The downside of the single life

There are so many things to love about the single life, being unattached, not having to answer to anyone, not having to clean up behind a messy mate, having your bed all to yourself, and not having to check in, but there is indeed a downside. Eventually, at some point, you feel alone, you drift into sadness, the feeling of once again wanting someone by your side. Once you get to that place in your singleness, you begin to think of how boring and sad and sucky... ( i know that's not a word) :-) The single life is... it's not all that you thought it was cracked up to be.

1. It's possible to do too much

When you're single, if you are like me, then you find yourself starting to overdo it, throwing yourself into extra work or finding extra things to do just to keep busy and keep your mind and emotions intact. Many nights, you may find yourself getting lost in watching TV or playing on your phone. then there may come a night where you may just be lying in bed and subconsciously wish that you had a special person to call or text, someone to say hey get dressed let's go get a bite to eat or hey I'm coming over with food.

2. Holidays are a bust.

Single during thanksgiving or Christmas? or new years eve? Who really wants that? If you find yourself single during the holidays, you may find that it becomes a little bit more depressing too. If you're not careful, you may well binge out on way too much ice cream, cake and cookies while wallowing in your sadness..

3. The questions start to form

Have you ever wondered or thought to yourself, was it my fault? Could I have done things differently? What could have been done differently? Can I fix it? I know many have thought along those lines simply because it's human nature and sometimes we do doubt ourselves and put ourselves down.

4. Life seems to be moving quickly and everyone is moving on without you.

Some parents have children who are super smart and advanced, but that parent may wonder or worry that the child is falling behind in one area or another, so it is in our adult lives, everyone's life moves at a different pace. You may be perfectly fine where you are, but you feel like you're behind because this person is advancing in their career or this person is getting married or this person just got a promotion or this person is expecting a child.

With all of that being said, here's my call to action. This is what I want you to think about and remember when you've got the case of the Being Single Blues.... The saying goes: This too shall pass. Being single will indeed cause a wave of different emotions. Sometimes those emotions may be depression and sadness, which aren't always the easiest emotions to struggle with/through, but in those moments I want you to think about this.

1. It's so much better to be single than to be with a person who doesn't value you, love you or treat you right.

You are so worth it, it's better to be alone than with a person who isn't right for you.

2. You are the right person that is meant to be with the right heart that's meant to love you.

This one is self-explanatory. You are a great person who deserves the right person, the one that will love you and appreciate you for you, the one that you don't have to show off to, the one that will hold your heart and your worth securely.

YOU ARE WORTHY OF REAL LOVE. You are worth it so please do yourself a big favor and hold out. Don't settle for just anybody. Hold out until you know that you know that the next person is the one you KNOW is worthy of you.