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Slim Girls Can Be Curvy Too

by Maariee about a month ago in body
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…and just as ‘real’ as any other woman

Larger, rounder women who wish to celebrate their beauty and attractiveness, often describe themselves as ‘curvy.’ Their admirers describe them as curvy. And even people who actively dislike larger figures may describe them as curvy, so as not to appear impolite.

On the whole, this all seems fine. ‘Curvy’ is a nice-sounding description. And fuller-figured women can certainly be beautiful. I have a friend on this platform who regularly proves this beyond any reasonable doubt.

Yes, many people find slimness appealing. But not everyone. And some people find larger women especially attractive.

It’s true that extra weight can be associated with some health problems. And because of this, some people argue we shouldn’t shy away from describing people with a lot of body fat simply as ‘fat.’

But would I like to be described as fat, if I was fat? No. Probably not. So I totally understand that many larger women wish to be described in more flattering ways, using more pleasant-sounding words.

But I do have one minor complaint:

When ‘curvy’ is routinely used as a euphemism for ‘fat,’ this strongly implies that you can’t be curvy if you are slim. And that’s simply not true.

Me in jeans and a T-shirt: It’s not what I would describe as a very flattering image. But it does very clearly show that I am slim. I’m not sure that anyone would argue otherwise.

But if I switch to a different type of outfit…

Me in a dress: you can clearly see that I still have plenty of curves.

There’s nothing artificial there. No breast implants. No buttock injections. No extra padding. No push-up bra. And there’s no help from Adobe Photoshop. It’s all natural.

Of course there are much curvier women. But there’s certainly no ‘straight up and down’ about my figure.

So yes, I’m both slim and curvy. But if I described myself as ‘curvy,’ people would think that I’m a ‘larger woman.’ And I’m not.

And I expect there are lots of other slim or mid-sized women who would like to be able to describe themselves as curvy, without other people thinking that’s just a euphemism for being fat.

I could also criticise the practice of describing larger women as “real women.” We slim girls are real women too. But you get the point.

So how should larger women describe their figures, if not as ‘curvy’?

Alternative descriptions for larger figures have been used, before being criticised and discarded one by one.

‘Fat’ is just not a nice-sounding word. It points to a possible health problem, rather than to a potentially pleasing shape. It’s fine as a description of yourself, when you’re having a private conversation with your doctor, or with your fitness coach. But it’s not the sort of word you want to put on your dating profile.

We had ‘plus-sized.’ This was widely used for a time, but is now frowned upon by many, after being used to describe anyone who wasn’t supermodel thin, thus implying anyone larger than that was somehow ‘not normal.’

We’re probably stuck with curvy for now. But I would ideally like it to be replaced by a term that describes larger women in a pleasant way, without implying we slim girls have no curves.

Your suggestions are welcome. Would ‘voluptuous’ be better?

Is this a silly complaint?

Of course it is. In a way. If I want people to know I’m curvy, but not fat, it’s easy enough for me to describe myself as ‘slim but curvy’ — or just post a picture.

But perhaps there is a serious point or two to make here.

It isn’t merely misleading to imply that slim and curvy are mutually exclusive attributes. It could be harmful. It could encourage unhealthy life choices, or discourage healthy ones.

There may be some larger women out there who should probably lose some weight for health reasons. (And no I’m not saying all large women are unhealthy.) But they take comfort from having ‘impressive curves,’ and put that diet and exercise regime on hold — perhaps ignoring the fact that they could still have very pleasing curves if they were rather slimmer.

At the same time, there are slim women desperate to have the curves that are so fashionable and so widely admired these days. To achieve more impressive curves, they might wear uncomfortable clothes — waist-squeezing corsets and padded bras. Or they might take more extreme measures, such as undergoing expensive or risky surgery to have curve-boosting implants installed, or having fillers injected into various parts of their bodies.

Each to her own, I suppose. But personally, I don’t view such choices as entirely healthy.

Most slim women are still naturally curvy. To show off their natural curves, sometimes all they need is the right outfit — and it needn’t be an uncomfortable one.

Slim and curvy are not mutually exclusive attributes.

Implying that they are may encourage the unhealthy belief that to be curvy, you have to sacrifice being slim, wear restrictive and uncomfortable clothing, or resort to implants and fillers.

The idea that you can be slim or curvy, but not both, is a total myth. And I think it’s good to remind people of that fact.

Slim but want to look curvy? Best option: Buy the right dress. It may not work for everyone. But it’s definitely worth a try.

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  • Alyissa M. Lore22 days ago

    Women have curves in general. Curvy is meant to describe women with more curves than is average. You even agree with this in your article when you suggest a synonym ‘voluptuous’: Curvy having many curves. "a curvy stretch of road" INFORMAL (of a woman's figure) shapely and voluptuous. While you do have delicate sloping curves…you do not have MANY curves. And it is not just used to describe fat women, there are women with small waists but very round top and bottom…but curvy is meant to describe more curves than usual

  • Russell Ormsby 28 days ago

    I agree with you. As much as larger sized people don't like being referred to as 'fat' thinner people don't like being referred to as 'skinny' no matter how much the other person considers that tag as a compliment. After meeting relatives for example after years apart one of the first things that falls out of their mouth is, "You're still skinny!" My reply is as usual, "Compared to?...you?" Lol. Great job. Earned a heart from me.👍

  • Carol Townend29 days ago

    I am not slim, I am average. I have a rounded tummy but I am not fat or overweight. Some are natural, some were brought on by pregnancy. Not all women who are 'curvy' are overweight or in need of dieting. I use the term 'curvy' because that is exactly how I describe my body anyway. However, I also know slim women have curves which are also beautiful, and that weight can be a problem for some. My weight is normal for my height as said by my GP.

  • Roger Scypion29 days ago

    Fantastic! Kudos! Well written article!

  • Thavien Yliaster29 days ago

    I like this article. You explained that you're not entitled to attention, but you didn't forget to mention, that you want to be addressed as flattering. However, for you to do so, it seems to make someone's world shattering, but instead of scattering and putting yourself in the darkness You begin to harness Your true inner feelings along with your beauty. Yes, I'm a man who enjoyed this article, so sue me. We as men have our own body issues yet, as people we all cry into tissues because of our body's tissues. I like how you want to be complimented in various ways. I also enjoyed how you weren't seeking for the male gaze. Yet, I still see people thirst trapping endlessly for days. That's a topic for a different story, so anyways- You weren't trying to be overly inclusive You were saying that your form with those words aren't mutually exclusive. You were tired of being body shamed. You were tired of being the target of someone else's blame. Yet, in the end you weren't searching for fame. Here, you wanted make a statement for others like you, all the same. You weren't being shady All you did is express that slim women like you, too, are real ladies. I'm glad as a slim woman, that you got to make your point of view, because as most people would agree, "Slim Girls Can Be Curvy Too."

  • Emily Dickerson29 days ago

    Slim but curvy is so real! That's how MOST WOMEN ARE. Men are the ones with more rigid lines and squareness to them. I love that there is no hate in this artilce! All women are created in the image of God and all are beautiful and worthy of love! I've gained a weight since the end of college, and I have struggled more with my body image because of it. I'm still only a size 4-6, but not being a 2-4 has made me feel fat and unlovable. My fiance is so kind, though, and he affirms and validates that everything that happens to me is natural and normal and he will love me no matter what. I'm grateful for this article and the sense of community and beloning it has brought me! I am slim, curvy, and beautiful! Thank you!!!

  • Misty Rae29 days ago

    I wrote about this on another platform and it's so true! Thank you for speaking up. I am slim, about a size 0, but curvy, I have a small waist and larger hips, thighs and a big ol' round butt. I hated my curves when I was young, but I love them now. I'm taking curvy back on behalf of all us slim but curvy gals! :)

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