The Fine Art of Loving

Life is a story that retells itself differently with each life, and spreads parts of it across everything like a mystery hoping one day it would be understood, and doing so is one of the greatest achievements we could ever achieve, we may not know every detail about it and perhaps none of us can ever grasp the full meaning of it all but anything that humans have ever used to get an understanding of things, that gets us closer to finding our purpose such as religion, philosophy, psychology and wisdom have all told about love and kindness and that was the purpose of the story life tells all along only we are too naïve to realize that and tend to base bad experiences as the whole experience, how many lives have to be lived till we finally understand that we are not doomed but meant to fight to be free, to live with a purpose and most importantly to love all that is around us, only then we will be able to see that there is beauty within life and everything that belongs to it including us, we are simply guests on earth and eventually guests have to leave at some point so we must leave behind a beautiful mark as a thanks to life and give back to it, we all struggle in finding love and sometimes because we aren’t fed love on a golden spoon we learn to lick it off of knives as having some of it including the pain that comes with it is better than having none and that leads us to one of two conclusions, we either convince ourselves that seeking love made us pathetic and weak, and we are better off without it because it is indeed painful to have to ask for love, or we realize that the lack of genuine love was what lead to the pain and emptiness we feel within ourselves and unless we genuinely love ourselves we cannot experience love fully because love comes from us just as it comes to us, and that pain is inevitable, but suffering is optional and that is exactly why we must accept it as a lesson and an experience, because we went through that pain we must help others avoid it by offering love fully and truly or else that cycle repeats itself over and over, no one deserves to suffer, but this is life not heaven and because we suffer we also sin, but holding on grudges only holds us back, it is like holding fire in our arms and blaming it for burning us, it only affects us, and we are free of that burden only when we let go of it and until we learn the lesson mistakes will repeat themselves, let go of what once was and focus on what is, the past is in your head and the future is in your hands. Control what we can and do good while we still got the chance to because it will never be a waste, love and loving changes the way we experience life and that's why it is really special, if we were to ever live without it, I believe we wouldn't find purpose or meaning in our lives, we would be soulless with no passion, empathy or creativity just creatures that prey on each other, But that is not what we are. We can be selfish and hate deeply, but we can also love deeply and give, even if we may not get it back, but that is what love is, to give away everything without hoping we may ever get it back. Be a reason why people mature out of love rather than pain because in the end the love you take is equal to the love you make.