Flow

Resilience is built, over time. We are forced to be resilient in the face of things that feel soul crushing at times. Things happen that suck the life out of us and make us question everything we know or at least we thought we knew about ourselves. Because somewhere amongst these chaos is the only time we feel something and we humans would give up our lives to just “feel” something, anything. We catch ourselves spiralling at the hands of people we love, and even when we know that it's time to let them go their own way, we still hold on, raging a war inside and around us. We are addicted to the chaos , to the burning , to the heartache ,that we would much rather lose ourselves and everything we believe in than lose the only thing that makes us feel something. We all claim to love ourselves as this has become a social “trend” by now but if we actualy respected ourselves , we would give up almost all those things that we hold so dear in our lives . See, the thing is we dont always put the things that serve us at a high pedestal , mostly it's just the things that are similar or familiar to what we already had in our lives . Be it instability, chaos, inconsistency , if that's what we have had to encounter our whole lives, chances are that's exactly what we would continue to worship our whole lives too. But the real tragedy is not that we keep on idealizing toxicity , the real tragedy is not being able to differentiate between true admiration for something or just the addiction to familairity . The real targedy is never being able to recognise when and where we are biased, prejusiced and hell bent towards our own manifestations. Sometimes in life, a reality check is something that we have known for ages, something that we believe in our cores, and yet somehow manage to ignore because of our biases towards what we love. As humans, all we ever do in life is love. We love each other, we love ourselves, we love the expected outcomes, we love our addictions, we love almost everything and anything that makes us feel in control. Or even gives us the illusion of being in control. We often tend to forget that there is no such thing as control, there never was, such a thing never existed. We have no control over who exits and enters our lives, we have no control over our passions and desires, we might want to kill for something today and be unbothered by its existence tomorrow. This is the irony of being human, the pain that revolves around our own helplessness. We desire everything and nothing at the same time, most of our desires aren’t even our own, these are things that we think we want, but actually don’t.

Quoting Lao Tzu at the end “Life is a series of natural and spontaneous changes, don’t resist them, it only creates sorrow. Let reality be reality, let things flow naturally forward in whatever way they like.”

The spirit of taoism in itself kills the need to control, it kills the need to feel incharge of your life, it kills hold , it forces flow, it forces lettings things move in their direction. This doesn’t at all mean that you give up everything you believe in ,and sit and wait for things to happen to you. It applies to everything that is beyond our control and you are not going to like this one but in life,"most of the things are within our very hands, if and only if we take responsilibity for it". I suppose, in the end the whole of life is taking responsibiltiy for everything within your control i.e every occurence that happens inside of us, and foregoing control of everything that doesn't fall into our responsibility.