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How To Write A Love Letter ?

How to Tell Someone You Love Them With Words

By Emma RandyPublished 2 years ago 5 min read

A feeling in love will always be just that, unless you decide to tell the person you love. If you're too shy to tell your loved one in person that you love them, then you might want to send them a note. Keep it simple, brief and to the point. Explain how you feel, but don't go into too much detail. Be prepared for his or her reaction and keep in mind that even if he or she doesn't feel anything for you in return, you have shown enough courage to express your feelings and that is something to be proud of.

First of all: Write your message

1. Keep it short and simple.

Tell the person you are in love with that you love them and would like to spend time with them. Avoid talking over nothing, repeating yourself, or exclaiming how great the person is or how much you think about them all the time. Being too direct can make him/her feel uncomfortable.

2. Tell your lover that you love them.

While this may sound scary, it's best if you're direct about it. Be honest and simply tell them you love them. Avoid expressing your unconditional love or telling him/her that you are thinking about him/her all the time. After all, you don't want to scare her/him.

  • For example, write, "I love you, do you want to spend some time together sometime?"
  • Avoid writing, "I can't stop thinking about you and I dream about you every night. I love you so much."

3. Talk about some of the reasons why you love her.

Think about why you have loving feelings for him and what attracts you to him. Is he nice or funny? Is he a great guitar player or a great dancer? Mention one or two specific reasons why he or she caught your attention.

  • For example, write, "I admire the way you stand up for other kids" or "I like that you work really hard in chemistry."
  • Avoid writing, "you are really attractive" or "you are so popular." These are not good reasons to like someone, and they don't express your lover's personality.

4. Be confident in yourself.

It may be scary for you to express your feelings about someone else. However, you should not devalue yourself in the note you send to your lover or assume that the feelings are not mutual. Avoid letting him or her know that you're afraid he or she will reject you, but instead show that you're confident in yourself.

  • Avoid writing, "I know you will never love me back, but I just had to tell you that I think about you all the time."
  • Instead, write, "I'd like to get to know you better. Do you want to get together next weekend?"

5. Avoid sharing details that others should not know.

You should avoid sharing details that you don't want others to know. Your lover is likely to show the letter to his or her friends, which is another reason why you should keep it simple and direct. There is no reason to be embarrassed about telling someone you love them. However, if you include too many personal details, you may feel uncomfortable if other people read your letter.

Avoid expressing yourself in the following way: "You are my first love and I think about you all the time. I have never been kissed before and I wish you were the first."

Then: Move on to the next steps

1. Clean up the note.

While you don't need to take a calligraphy class or buy fancy paper, be aware that you should make every effort to neaten up your handwriting so that the person you feel for can read your message easily. If you find that you have crossed out several lines in the note, simply rewrite them. In fact, the person may be able to decipher what you've crossed out, something you certainly don't want.

Avoid adding a lot of kisses or hearts in the note. Save this for the notes you will write when you are already in a romantic relationship with someone.

2. Sign the note.

It is very important that you are able to sign the note you have written with your name on it. After all, you'll want your lover to know that YOU love them, not that they have a secret admirer. If there are a few people in your class with the same name, be sure to add your last name or at least the initial of it to avoid confusion.

  • For example, you could write, "I hope to hear from you soon. From Luc S."
  • You could also write, "see you in math class. Sarah R."

3. Address the letter.

You can fold your letter in a fancy configuration or put it in a sealed envelope. Be sure to write your lover's name on the outside of the letter so there is no misunderstanding as to who it is addressed to. Also, add his or her last name or the initial of that name in case there is more than one person in your school with the same name.

For example, you could write "To Marissa E."

4. Give them the note.

You can hand-deliver the note to the person you feel for or leave it in their locker. You can also send it through a friend, but make sure the friend tells them the note is from you to avoid confusion. It's best to wait until after school or lunch to hand in the note so that neither you nor your boyfriend gets into trouble in class.

  • You may have to wait until the person is alone to deliver the letter so that he or she can read it in private.
  • On the other hand, you can send the letter by email, but the catch is that you don't know if or when the person will read it. Also, they may not take an email message as seriously as a handwritten note.

5. Ask your lover to respond.

In the note, you can add a sentence in which you ask him or her to reply or tell him or her to let you know when you hand-deliver the letter. For example, you can phrase it like this, "I'll be outside if you want to chat after you read this."

If you do not receive a response from him/her after a few days of delivering the letter, you can seek to inquire of him/her. When you see him (her), simply ask him (her), "Hi, did you read my note?"

6. Be prepared for his or her reaction.

With any luck, your lover may also have feelings for you and your letter will be the beginning of a wonderful relationship. However, this may not always be the case, which is why you should be prepared for rejection. Understand that the person has made their decision and do not try to talk them out of it. You have every right to feel disappointed or sad. Give yourself time to accept the situation, then let go of the idea of dating and move on.

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