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Everything Wrong with the Statement, "God Told Me You're Supposed to Be My Wife"

A Satirical Perspective About a Situation Many Women Encounter from Men in Ministry/Seminary

By Become. selflessPublished 6 years ago 3 min read

Going to school to be a preacher is quite the experience. Going into my fourth year marks me a senior. Since my first days of my freshman year till my dog days as a junior, there's one situation that never gets old. I never stop seeing it or hearing about it. A theology major creeps out an individual by dropping potentially the most theologically damaging, spiritually confusing, and controversial line in the realm of romance, "God told me that you were going to be my wife."

Hold up, wait a minute. If you're in some institutions where it's commonplace to talk about God, than this scenario shouldn't be too foreign, unfortunately.

Defining this situation more concretely, I've only heard it from Christian institutions and personally I believe it's not that God can't do it or He won't do it. But too often it's a line stated with little discretion. What makes it more strange and creepy is when it's dropped by someone who's simply an acquaintance or an associate, someone with whom you're not even in a relationship!

What a bold move, what a surprise, and what a weird statement! This line has left many misdirected, confused, angry, anxious, sad and even disappointed. The scary thought about this line is the line itself! This line initially demands that the hearer reviews their spiritual life compulsively and immediately; a line like this demands that the individual reexamines their theology, that is, their belief about God and his role in their life. A line like this creates anxiety and causes more stress in an already stressful world. Aside from: family issues, bills, assignments and papers due, house chores and the daily epic battle to conquer challenges at work; an associate or an acquaintance hits you with that line and your cortisol levels are sure to increase.

Whether from uneasy anxiety or apathetic anger, your response is either speechlessness with a confused look or that knee-jerk reaction to tell them, "boy/girl, bye."

It's not that God NEVER says such things to people but it's two or more factors that work against the one says such things.

Two of the most common objections are questions like, "well, if it's so, why didn't God tell me anything?"

And, of course the more obvious, "why is this a popular thing among not just theology majors, but christians or religious leaders in general?" Here's where we break the perceptions and add some salt and light.

The people who are called by His name must come to recognize that unless they can distinguish their flesh from the Spirit and understand the psychodynamic balance between their thoughts and desires and God's purpose for them, they will always remain in a realm of uncertainty and blind faith.

It's better to own up to one's own feelings and desires, no matter how intense they may be, than to take one's intense desires for a particular someone and say that the feelings are God's will.

Putting one's own feelings on the same level as the divine will is actually blasphemy. Your feelings and your desires may be apart of God's original design: that a man may desire a woman and vice versa, but your feelings and your will can never be the same as God's own. Isaiah 55 shows that His thoughts are not our thoughts and his ways are not our ways.

If anything this attitude of "my feelings and thoughts =God's" is strangely identical to that of persons of power who swear their goals are the mandate and will of God. That same controlling and idolatrous mentality is what has lead to many corrupt behaviors corrupt governments and destructive cults.

All in all, everything wrong with the statement God said you were supposed to be my wife is that it can be:

  1. Insensitive
  2. Dangerous
  3. Confusing
  4. Controlling

About the Creator

Become. selfless

I am 21

That will not be forever.

I rep my God wherever I go

Because the broken system can't manage

Hearts that are shattered by evil.

Poet. Song-writer. Christian. Seventh-Day Adventist. Musician. Black.

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