As children grow up, why is it increasingly difficult for parents to communicate with their children?

A survey of 20,870 elementary and middle school students showed that only 26.73% of them said that the person they most wanted to tell when they had something on their mind was their parents, and this percentage showed a gradual decline as the children grew older.

Sometimes parents find it harder and harder to communicate with their children as they grow older. Why is this?

If you and your child are always having communication problems, ineffective communication, or simply don't know how to communicate, then it's time to reflect on whether we are making the following mistakes.

1, like to interrupt the child to talk

Don't always interrupt your child, criticism, accusations, or suggestions can disrupt your child's thoughts and discourage them from continuing to speak.

We should give the right to speak back to the child, just as we expect children to speak when they are young, we should expect him to think through to say more ideas so that the child can have an independent mind, he will not blindly follow the views of others. With the right to speak independently, the child's mind will no longer be bound, and I believe he will also enjoy it.

We should encourage our children to speak freely, but be careful not to say empty words when making their statements. At home you can feel free, outside or logical, with content, so that his speech will receive the respect of others, do not interrupt your child when he speaks.

2, too strong

Generally speaking, if the family has a very strong mother or father, then the child will be less bold, the behavior will also be more retreat, and they are afraid to speak with their parents, so children are afraid to approach.

So what needs to be improved must be the parents' emotional problems, parents must stop treating their children with forcefulness and irritability, give respect to their children, to properly let their children have the right to choose and decide, rather than the parents to do.

The child will only cry at school when conflicts occur, will not speak to the teacher, and will not raise their hands in class, so some behavior, the child back, parents must go to understand the child, rather than up to the child a reprimand, "how so stupid, how so useless? You don't know how to say it? You can't fight back!" Wait, such a reprimand is useless.

You should know that the child's behavior pattern is the interaction between the parents and the child, the child has been accustomed to the interaction pattern, and he has no power and no way to jump out. This lack of power and method is caused by their parents' coercion of him, so the source should be changed first.

3. Taking care of everything for your child

When every parent does everything for their child, they don't realize that they are raising a giant baby.

It's just that most parents don't realize how important it is to teach their children to be independent, and they still do everything for their children in the name of love, and foolishly say, "Don't worry about anything else, you just have to study well," and think that "children grow up and become independent. The child will naturally become independent" ......

We can't stay with our children for the rest of their lives, so even if we love them more, we have to teach them how to take care of themselves and teach them the basic skills to survive.

Finally, I would like to remind everyone: parents are the best role models for their children, and to make their words convincing to their children, we parents need to do well for ourselves first.

As the most important people around our children, parents naturally become the easiest objects for them to imitate. This means that the kind of child you want to raise, the parents must first become that kind of person.