It happened because both of my parents were abused as children. It happened because they were young, incompatible and immature. It happened because they both had undiagnosed mental health problems about which they were both in a chronic state of denial. It happened because they had two small children, one of whom was severely autistic. It happened for many, many reasons. But the fact is that I was viciously and continuously psychologically abused throughout my childhood and early adult life.
If you've gone to high school in America, then you probably had at least one classmate who claimed that he had "gotten so laid," and that he was constantly having sex with every single girl he ever befriended. He had all the charm of McLovin', and often would talk about sex like it was the only thing he knew anything about.
You’ve seen it done in sex films a dozen times, and it couldn't be easier, right? Some guy hides a video camera in his bedroom, then invites a foxy date to join him for a nightcap. The end result is a sex tape portraying their lovemaking to enjoy long after they've separated, or to blackmail her into more such trysts. When our hero plays his tape back, it looks just as professional as a movie–filled with tight close-ups and different exciting angles. This particular brand of sex flick was conceived around the impotent voyeur who got off on such footage. But like everything else you see on the screen, it's a fantasy. Good sex tapes just aren't made that way. At least, not anymore.
When I married my husband, I didn’t realize that I had Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder or PMDD. In fact, I knew I had some kind of monthly dysphoria, but it was never as bad as it seemed to get once we were married. I won’t theorize about that for now because it could be the result of so many things…stress, change, age, etc…but I will say that for some time, my husband thought maybe he had brought it on, and to be perfectly honest, he wasn't helping!
In the video above Dear Sybersue discusses a topic that many women write to her about. They want to know how to get over a breakup a lot faster. Their self-esteem takes a beating and they can't seem to move on and feel good about themselves.
One of the hardest parts of dating is figuring out who's legitimately into you, and who's just stringing you along. With guys, it's even worse because being the fool who chases around a disinterested girl can turn you into a laughingstock - or set you up to be used.