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New students to kindergarten, parents can not do the 5 "small action"!

Kindergarten

By Aydelott MassarelliPublished about a year ago 6 min read
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New students to kindergarten, parents can not do the 5 "small action"!
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Parents should not do these 5 "small actions" when new students enter kindergarten

When a baby reaches kindergarten age, parents always take care of the baby's food and live at home, but in kindergarten, the baby has to learn to take care of himself. Many parents worry that their babies do not adapt to kindergarten, so they will unconsciously do some "small actions", but these small actions will not ease the baby's discomfort in kindergarten, but will increase the baby's anxiety in kindergarten, parents see if you have such small actions?

01. Peeking outside the classroom

After parents send their babies to kindergarten, they do not feel comfortable peeking outside the classroom, worrying that the teacher will not take good care of them, worrying that their children will be left alone, bullied, or not used to kindergarten life. Although parents' worries are out of love for their children, parents who are unsure about such things show their distrust of kindergartens.

If the baby finds such a small action of the parents, the baby will be psychologically implied that even the mother is not at ease with the kindergarten, thus reinforcing the misconception that he/she is not happy in the kindergarten. Babies are already resistant to kindergarten, and if parents show these distrustful attitudes in their words and actions, it will be more difficult for them to devote themselves to kindergarten life. Therefore, parents should try not to say anything bad about the kindergarten or the teacher in front of their babies, and they should tell their babies more about what happened in the kindergarten to help them recall the interesting things in the kindergarten.

02. Ask the teacher to take good care of your baby

When the baby is going to kindergarten, parents are very worried that the baby will not have enough to eat in kindergarten or will be bullied by other children, so they always tell the teacher to take good care of their baby when they hand him/her over to the teacher. Although parents' love for their children is understandable, if every parent asks the teacher to take special care of their baby, it is inevitably a bit contrary to the original purpose of entering kindergarten. The purpose of entering kindergarten is to learn how to make friends, get along with different people, and take care of themselves in a strange environment. The teacher's role is not to be a babysitter, but to guide the baby in this new environment, coordinate the relationship between the children, and teach them to take care of themselves. If the teacher treats the children unfairly, or even privileged, this will give the baby a bad example, on the one hand, and on the other hand, the baby may become arrogant and self-centered, which is not conducive to interaction among children, and even "ostracized" by other children.

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03. Leaving kindergarten secretly

When you send your baby to kindergarten, your baby will inevitably have separation anxiety when the parents have to leave, always crying and not letting mommy go, but the parents have to rush to work, so they have to leave secretly when the baby is not paying attention. This is a very undesirable practice for parents. At first, the baby is still talking and laughing with his parents, but in the blink of an eye, he finds that his parents have left without saying a word, and the baby's heart is not only a huge gap but also a fear of being abandoned, thinking that his parents don't love him anymore and will leave him at the kindergarten. It is because the parents do not say a formal goodbye or give any explanation to the baby, so the baby will cry even more and he will not want to go to kindergarten next time. Therefore, parents need to part with their baby properly before leaving. Explain clearly to your baby that you have to go to work and promise him that you will come back to pick him up at the end of the school day. The most important thing parents should do is to calm their baby and let him know that they are not abandoning him, you just have to separate from him for some time because of work. Try to let your baby understand your reasons and encourage him to face the temporary separation like a "little adult". Kiss your baby and let him feel that you love him and respect him fully so that he can easily accept your departure and wait for you to come back to pick him up at the kindergarten.

04. Help your baby to occupy the toys

Some parents want their babies to be happy in kindergarten, so they sometimes help their babies take over the toys that they want to play with. This kind of parental protectionism, although said to prevent the child from being aggrieved, is based on the aggression of other children. And this behavior of parents is a bad model, the baby will feel that as long as they like, we have to do whatever it takes to possess it, so the baby will easily become domineering, and selfish. Therefore, so that children can play happily with toys while harvesting friendship and improving interpersonal relationships, the best way is to let babies learn to share. Parents should pay attention to cultivating the baby's sense of sharing in general, invite other children to their homes to play, and suggest that children exchange toys so that babies know how to share their toys, that they can harvest more toys and enjoy more fun. Parents can also encourage their babies to boldly join the play circle of others, when others are playing with toys, if they want to participate, they will boldly express their wishes, hoping to become friends with them and play together. Parents' encouragement and guidance will enable babies to excel in interpersonal communication when they grow up through the practical exercise of making friends in kindergarten.

05. Too soft-hearted

When your baby cries and refuses to go to kindergarten, your mother's heart is broken when you see your baby's snotty face, so maybe you should promise your baby that you won't send him to kindergarten today. Mom is doing it wrong! If the baby tastes the sweetness once, he or she will be more aggressive next time. The mother's softness and indulgence will only give the baby more opportunities to avoid going to kindergarten, so the baby will easily develop the habit of dependence and avoiding difficulties. Therefore, parents should be principled and consistent in educating their babies, and should not lose their principles and be too accommodating to their children because they spoil and pamper them too much. It's a good idea to make your child feel that his or her parents are doing what they say they're going to do and that they're not allowed to do so so that the baby knows that no matter how he or she plays, they can't shake Mom and Dad's attitude, so that they can establish their authority, and it's easier to "manage" your baby. In addition, parents should communicate with their babies to understand why they don't like going to kindergarten, as long as they understand the situation and solve the problem in the right way, they can let their babies enjoy group life.

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Aydelott Massarelli

I'm selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can't handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don't deserve me at my best.

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