Every period of puberty is not easy, why are some children especially difficult?

5.31 Dinner.

The night before Children's Day, Tuesday.

I booked a restaurant, went to wait for a seat in advance, and waited for him to have dinner after school.

He came from afar wearing headphones.

-- "it's so grand, it can't be celebrating Children's Day!"

-- "now that you've said that, you have to be sure!"

At the age of the May 4th Movement, there is nothing wrong with keeping the Children's Day in your heart, as long as your childlike innocence lasts forever.

No matter what festival it is, it has already gone beyond the meaning of the festival itself.

In the simple and ordinary days, it becomes a support, a medium to express love for each other, so that the flow has a contact point to occur.

After dinner.

-- "Let's go and buy you a present."

-- "No, I'm getting old. Go home."

I covered my purse and wondered what I might be able to buy myself tomorrow with the money I saved.

What should I buy?!

On Freedom.

On the table was the express delivery that had just been picked up in the evening.

I saw at a glance that the father bought the book for his son a few days ago.

On Freedom by John Muller.

(received in time).

This is just the right time.

I'm not asked to buy a gift, but am I really such an empty-handed person?

(yes).

So:

"this is our spiritual gift to you."

-- "Oh, you're in a hurry."

.

If you see through it or not, your friends can do it.

Something I want to avoid.

After being quiet, the brain flashed through the things that I had deliberately avoided in the past two days for no reason.

A 12-year-old kid in the neighborhood next door.

Five days after that day, it was time for him to celebrate Children's Day.

But he didn't wait until this day.

I can't imagine how the family spent these long nights.

The mood is a little depressed, but also very complicated.

In order to divert attention, I turned on my cell phone.

Online, I saw two familiar mothers leave me messages to share how they spent the night with their children.

One wrote a letter to the child, sending him a pair of shoes that he had kept in the shopping cart.

The other one made a table full of delicious food for the child and sent a group photo of eating with the child.

In the mother's heart, the 15-or 16-year-old girl, the big boy and the big boy, is still the child.

The Children's Day in youth is no longer International Children's Day.

But still can't help but take the child to heart.

A few months ago, they also had swords and swords.

Now often, they are still noisy.

But everything is getting better and better, and that's good.

See what you already have.

Let go of some control, some obsession.

Stop thinking about who you have to win.

Cherish what you have at the moment.

Puberty is not easy for every child.

Puberty is not easy for every child.

Those children who make it through smoothly do not mean that they have not encountered difficulties.

There are many conflicts, contradictions and confusion that should exist at this age.

This is what growing up looks like.

But why do children in the bloodshed seem particularly difficult in similar situations?

The biggest difference is--.

Understand yourself.

Self-understanding is not a ready-made answer given by parents, not an empty truth, not hanging high on a tree longing for unreachable fruit.

Self-understanding is based on self-acceptance.

Self-acceptance is based on the unconditional acceptance of important others around you, such as parents.

Children who embark on the path of self-understanding are better able to deal with internal conflicts.

For example, he also wants to play games, and he can understand his own needs instead of arbitrarily attacking and denying them.

At the same time, he also knows that he needs to learn, and tries to find a balance between play and learning.

It doesn't matter whether it's perfect or not, what matters is the process of thinking and constantly optimizing.

1016 growth mailbox.

However, self-understanding is not easy for teenagers.

I am not as intimate with my parents as I was when I was a child, and even fell into a delicate struggle for power.

The confusion of their peers often prevents them from getting higher spiritual supplies from their friends.

Those who are lonely, confused, confused, struggling, contradictory, uneasy, and angry have become problems that adolescent children find it difficult to speak up and have to face.

On April 17th, I posted a circle of friends after reading the "1016 growth mailbox".

Recently, they still receive feedback one after another, and those who have read this set of books to their children have given very good comments.

Suitable for 10-year-old Murray 16-year-old children.

A set of five.

(I took it under the lamp, it's a little reflective.).

The contents are: "it's nice to have friends", "what to do if you can't learn", "what do your parents think?"the body can be more comfortable", "the psychological world is amazing".

Each book has 10 core topics.

A full set of 50 topics that adolescent children are most common and concerned about.

(every topic is good.).

These topics cover five major topics: social interaction, learning, physical and gender, family relationships, and mental health.

As the mother of an adolescent, the most intuitive feeling I have seen is:

1. The topic is particularly relevant to adolescent children, which is the re-restoration of their real life scenes.

2. the form of popular science cartoons, with fewer words and more pictures, has a good painting style and can be read on.

3. They are all languages that children can understand, without difficult technical terms, but skillfully convey professionalism.

4. I can sympathize with the feelings of the child very much. After reading it, I also have the feeling of being seen and held.

5. There is no great truth, but every topic has a sentence that touches the finishing touch, hitting the essence.

7. Judging from the reading materials I have come into contact with in the past, it is either too theoretical or mostly for parents. It is very difficult to find a set of psychological science popularization suitable for most adolescent children.

(back cover, still reflective).

Those who really become an adult before the confusion and helplessness, open it, may be able to find the answer.

As summer vacation is approaching, it is worthwhile to create more possibilities for self-understanding for children.

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