As we all know, the child's character is born, before the age of three is mostly living on instinct, parents want a well-behaved and lovely baby, then we have to pay a lot of time and effort to guide the change. However, many times the child's nature is hidden, and most parents have a certain "shortsightedness" in education, easy to take the advantages as shortcomings.
Nowadays, society is very competitive, and everyone wants a smart and well-behaved child, and wants to "plan far-reaching" through the child's nature, so parents should understand one thing: "A good child may not be brilliant, but a difficult child is smart!"
This sounds contradictory, but it speaks in advance of the detours parents will encounter on the road to parenting, and may even affect the child's future. Today, let's listen to what people say, the reason is very scientific.
Why is it difficult for children who are well brought up to be successful?
If we talk about good children, my parents probably have the most right to speak, just because I was the most obedient and well-behaved child in the compound when I was a child, who adults seem to say with envy "your daughter can be too good". As the "dark cloud" that always hangs over the heads of the children in the compound, I grew up and did not have much success, especially after entering society, whether it is work or income, are not as comfortable as the hair of the children who lived.
And all this status quo, but because I grew up with too much "obedience".
From the time I learned to walk, I learned not to go to dangerous places, not to talk to strangers, to think twice before opening my mouth, and not to have conflicts with my friends. If these are still within the normal range, then the next "don't make your parents angry, don't lose your temper, give in to your brother, learn to change places mentally, think of others" and so on, became a trap to bind my character, and developed my cautious and over-cautious character.
To put it bluntly, most children who are well brought up are those who are overly bound. From birth, the child's character comes with animal instincts, if very "good with", it means that the child's character is overly well-behaved, lack self, no personality, this person will not grow up to achieve great success, because used to be submissive, easy to be bullied.
A child who is difficult to bring up must be smart.
From the moment my son Lele was born, he was judged by the doctor to be a highly sensitive baby, which meant he would be very difficult to bring up.
This was true later on, as he was more destructive than other babies from the time he was a baby, and by the time he was two years old, he was a disaster, with a burgeoning sense of self and an extreme ego that made him the only one in the world. After entering kindergarten is also the same, the teacher mentioned that he had a brain ache, if not for his small mouth is particularly sweet, after trouble can always please people, I am afraid that early to be expelled from the school.
Later, when I went to elementary school, I told the class teacher about this, I did not expect him to wave his hand and said directly that this child has a promising future, is a smart child, and you do not stop.
It turns out that the child's strong sense of self is a reflection of personality, and grow up to be more unique.
Instead of disobedience, children are more independent and assertive, and will not easily change their will, energetic to be curious about the outside world, and curiosity is the cornerstone of success. Therefore, parents should not be anxious when they meet a child who is difficult to bring up, they just need to guide them in time and give them maximum freedom within a reasonable range.
Finally, which type of child does your child belong to? Be sure to pay attention to grasp the proportion, so as not to be too late oh.
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