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What If We Paused Our Search for Happiness?

My Take On the Matter

By Celestin TurbidePublished 5 years ago 3 min read
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Greetings From the Inuit Northern Village of Inukjuak!

What if we paused our search for happiness?

It might seem like a crazy idea, but let me explain.

I feel as if more and more people are sharing their opinions and tips on what to do to achieve personal happiness, so I thought I should do the same but with a slight twist. Besides, we all know that these people, who seem so perfect on social media, can have their rough moments—just like anybody.

I am all for the pursuit of a better life myself, but there is something that needs to be done before this quest actually begins—finding what's making us unhappy and dealing with it.

More often than not, we are the ones keeping ourselves from being truly happy and in the moment.

For example, some people might say things like ''When I win the lottery, I will be happy again'' or ''I'll never truly be happy until I get that new car/house/job.'' Hopefully, these are just phrases thrown in the air and not actually believed because nothing can be further from the truth.

We create our own happiness. It's that simple.

But what happens when the search becomes too obsessive?

We have to be able to make peace with the fact that some goals might never come true. Unfortunately, the absence of the element that we desire can sometimes become the source of our misery.

So, before trying to figure out what will bring you your ultimate bliss, it's important to find out what is causing anxiety and stress in your day-to-day.

It can be an addiction to food or television, a toxic relationship, an unfulfilling work environment, and so on. The list can be very long.

All these negative aspects need to be fixed if you want to be happier, because even if your wildest dream came true tomorrow, you might eventually screw things up simply by using old habits. If a person struggling with compulsive spending or a gambling addiction were to win the lottery, they would most likely be superficially happy for the first months or years before they ran out of money again. Back to square one.

Our problems have a tendency to follow us no matter where we go on the globe.

Being able to take the time to identify the elements in our lives that need to be changed is vital for a healthy and happy brain.

For each and every aspect of your life that you aren't satisfied with, make a list of potential and realistic solutions that can be tested within the next hours or the next days.

The key is to try them all, one by one. Most of them can lead to a failure, but in this case the failures will lead to pride when the victory finally comes.

Don't give up, because your problems never will either.

You have to be very careful to balance your thoughts, though. Seeing only the problems in your life can have a terrible effect on the mind and lead to depression.

Thinking of the possible solutions for every single problem is absolutely crucial.

Also, speaking openly about our struggles with the people and resources available can make a huge difference. We are human and have more in common than we might think.

Let's be honest with ourselves. I know it's easier said than done, but if we don't even give it a chance we're surely doomed. We are saturated with negative information and content on one side, and are told to always be happy on the other. It's basically an eternal juggle.

Plus, a never-ending state of complete happiness is simply impossible. There are going to be some tough times ahead and no matter who you are, life always finds a way to kick you to the curb. The only thing to do when that happens is to explore new ways of getting back on your feet again.

The trick I've been using so far is to see the funny side of any situation that I have to face and honestly, it really makes my journey more interesting.

When you have clearly identified the bad elements in your daily routine and taken steps to replace them, you can go ahead and get back to that essential quest for happiness.

So, to sum it up with one sentence: Fix your present before jumping into your future.

The end.

"Just Chillin"

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About the Creator

Celestin Turbide

I love life and anything that's close to art. Nowadays I am a chef in a Northern Inuit community. Very awesome!

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