Money can't make up for a child's missed education

Many years ago, every time the brother of the coat came back from a commercial performance, he had to go to school to give his son pocket money.

Once, across the fence of the school playground, Brother Coat handed his son 20 yuan.

Brother Coat said to his son, "Little Wei, I'll give you 20 yuan, you have to spend it slowly, don't spend it all at once."

Just before he was about to leave, Brother Coat was worried that the pocket money was not enough, so he gave an extra 5 yuan.

Brother Coat urged his son, "Little Wei, the pocket money is all for you, you and your sister go buy delicious food."

Every time his father took the initiative to give him pocket money, Xiaowei thought to himself, "Dad makes money too easily, I have to spend it hard to do so.

From then on, Xiaowei asked his mother for pocket money every day, and if he didn't give it, he wouldn't go to school.

The more pocket money he gave, the worse Wei's grades were getting, not only that, but Wei also learned to smoke, drink, fight, be truant, absenteeism, the bottom of the class.

As the saying goes: money is the easiest way to pollute a child's mind.

To improve the performance of their son, the coat brother tried to spend money to hire the best teachers to tutor alone, but no effect at all.

It was not until his son dropped out of school at the age of 14 that Brother Da Yi suddenly understood: if you miss your child's education, you can't make up for it even if you spend more money.

After Brother Da Yi became famous, he often ran around the country, staying at home for less than a month a year, and spending even less time with his wife and children.

Brother Coat earned a lot of money by singing, and his living conditions changed dramatically.

The living conditions provided by Brother Da Yi to his children are estimated to be much better than those of children in big cities, and he often gives them a lot of pocket money.

Once, before going out for commercial performance, Brother Da Yi went to his son's school to deliver money again.

Across the fence of the school playground, Brother Coat directly pulled out 20 yuan, he said to his son, "Xiao Wei, give you 20 yuan, you have to spend it slowly, not all at once ha!"

Seeing the money, Xiaowei's eyes glowing green, from his father's hand after receiving 20 yuan, Xiaowei silent.

Just gave 20, the coat brother afraid to give less, so give more 5, the coat brother urged his son: "Xiaowei, zero are given to you, your sister spend together, buy some good food, to listen to the teacher, to go to school, or next time back not to give pocket money."

Since then, Xiaowei has developed a habit: every day at school, he has to ask his mother for pocket money, otherwise, he will not go to school.

When Brother Coat was not at home, his son Xiao Wei liked to stay in bed, and even if he got up, he never went to school on time, and he was more than half an hour late every day.

Early in the morning, his sister-in-law woke up Xiao Wei, who was lying in bed without brushing his teeth, and yelled at her directly: "Mom, hurry up and give me pocket money."

The wife asked her son, "Xiaowei, didn't your father just give you a few dozen dollars of pocket money, why do you want it again?"

Xiao Wei pouted, and with an unhappy face he said, "I don't care, I want it, if you don't give it, I won't go to school today."

Seeing his mother's indifference, Xiaowei tried to use the "agitation" method, he cried and cried, and then began to scold his mother, saying the most unpleasant things to her.

Once, the coat brother just came across his son cursing his sister-in-law, without saying a word, he raised his hand to slap Xiaowei.

He just dodged the situation, and in front of Brother Coat, Little Wei cried out.

Seeing his son crying, the coat brother had some heartache, after retracting the slap, the coat brother began to coax his son: "Little Wei, you are not allowed to cry, or next time do not give pocket money."

Knowing that his father was soft-hearted, Xiaowei deliberately stood in place and talked back to his father: "I'll cry, I'll cry, what do you care?"

After learning Xiao Wei's stubbornness, Brother Coat thought to himself: Hey, the little brat has learned to talk back, I have to fix him today.

Take off your shoes, roll up your sleeves, take Xiaowei's arm, and throw Xiaowei into the pool.

When he saw that his son was being disciplined, he began to complain about his daughter-in-law.

Yuhua, you are at home to control the child for nothing, I would rather I was at home and let you go out to earn money, I am the main outside, how can I still be the main inside?

In the opinion of Brother Da Yi, his son does not listen, it is the daughter-in-law's poor discipline. Because of their son's education, the couple often gets into trouble.

The wife is a rural woman who is not educated and does not know how to educate children, and she only cares about the two children "eating well and wearing warmth".

Although the family's standard of living has improved, the money has made him miss the best time to educate his children.

When his 14-year-old son and 15-year-old daughter dropped out of school, Brother Da Yi suddenly understood that parents who only spend money on their children do not have time to educate and grow up with their children, and they can never raise children who will be successful.

In a program, host Martin asked Brother Da Yi: "The two children do not go to school, and the father is not around and has no relationship?"

Brother Da Yi said, "There must be ah, I'm not at home, the two children do not even want to eat a meal, they eat a spicy bar, eat a ham sausage, eat an instant noodle."

Without their father's supervision, the two children did not even eat their meals, instead, they ate some spicy food, ham sausage, instant noodles, and other junk food, plus it was not easy to live a good life.

From then on, the weight of the two children began to soar, not only that, but son Xiao Wei also thought of skipping school every day, staying at home to sleep, watching TV, play games.

To prevent his son from playing games all night long, the coat brother also installed a special total electric switch, as long as the son does not go to school, the coat sister-in-law will directly pull the electric switch, and the power him choke off.

The father sang a song, you can earn a lot of money, the two children themselves have no interest in learning, and they soon had the idea of dropping out of school.

Although Brother Da Yi often advised his son to go to school properly and to listen to his teachers at school, his sister-in-law still complained to Brother Da Yi: "My son didn't go to school again today."

Brother Coat was so helpless that he could only persuade his son in this way.

Xiao Wei, you have to go to school well, who does not go to school, and work in the field, if you do not go to school, in the future, just like them, you have to do a lot of work.

Xiaowei promised well verbally, but not once in action to keep his word.

Although Brother Coat only studied in the second grade, he is very willing to spend money on the education of his children, he hopes that his children can receive a better education than he does.

Often performing outside, DAIYI did not have time to supervise his children, the two children's grades were very poor, the son often scored in the twenties, and his daughter was slightly better than his son.

At the age of 13, other children have been in junior high school, Xiaowei due to repeated squatting grade, has been squatting in the third grade.

Before the brother in the coat was famous, Xiaowei's performance ranked at the bottom of the class eighth, and ninth, after the famous, Xiaowei directly into the bottom of the class first.

Not only that, but Xiaowei also learned to smoke, drink, fight, and play games, he is a living "Internet-addicted teenager".

During the study period, Xiaowei was often discouraged from school, because of this matter, the big brother more than once to the school leadership, begging them to take in Xiaowei.

After Xiaowei was discouraged, the coat brother went to other schools to beg leaders: "You help, help my child get to your school, the tuition fee is how much."

The best tutor was found for Xiaowei, even if his son could only improve by one point, he was willing to spend a lot of money to tutor his son.

No matter how much effort Brother Coat put into improving his son's performance, in reality, Xiaowei has no desire to learn, he only cares about watching TV, eating snacks, and playing games every day.

Thinking from a material basis, Brother Da Yi provides the best living conditions for his children, and he is indeed a capable father; considering from an educational point of view, when his pair of children need their father's company most, Brother Da Yi is absent, and rich material life cannot make up for the emptiness and deprivation inside the children.

Material life will never satisfy. Instead of spending a lot of time on material life, parents should spend a little more time making their children happy and motivated.

Xiao Wei did not like to go to school since he was young, and Da Yi's brother loves his son so much that he has been helping his son to find another way out, leaving the child to be educated by someone outside, and Da Yi brother is not at ease.

Therefore, after Xiaowei became an adult when Brother Da Yi went out for commercial performances, he would always take Xiaowei with him, so that Xiaowei could help pull the luggage he could gain insight, deal with others, learn from experience and grow in his heart.

Compared with children of the same age, Xiaowei seems to lack some light.

20-year-old Xiaowei, although he is not too old, likes to wear very old-fashioned clothes.

Only later did we learn that the clothes Xiaowei was wearing were selected by Brother Da Yi according to his preferences, and every time Brother Da Yi picked out the clothes, Xiaowei stood aside and waited for his father to pay at the counter.

Brother Coat once said.

I don't give him money for fear that he will develop lazy habits, even if he doesn't go to school, and finally let him farm at home, he can support himself and find a reasonable daughter-in-law for the rest of his life.

Under the shelter of the big brother, Xiaowei grows up day by day, but 20-year-old Xiaowei still needs the shelter of his father.

The first time Xiao Wei married his daughter-in-law "Chen Yannan", is also relying on the brother's eyes to identify and gatekeeper.

Later, Xiaowei and Chen Yannan parted ways, people think Xiaowei sooner or later has to go to this step.

After the failure of the first marriage, the brother arranged for Xiao Wei to take the driving test, and Xiao Wei had to obediently go to learn the car to get the license.

The poor parents' hearts, although the brother said frankly "as long as the children spend their lives safely and happily," but from the brother's tone of voice, has revealed the loss and helplessness.

In real life, many parents, like the brother, believe that parents do not give their children money, that is not the reason parents.

There Some parents believe"money can motivate children", but they do not know that money is the easiest thing to pollute children's minds.

Children are very bright, but they need their parents to bring out the brightness of their children, and this is called "to raise raising".

In addition to the failure of the child's education, in addition to the brother's responsibility, the sister-in-law as a mother is not a qualified mother.

It is reasonable that the wife should ask her children from an early age.

"Dad is often not at home, why in the end?"

"More money, spend money to have a plan?"

"Do you want to learn to save money from a young age?"

"Should there be a limit on the amount of money you can spend?"

Of course, the wife of the coat is just an ordinary rural woman, no culture, she does not with have much brain she does not know how to cultivate the initial money values of children from an early age, children slowly grow up, and she does not know how to let the child stage to develop the correct money values.

The big brother became famous, but the child's education fell behind, which he never expected, but, with only the big brother's power, he can change what?

After, if you miss your child's education, you can't make up for it by spending more money, do you think so?