Have you ever wondered why you can remain calm and composed when you're outside, but still can't avoid getting angry with your parents when you come home?

Have you ever wondered why you can remain calm and composed when you're outside, but still can't avoid getting angry with your parents when you come home?

When you were young, every time your parents scolded you, you were afraid. As you grew up a little, when they criticized you without understanding, you felt disappointed. When you became strong enough to argue and defend your own lifestyle within the family, it was your parents who became disappointed. And when you reach old age and become frail, every time you raise your voice, your parents flinch in fear.

My older brother once shared about raising his daughter, saying that every time he accidentally got angry and scolded her, he would feel uneasy and afraid at night. Afraid that he had hurt his child. Afraid that his child would no longer feel safe and trust him.

Deep down, all hotheaded individuals hide a thought: they realize that every time they lose control and speak harshly to their loved ones, they unintentionally hurt themselves. The relationship between parents and children is similar in this regard. Beneath the love and filial piety, there is still a shadow of guilt.

When you're not yet mature and compare other families to your own, you may feel dissatisfied with your parents. But the truth is, there is no such thing as a perfect family in the world, and each individual is inherently flawed. Comparing the stage of another family to the backstage of your own is utterly meaningless.

Only when you stop blaming your parents for what you don't have can you feel contentment and make a change in your life. It is one of the most fundamental lessons in growing up.

In reality, very few people will treat you unconditionally and sincerely. If they do, it is also the result of years of investment in building a genuine and deep relationship with them. Otherwise, subconsciously, the essence of every relationship is an exchange of interests. Don't be surprised to realize that in society, people often interact with each other in a somewhat opportunistic manner.

However, the thing is, before you bring any benefits to your parents, since you were still a stubborn child, difficult to discipline, picky with food, ignorant... your parents have always given you their utmost care and sacrificed themselves so that you could grow up in a peaceful childhood.

"Children" are vulnerable beings. They cannot differentiate between things that bring great emotional satisfaction and things that, although uncomfortable, are truly necessary for them. No parent wants their child to think of them with the most joyful affection. But from the perspective of parents, they must also dare to sacrifice to remind you of necessary things, even if they are unpleasant.

Home is where you feel safest. There, you don't have to pretend for anyone. Therefore, at home, everyone is unguarded, and they don't worry about controlling themselves and getting angry. If it weren't for the lifelong protection your parents provided, your life would never experience the luxurious feeling of speaking loudly at home.

Try to treat your parents with kindness and patience. Otherwise, when your parents are no longer in this world, you will only then realize what true loneliness feels like. The kind words you haven't spoken will become a lingering sense of guilt that haunts you for many years.

At this age, I've learned that the closer someone is to you, the more you must put in effort and wholeheartedly give, even if it may seem odd. Don't do the opposite, don't try to impress strangers and save the ugly parts for your family.

Living in this world, I fear only that I won't treat those who have done me favors well enough, not trivial matters like deception, betrayal, or exploitation.