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A person who loves to lose his temper, in addition to negative explanations, he must also actively explain for the purpose of promoting psychological construction

by ROERTA OBRECHT a day ago in anxiety

A person who loves to lose his temper, in addition to negative explanations

Yesterday’s graffiti text wrote, “A person does not lose his temper because of accidents, but because he is such a person.” Explained from the physiological structure of the brain and the theory of personality traits, it can be better to empathize with this person.

The emotional brain mainly includes the limbic system, in which the amygdala is responsible for our negative emotions. A person who loses his temper in trouble will have a different amygdala from ordinary people, resulting in a fierce emotional response pattern. The emotional brain matured 25 million years ago. , A rational brain that was developed far earlier than 4 million years ago.

Studies have confirmed that there are four personality traits. The first four types of body fluids proposed by Hippocrates. Later, Pavlov proposed four types of advanced neurological activity, which I popularized and understood as these four types: quick temper and slow temper. , Introverted, extroverted. For people who are short-tempered and can't help themselves when encountering problems, the theory of traits can better explain them.

The above is a physical and psychological analysis for many people who are in a hurry.

It can be seen that this explanation is easier to empathize with a person, but it also has a negative interpretation style. For this reason, we can further explain the explanation from a broader perspective and from a more positive style.

The above trait theory belongs to one of the "holistic theory" referred to by Professor Zimbardo, and there are also humanistic explanations and psychoanalytic explanations. From the perspective of humanism, people with quick tempers are the result of limited potential, while from the perspective of psychoanalysis, they belong to suppressed unconscious desires. The countermeasure is to unconsciously consciousize. Seeing the desire behind quick tempers, express emotions rather than emotional expression.

In addition to the above two perspective explanations, there are three psychological perspective explanations.

One is the interpretation from the cognitive perspective. It's not that things make people anxious and uncomfortable, but that it is caused by the recognition of thinking patterns, such as looking down on the person in front of you, all kinds of unconventional heads, and losing your temper to represent correct authority. It is also possible to realize that everyone is equal, humanistic feelings and so on.

The second is the behavioral perspective interpretation. A person always loses his temper and uses all kinds of untimely practices. There is a saying, "It's not that the old people get bad, but the bad guys get old." In fact, it is explained from the learning mechanism that behaviors are learned. But it can be changed badly.

The third is the development perspective explanation. Social phobia is not uncommon, but the elderly hardly have this problem because of the development of psychophysiological age. The term adolescence means that adolescents are not rebellious but are not normal. They must be careful of over-repression. Therefore, there is also a saying that "it was difficult to save Wushan but not a cloud." People with bad tempers should also actively explain from a development perspective.

A person who loves to lose his temper, in addition to negative explanations, he must also actively explain for the purpose of promoting psychological construction

The above five explanations belong to the psychological and physiological aspects. It can be seen that they can be explained either negatively or positively. This gives us a different enlightenment, which is to explain a person's behavior with the goal of conducive to psychological construction.

For this reason, a person has a bad temper and is irritable. You can actively pay attention to it from poor cognition, developmental hindrance, limited potential, behavioral learning, etc., which will have better results.

The above explanations can be summarized as internal motivation, that is, these behaviors are affected by internal motivation needs. Here, we need to explain behavior from a more important external motivation, that is, from the perspective of social context.

External motives include the environment, interpersonal relationships, social culture, moral customs, etc., which can also be called the "power of the situation."

When we say that a person has a bad temper, if he is faced with his superiors, authority, elders, public places, etc., he may completely change his appearance. This is the influence of interpersonal relationships and the environment.

There are also social and cultural influences that are imperceptible. For example, in the past when the composition was emphasized, it is not uncommon for people with poor backgrounds to be discriminated against by society and even families. The strict requirements of the one-child family for their children are also silently influenced by the social culture, compared with the situation in the past when there were many children in the family and even one less food.

How the power of the situation profoundly affects behavior, the most famous sociological experiment is Professor Zimbardo's "Stanford Prison Experiment". The environment that inspires people's evil will also inspire people's goodness. We will all be "ordinary heroes" and may also become "banal evils."

Circumstances have a profound influence on people's words and deeds. It is easy to inspire us to criticize people, but it is also the most difficult to change people. It is better to create a positive and beneficial environment to help a person to promote self-awareness and possibly change.

In short, help more and less obstruction, more blessings and less worry, more positive and less negative, more empathy and less self. After all, this world is created by consciousness.

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