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Control your anger before it controls you

Anger is a natural response to perceived unfairness or provocation.

By Julie Jerlin JPublished about a year ago 5 min read

Anger is a normal emotion. It’s part of our survival instinct, and it can help us protect ourselves from danger. But when we let anger control us, it can become a destructive force that destroys relationships and our lives. In this article, you will learn how to control your anger.

Anger is a natural response to perceived unfairness or provocation. When we feel angry, it’s usually because we believe our needs have been ignored or someone has crossed us somehow.

Unfortunately, the tendency to lash out at others in response to perceived slights and wrongs can be hardwired into our brains from birth. And this makes sense after all, our survival depends on being able to protect ourselves from physical harm while still appearing as though we’re not threatening anyone else’s safety.

So how do you control your anger? That depends on what kind of anger you have. Do you get angry at small things that don’t matter much (like spilling milk on the floor) or big things that really matter (like the guy who won’t stop texting)? Do you get angry at your spouse or child? Or may be at someone else entirely (like the kid in the class who smiles at everyone but you).

Anger in kids

Children learn to express anger through facial expressions, tone of voice and body language. They also learn how to control their anger by using physical aggression against others or themselves.

When children are repeatedly exposed to angry behavior, they may start expressing their anger out of frustration or boredom as opposed to being honest about their feelings or situations.

They may also become aggressive or violent when they don’t get what they want. It can lead to being labeled as being “aggressive” or “violent.” This can cause children to feel ashamed of themselves and lose confidence in their ability to relate with others correctly.

Anger management techniques can be used to help children and adults learn how to express their feelings appropriately. This can involve learning how to identify what makes someone angry, as well as ways to avoid situations where anger may be expressed inappropriately.

How to control your anger

Expressing your feelings: Tell someone how you’re feeling without blaming them for causing the problem. This will allow you not only to express your feelings but also gain insight into why you feel the way you do so that you can make better choices in the future.

Identifying triggers: Identifying triggers is important because it allows you to prepare for situations that may make you angry. You can also work to develop strategies to avoid the situation or manage your feelings when they occur. For example, if you know that certain types of people tend to make you feel angry, plan activities that keep you away from them (such as avoiding certain friends who always seem to get into arguments). If you know that an event will trigger your anger, plan for it.

For example, if you know that driving in heavy traffic makes you feel angry, leave earlier than usual or go on a different route at those times. If you find yourself becoming angry, try to relax. Take a few deep breaths or do some mild exercise. If possible, leave the situation or remove yourself from it until you feel calm again.

The first step in controlling your anger is recognizing it when it happens. Once you recognize the signs of an impending outburst, take a deep breath and count to 10 before responding. This will allow time for your brain to calm down so that you can think rationally about the situation and what needs to be done next. If you let your emotions run wild, there’s no telling how far they will take you!

Signs of Anger

Here are some common signs of anger:

  • Stomping on the floor
  • Pacing back and forth
  • Yelling at people in an aggressive tone of voice
  • Throwing things around or breaking things.
  • Shaking your fists or stamping your feet
  • Slamming doors and drawers
  • Being sarcastic or cutting people off when they talk

Causes behind anger and ways to control your anger

Anger can be caused by a number of reasons and emotions, such as:

Emotional distress: A person’s emotional state may be so intense that it manifests in anger and frustration. For example, if a child is frustrated by a situation or someone else’s behavior, she may react angrily. Negative thoughts about yourself or others

Physical pain: The intensity of physical pain can cause an individual to react strongly to the situation. A person experiencing severe physical pain may lash out at those around him or her because the emotional pain is too much to bear.

Loss of control: Sometimes people lose control over their emotions when they are in situations where they feel powerless or hopeless. They do not have any other options but to act out their emotions in order to regain control over their lives.

Stress: Stressful events can trigger strong emotional responses from people who experience chronic stressors such as job loss, relationship problems and financial hardships. When these stressful events occur repeatedly over time, they can lead to an increase in aggressive behavior and other forms of destructive behavior like substance abuse or domestic violence. Frustration with your environment or circumstances

Conclusion

Anger is a natural emotion that we feel when we are faced with a certain situation. It is a feeling of strong negative feelings towards someone or something. It can be directed at someone or something that has hurt us in some way, such as our family, friends, or even an organization.

Anger can also be directed at ourselves and our own actions. We can become angry with ourselves for not being able to control our emotions in the same way that we would like to. We may feel guilty about having these strong emotions and not being able to control them. It is better for you to control your temper than let it control you. Some people have been taught that anger is bad and should be controlled at all costs. They think it will make them look weak if they show any signs of anger or frustration towards others. This is not true! Life will be peaceful only when you control your anger.

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