Child with social difficulties?

Conflict control refers to the cognitive system that mobilizes resources to resolve conflicts and complete tasks when irrelevant information conflicts with relevant information when individuals are performing tasks in their environment.

Some studies have shown that conflict control ability is related to social behavior, i.e., the poorer the conflict control ability of an individual, the more serious the social behavior problem is.

Faced with a complex and changing social environment full of conflicting information, individuals need to initiate cognitive regulation in time to correctly perceive the current situation and make judgments.

Children with autism have abnormalities in conflict control. Compared to normal children, children with autism need a longer time to react, and children with autism have a lower correct rate of conflict response when faced with different information than normal children, and this can contribute to some extent to the anxiety response of children with autism. Therefore, parents need to provide positive guidance and training to their children.

Family training diary.

Today, mom and dad took Xiaobo out to play in the sand and met a little girl. She wanted to stand on a pile of dirt and jump down, but there were some toys on the pile that the little girl had set up, so the little girl did not let her get on or move.

Later, Xiao Bao also felt that this little girl is very unfriendly, she pushed her toys down, and then the little girl is going to hit Xiao Bao, and then the father immediately went to hold Xiao Bao over.

On the way back, Xiaobao met two classmates, those two students called Xiaobao's name, but Xiaobao also did not respond, the mother felt that the possibility of having Xiaobao also greeted is not very likely, so they did not care.

Dad of Desai said.

1. In the material, Xiaobao and the little girl had a conflict, the little girl wanted to stop Xiaobao from destroying her toys, and although the approach was a bit problematic, Xiaobao still pushed the little girl's toys down behind her, here Xiaobao was not able to make a correct judgment in time.

It can be seen that Xiaobo's conflict control ability is poor. Even though he got feedback on his behavior, he still failed to understand the little girl's emotional behavior and still insisted on his wrong behavior.

2. In the material, Xiaobo did not react to the greeting from her classmates, but the parents acquiesced to this behavior of the child. As a parent, you cannot give up every opportunity to train your child's social skills in life. Parents should have confidence in themselves and should guide their children. Take advantage of every opportunity in life and your child will always make progress.

3. Parents should guide their children when they are in conflict or about to conflict with other children, teach them what to do and say in such situations, and teach them to deal with the problems that arise in the social process.

At the same time, it is clear from the material that Bao's judgment is not sufficient, and he ignores the little girl's expression of anger. It has also been found that individuals with autism have longer reaction times to face conflicts than ordinary individuals, which means that individuals with autism need longer time to make conflict transitions and thus make judgments.

Our recommendations.

1. Improve cognitive skills Solve real-world problems

Since impulse control is correlated with a child's cognitive abilities, parents need to incorporate cognitive exercises into their child's rehabilitation to improve the child's ability to filter information around him or her.

Parents can train their children by pairing pictures with words and actions with pictures. Parents can also play scenario-based games with their children to simulate problems that may arise in the environment and teach them how to solve these problems through demonstrations.

2. Parental attention and timely guidance

Parents should pay attention to the problems of their children's social behavior and provide timely guidance when the child has behavioral problems. Parents should have hope for their children and not always subjectively assume that their children are not capable.

Most children with autism are just not interested in people, it does not mean that the child is not capable of this at all. In every social interaction of the child, the child will grow.

As a parent, you should guide your child to socialize with other people, let your child experience the different emotions that arise when socializing with people and encourage your child to interact with others more often to exercise and improve your child's social skills and promote your child's socialization development

3. Improve the correct rate of conflict response

As pointed out earlier, the correct rate of conflict response is related to the child's anxiety level, so what should parents do to reduce the correct rate of conflict response?

Parents take their children to watch relevant movies and cartoons to help them learn the correct social behavior inside, to help them make correct judgments and responses when faced with more complex social situations, to help them gain a sense of victory in social success, thus increasing their desire to socialize with others and improving their social skills.