Actionable Advice To Be Happier in Daily Life
No matter what’s going on around you, you still have you. You are the one constant in a world that keeps changing.
Happiness and reaching contentment is what we yearn for. Whilst to every single one of us happiness means, ultimately, a different thing. It is a broad term that applies to everyone differently.
For example, to some people, happiness is when their requirements have been satisfied, or when they have made substantial achievements. To others, happiness comes from relationships with others.
But we all have this one thing in common: we are obsessed with searching for it and fretting over not having it.
The Happiness Hustle
In our culture, we are conditioned to externalize happiness. We try to find happiness in things, events, work, people, possessions, and achievements, the list is endless. The problem with this approach is that we are searching for happiness in all the things that will pass, eventually. And pass they do, if not always, then often. Such is the nature of life. Therefore, if we fully attach our happiness to these external sources, there is no endpoint to happiness.
Let’s have a look at some of the common sources of happiness — what we can refer to as the happiness hustle.
Doing work that we enjoy doing can be a source of considerate job satisfaction. Purposeful work can be our passion, and it can give us a sense of enthusiasm. But jobs can be taken away from us. Or we leave jobs. The average person in the 21st century has several jobs in a lifetime. Whilst having a good job can affect our happiness, it’s not a means to an end.
Social connections certainly contribute to a feeling of fulfilment and an overall state of well-being. We expect romantic relationships in particular to be our source of happily ever after. But that is putting a lot of pressure on another person, who is just a human, like us. They do not possess superhero qualities to magically make us happy, all the time.
In addition, not all relationships are good for us. Some relationships bring us emotional pain, such as hurt feelings and feelings of frustration. Sometimes, relationships end. When they do we often feel deflated, depressed or disappointed.
This can take on many different forms, such as hobbies, hanging out with friends and doing sports. Indeed, there is nothing wrong with any of these activities per se. However, we need to have an honest look at whether we would be able to be happy even without these activities. Is there a possibility that we keep busy to fill the void, to avoid feelings of emptiness? Or feelings of unhappiness?
If we always hustle for happiness, we might not ever find it, as the external conditions keep changing. Instead, we have to focus on looking for happiness within.
Happiness Starts and Ends With You
Happiness is a frame of mind. Maintaining a peaceful state of mind no matter the external circumstances is hard work for sure. It does not come naturally to us. If we search for happiness within, however, it means that we own it.
If we own our happiness, it becomes a state of being, and as such, it is changeable. Meaning it is within our power whether our happiness is fleeting or permanent. Whether our happiness is constantly changing, in reaction to external circumstances. Or whether our happiness is a staple, despite these circumstances.
It sounds scary. You are probably thinking, but how can I be happy if this or that, or so and so? The thing is, no matter what’s going on around you, still have you. You are the one constant in a world that keeps changing.
And that You needs self-care. That You needs to employ thought processes such as gratitude, self-compassion and being content with what is. All of these thought processes can help with resilience. And the strong resilient mind can own happiness and content no matter what.
About the author
Writing about well-being, self-care and psychology. Occassional poet and fiction writer. Based in Prague. Passionate about coffee, yoga, reading and Toastmasters. Native speaker of Czech, fluent in English (as a second language).