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10 tips in RAISING a CHILD

by Jiska Stuij about a year ago in children

For which they will say THANK YOU in a few years.

10 tips in RAISING a CHILD
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The perfect way of raising a child simply does not exist. You know how you want it, but sometimes you run out of patience and let yourself go. It happens to us all, only you want to give your child a decent education, for which he or she is grateful later on.

You don't want to become such a frustrated mother, who does everything to mold the perfect child. Perfection does not exist and you want to have a bit of a life yourself. When you first become a mother, you end up in a rollercoaster of uncertainties, emotions and questions. These tips will help you keep calm and send a decent child into the world, which will help your kids later!

1. Peace, cleanliness, regularity

"Phew, Grandma is coming again," I hear you think. Yet these three magical words are crucial in an education. You don't want a tired, exhausted child. Children do not become nicer people because of exhaustion. A child benefits from a good, stable night's sleep, a hygienic environment and a safe home.

2. Stop comparing

What other moms do will make you feel worse. Your maternal instinct helps you through the upbringing process. And that mother X of the schoolyard always looks top-notch and also has a child who always says "yes sir", "no madam" and "thank you", that's just the case. You do it your way, period.

3. Raising a child is simply not easy

We are not taught about it at school. We look at our parents, but we don't always agree with them. And nothing is as unpredictable as motherhood. So yes, that doesn't always make it easy. You know that, so let it go.

4. Be consistent

The most difficult thing there is, but it is still worth a try! So take a bite, because children really know how to play a game.

5. Give your child a sense of responsibility

Have them tidy up their toys, have them set the table, and ask if they can make their bed. By inculcating this early on, they will develop a sense of responsibility. In any case, you will not be standing in an exploded student room with empty pizza boxes and fallen beer bottles. Or well, let's just imagine for now that we are in a fresh-smelling, tidy room. All in all: make sure you appreciate their effort, even if they don't always do well. The effort they put in is often enough. Otherwise you will lean too much on perfectionism. And you don't want that.

6. Let them do it themselves

And so let them make mistakes. You cannot tell them everything and because they have to find a solution themselves, they learn to act in such situations. Did he/she not learn for a test because you didn’t pushed them? Too bad, they only pass once. They will learn next time. Their self-discipline is also put to the test.

7. Take the day as it comes

There you are, sitting with a screaming child in front of you who does not want to put on his shoes. You are in a hurry and all you want now is for him/her to listen. Go, child in the car (without shoes, because who cares) and to your appointment. Turns out the traffic lights are also on red. You can cry. Get over it and accept the moment. Tomorrow is another day. Life just goes like this.

8. Relax

Making yourself so comfortable (read: not letting the stress of motherhood dominate) makes you a lot more relaxed. In most cases, no one is bothered by the stressful situation except you. Take the fact that your newborn baby has a huge poo diaper. There appears to be no changing table, so you crawl down on the floor of a toilet with your shoulders tense. Chill honey, no one sees you there and no one bothers you. It happens to every mother, so you better stay calm. And when you radiate peace, your child will automatically do the same. It's quite easy to raise a kid.

9. Have your child do what he or she is good at

Does your child seem to have a huge talent for dance? Do not put him or her on tennis, because you like to play tennis. Does your child like to draw? Then see if there is a special course with which he can develop his talents even more. You are not supposed to ignore talents, but stimulate them! A child who does something he likes is a happy child.

10. Teach them to be optimistic

Even though you may be the grumpy cat every now and then, it's important to teach them to appreciate the positive things. Be realistic, because of course life is not always rosy.

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