpose and destiny.

5. It is never too late to change, no matter how long you have been in any of these harmful habits, even if it has been more than ten years. It's better to start now than later. Allow the new life to begin.

6. Corps members, just because your parents are leaving you to serve in another state where their eyes are not on you, does not mean you should start leading an unsafe and reckless life. Consider your future. NYSC is a one-year program. The rest of your life awaits you after that. Serve your country responsibly and return to your parents in good health.

7. I believe the government should intervene in the NYSC scheme to protect young female corp members from becoming victims of circumstance, all in the name of uniting the nation and serving their fatherland. This is a national emergency situation.

END OF THE STORY

Thank you for taking the time to read this article. I hope you took away one or two personal lessons from it.