Why the Slumflower Shouldn’t Have to Explain Herself
People on social media have found another reason to criticize the Slumflower’s feminism yet again.
Chidera Eggerue, also known as the Slumflower, is an author and blogger who is commonly known for her controversial tweets about destructing patriarchy and for starting the "Saggyboobsmatter" hashtag.
Many people say that the Slumflower is out to orchestrate "male genocide" because of her continuous tweets that showcase her lack of interest in and sympathy for CIS men due to the privilege they have thanks to patriarchy.
During the week, she faced serious backlash online when she stated that male suicide isn’t an issue that should concern her. “Men are murdering us and abusing children and you think I have time to theorize on why they can’t cry,” was a part of her response to someone telling her that male suicide is an issue that needs addressing. Most of the people outraged by her response, responded by saying that downplaying the poor mental health and lack of support that men receive isn’t correct feminist behaviour.
“Maybe other people’s feminisms are about making the world better for men... as for me, I don’t don’t have time to think about the reasons why the system you created at my expense to benefit you is now choking you.” The Slumflower let people know that her main concern will always be women. “Until men are systematically disadvantaged by patriarchy, women will always be my priority.”
Personally, I wouldn’t label myself a feminist but I do believe that everyone should be treated equally. I want people to have equal treatment and opportunities. I used to be someone who would always speak on issues that affect men because I felt as if hardly anyone was speaking up for them due to the benefits they receive from patriarchy. I acknowledge that being systematically privileged doesn’t automatically mean that you’ll have great mental health and emotional support. If anything, I do believe that men "having it easier" than women could result in them feeling pressured to hold in their emotions because they probably don’t feel as if they have the right to complain about anything they go through. With this being said, I don’t believe that the Slumflower deserved the backlash she received for simply saying that she doesn’t feel the need to address male suicide. I will say that the way she expressed this could have been better, because it definitely did come off as insensitive.
The outrage that occurred was uncalled for as most people should have already known—or at least guessed that the Slumflower’s feminism has always been for women first. Expecting her to use her platform to address an issue that effects the people who are a part of the reason why we need feminism in the first place seems unfair. Trying to redirect the attention from speaking on the issues that women face to an issue that men face delays the conversations that we could have to make the world a safer place for women. “Men have a responsibility to show up for themselves and each other and should no longer wait for women to nurse them before we nurse the wounds they inflicted on us.”
Instead of waiting for feminists (who are women) to speak on the issues men face, men should use the power they have to bring attention to these issues because if we’re being honest, this will probably be more impactful.
Lastly, I’d like to say that there are many reasons why people stand for feminism. Nobody should have to be questioned on why they say or do certain things when trying to create change in this world.