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Don't let emotional intelligence ruin your child

by Copperchaleu 2 months ago in advice
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These low emotional intelligence performance, parents need to stop early

To get a foothold in the future society, you need not only solid basic skills, but also sufficient emotional intelligence. A person's success requires 80% of emotional intelligence and 20% of intellectual intelligence. As you can see, between emotional intelligence and intellectual intelligence, the former is more important.

This said, many parents are still a little unclear, mainly because they do not know much about emotional intelligence. In the older generation's thinking: emotional intelligence, is the performance of the treatment of people. If a child is cheerful, especially good at talking and doing things, that is typically a high emotional intelligence.

This view is not wrong, just not comprehensive. The so-called emotional intelligence includes many aspects: not only having a clear understanding of themselves but also being able to effectively control their emotions and recognize the emotions of others. At the same time, it can also do self-motivation, as well as deal with mutual relationships and many other aspects.

It is no exaggeration to say: people with high emotional intelligence have almost no flaws, no matter what they do or say, they can reveal wisdom from the inside out. The most important thing is that it is particularly comfortable to get along with such people, without feeling oppressed or inferior.

You know, once you have super high emotional intelligence, even if you are not very smart, still have a very bright future. It is for this reason that parents are desperate to bring out their inner potential and bring out all the emotional intelligence in their children when they are raising them.

Little do they know that the emotional intelligence of their children is hidden in their daily lives. Many inadvertent actions expose the child's emotional intelligence. The sad thing is that they have already sent out signals of low emotional intelligence, but parents do not pick up on them, so they miss the best time to teach.

These low emotional intelligence performances of the child, parents are aware of?

1, no manners, the nest horizontal

Upbringing is engraved in the bones, but many children from childhood show no manners. They do not treat their parents and elders with respect and even will speak out of turn, with no tutoring at all. Imagine: to treat even their closest parents and family members like this is a complete sign of a lack of gratitude.

The most amazing thing is that these children are one way at home and another way outside. It is hard to imagine that these children in the nest, out of the house will be so timid and cowardly.


2、Visiting other people's homes, random rummaging

The children who are familiar with themselves, in the end, good or bad? Parents always feel cheerful and able to quickly adapt to unfamiliar environments, which should be a good thing. But everything must pay attention to the boundaries, if you take your child to someone else's home as a guest, as in their own home randomly rummaging, how can such behavior be acceptable?

Seemingly lively personality, but the behavior is completely low emotional intelligence performance. Without the permission of others, randomly touching other people's things, really can only be described as uneducated.

3, shirking responsibility, often complaining about the sky

As long as bad things happen, they will find ways to excuse themselves and pass the buck to others. Many older people think that this is a sign that the child is smart and that they are very intelligent. I just want to say: children who are not even afraid to take responsibility will grow up to be much better.

Habitually complaining and always living in a negative mood is extremely detrimental to a child's physical and mental development. When things happen, they complain, but never look for the reasons themselves.

If you find these behavioral manifestations in your child, parents need to provide vigilance and help them re-correct. You know, no matter which behavior is inside, it is very difficult to get the likes and appreciation of others, and directly break the road of socialization.

In the future, these ungrateful, uncouth, and uneducated children will eventually pay for their behavior. Either they spend their lives in mediocrity, or they don't even have friends ...... In short, it's hard to make a big difference, and they are doomed to a lifetime of futility.

How do cultivate the emotional intelligence of children? This is what parents are more concerned about the focus

It's simple, be enlightened and know how to be "lazy" parents. In life, use more encouragement to teach children to learn to be self-reliant and can live alone. In the process of learning to be independent, the child will extend more good habits, such as persistence, courage, etc.

Be sure to teach your child manners, which is the most basic ability to deal with people in the world. Polite people will be able to gain the likes and respect of others and get more recognition. Politeness is not just saying "I'm sorry" or "thank you", but always being grateful.

And then there is, while children are young, take them to more social contact, experience more of the storms of life. The external environment will give children different perceptions, as if opening their "Pandora's box" general, will stimulate infinite kinds of potential. Experience more, children will unconsciously mature, and emotional intelligence also slowly improves.

In the end: emotional intelligence determines how far a child can go in the future; intelligence determines the height of the child's future. Most of the time, parents and children should get along with each other like friends and confidants. Find each other's shortcomings, honestly tell each other, and help each other to correct each other.


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