Being a Parent of Two at Twenty-Two
The ups and downs of having kids at an early age.
I am a pretty cliche person. I always dreamt of having a family, a nice little home, and our own puppy. I guess the only difference that I would have compared to others is that I wanted to have a family at an early age. It was my goal to have my children before I hit 21. Which is pretty crazy cause shit, who has their life together at 21? As you can guess from the title of this article I achieved my childhood dream. Wild right?
Having my kids is one of the best things that could have happened to me. I know this is what every parent says, and they don't mean it, but trust me I mean it. No, really I do. Okay fine, don't believe me. I say this because they truly did come at the perfect time for me. I was going through really hard times when I met my wife. I was giving up on life, and I was starting to lose hope for anything good to ever happen to me. No I was not suicidal or anything like that, but honestly I wasn't scared of death. I felt like if it came I wouldn't even mind it, or have anything to lose. When I met my wife it changed my way to look at everything. It made me want to better myself, and do something with my life. When she got pregnant it made me feel like I was worth something in life. It made me feel like I had a purpose in life.
Seeing your children happy is one of the greatest feelings you can have. I love seeing my children happy. Seeing them smile with the simplest things is really heart-warming. Teaching them new things, and them learning them gives you a sense of accomplishment. They become a reflection of you. Im not going to lie, it is hard having children at such a young age. You have to give up a lot when you have kids. You really can't be selfish with your time when you have kids. I basically never have time anymore to do things that I used to love to do. I no longer have much time to play video games, draw, play sports, or things like that. I don't really mind it, sometimes I do miss me time though. I know that one day I will have time to do everything, because they are going to grow, and they are going to want to partake in the activities that I enjoy doing.
Having children at an early age isn't for everyone. For me it was a perfect fit, because I love staying home and doing nothing either way. I was never a go to the club type of person. I never really went to parties. I am a really boring person, so dedicating my life to my kids wasn't hard for me at all. I do know how to have fun, I'm just not into wild things or getting wasted to have a good time. Im the type of person that would rather hang out with a couple good friends have a drink and eat, instead of going to a huge party and just get wasted with a bunch of strangers. To each his own right? I guess Im different in that sense.
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