"You can get addicted to a certain kind of sadness." This line from Gotye's song has resonated with me ever since I first heard it in 2012. There are times when I'm really happy and life is great, but there are always unpleasant memories that surface at any given time. I'm not depressed (I hope not) but I am sensitive. Most of my sadness stems from relationships with guys, gender norms we females have to live up to, and me constantly worrying about my future as a prospective software developer/software engineer. See? I still don't even know what I want to do exactly, hence the "/" between the two professions. I also get upset when I hear about current events such as the racism that spiraled as a result of the current political state in the U.S., poverty, pediatric cancer deaths/cancer in general, domestic abuse, violence, natural disasters, and plenty more. I am a lucky woman who has the best of things. I have an amazing family, supportive friends, a college education (still in progress), financial stability (family wise), a house, sufficient food to eat, and great health (knock on wood). There is a lot more gratefulness where that comes from.
No matter what profession you're pursuing, you are bound to have a discussion with a group of people at some point. While you are free to express your ideas in a thoughtful, creative way, there are some rules you and your peers should abide by in order to have a progressive discussion. Respect is key. Everyone must maintain a respectful nature for the entirety of the discussion. If you're a student, teacher, or an employee please read through this list and feel free to share any of these tips with your colleagues the next time you engage in a discussion.
About 70% of my snaps on Snapchat consist of food. 90% of those are snaps of healthy food. I'm a health conscious person and have been since the beginning of high school. I succumbed to diet fads and was solely interested in being skinner (than I already was) but now it's a lifestyle... but not in a dangerous way. Like every other teenage girl, I had body image issues, despite being a 5'0", 90 pound girl. I was always small and continue to be, but now I eat not for my weight, but for myself and holistic being.
I was in a terrible relationship with a not so kind guy in July 2016. I knew he wasn't the right person for me but for whatever reason I still wanted to be with him. We engaged in an innocent conversation on Snapchat about sports which escalated to the topic of butts...and it wasn't pleasant. He knew that I was a softball player and commented by saying "softball players have good booties". I laughed it off and agreed. But then he proceeded to tell me about how soccer girls and track girls have the "best butts". I was a little uncomfortable but still brushed that off as just being a guy thing to say. But when he belittled me, I was done. He sent me a meme that read "Squat, because no one ever wrote a song about a small butt" and told me that I should "improve upon mine". Now this guy was no Chris Evans nor any sort of body builder. He was your average teenage male at best. But that didn't matter. Whether he is a celebrity hunk or a typical college boy, no one has the right to denigrate others by body shaming them.