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Take Back Control Of Your Life

The 10-Step Process.

By Frank LomaxPublished 2 years ago 7 min read
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What does it mean to take control?

By taking control of your life, you become the sole person who sets goals and brings changes to your life without being influenced by anyone or anything.

Here are the three foundational 'You' directives that will give impetus to being in control of your life.

you take responsibility for all aspects of your life and have the power to decide how it will unfold.

you are in charge of your efforts and the vision for your future.

you will have complete control over all your choices and decisions.

Ten steps you can take now.

The 10 steps listed here are not exhaustive and they are not the only way to get control. They are just some steps that have helped me on my journey. So, if you find yourself in a difficult situation, don’t worry, there is always a way out and you will find it if you follow these 10 steps!

Step 1 - self awareness.

Take some time to think about what you want in life and who you are. Self-awareness is the first step to take control of your life. It can be challenging, but it is worth it.

When you know yourself and what makes you happy, you can communicate better with others and make decisions that will ensure a positive future. It becomes easier to make decisions that are right for you.

It also means understanding how you want to live your life. You can do this by journaling or writing your thoughts and feelings.

Step 2 – clear communication.

Clear communication is also important.

It’s easy to get frustrated when people don’t understand what you want them to do or don’t do what they’re supposed to; but it’s better if we just communicate clearly with each other so that there are no misunderstandings.

When we communicate clearly, we learn how to express what we want and need respectfully. This can help us avoid conflict and misunderstandings with others. This can be as simple as telling someone that they’re making you feel uncomfortable or informing them you need help to do something for yourself.

Step 3 – be specific.

Being specific is the third step.

When we are specific about what we want, it becomes easier for others to understand our needs and wants and meet them accordingly. Be more specific and take the time to be honest with yourself as well as other people in your life.

Being specific about what needs to be done is better than telling someone to just “do something”.

Step 4 – face the consequences.

Being prepared to face the consequences of your decisions is the fourth step to take control of your life.

Always think about the consequences before deciding or doing something. Make sure you understand the consequences of your actions before you do them, because they can have long-lasting effects on your life and possibly the lives of others.

Step 5 – taking back the power.

Take back power from those who have been controlling or manipulating you.

This might take some time, courage and require decisive action. But, remember, you are not always powerless, so make sure that if there is something in your life that needs changing, then start changing it!

Step 6 – examine your finances.

It may be hard to believe, but almost everyone in the world is living with some form of financial stress. If your finances are not in good shape, it is easy to feel you are losing control.

Figure out what caused the cycle of debt, so you can break it. To gain a better insight into what needs to be done next, it would be beneficial to look at the root cause of the predicament.

Over spending on unnecessary luxury items can put you in a difficult financial situation. To help get your finances back on track, try switching to more affordable options for a while. Preparing and following a budget can also be helpful. If your current job doesn’t provide you with enough income to cover your costs, explore your options by getting another job or improve your skills to attract a higher salary.

Although money is not everything, it provides a certain level of security and power. Having your finances in order gives you a greater sense of control over your life.

Step 7 – reject toxic relationships.

When you’re stuck in associations that don’t make you happy, it can often result in events that are beyond your control. You need to identify these associations and cut them out of your life completely, because there is no use in trying to fix a relationship that is broken.

Toxic relationships can change the way you make choices and decisions, and if you want to take back control, you need to be aware of that and not let it happen. Outgrowing toxic relationships is the best way to protect your actual life events from being influenced by someone essentially unimportant.

Step 8 - always talk positively.

What you see in the mirror is an accurate representation of who you are. If you see a confident, smart, and poised person, that’s what your life will be for you. And the same goes with a negative self-image.

If you want to take back control of your life, one of the best things you can do is start practicing positive self-talk. It may seem counter-intuitive, but you should try giving yourself pep-talks occasionally. It’s not as crazy as it sounds. In fact, it’s quite the opposite.

This means reassuring yourself about your capabilities and achievements. When you have a positive image of yourself, it becomes easier to achieve great things.

Step 9 – build a support system.

We all need someone to rely on from time to time - we can’t go through everything alone. No one is a super-being who can always be strong.

You need to find a support system with whom you can share everything openly. This support system might be your friends, family, or an external group. The people in your support system are the people you can rely on. These people are there for you, whether you need advice or help with anything else. They are dependable, and you can always count on them.

Having a support system has the major advantage of letting you stay in control and not make unnecessary mistakes.

Step 10 – reflect and assess.

Even when we’re not working or thinking, life goes on.

People spend their lives constantly striving to achieve certain goals. The sense of accomplishment they feel when they reach these goals motivates them to keep going. However, it is very important to look back on your life and compare your current situation to the plans you made for yourself.

If we want to avoid losing control, we need to accept that sometimes things won’t go the way we want them to. By giving ourselves time to process what has happened, we can prevent losing control.

It’s possible that you picked up some undesirable habits or took an unwanted path during a certain phase. We can often trace unhappiness back to specific habits or activities. If you’re unhappy, look at your habits and activities to see if they might be the source of your problems. If they are, get rid of them and take back control.

Conclusion.

If you want to be in control of your life, it is essential to set boundaries to protect your time, your space, and your feelings. Remember, if you’re setting a boundary out of respect, you don’t owe anyone an explanation.

Just do what you need to do to take care of yourself. The best way to get what you want is to communicate directly and respectfully. Make sure you’re clear about the potential consequences and follow through if necessary.

When you’re first setting boundaries, it’s easiest to begin with those that aren’t too difficult. It may be necessary to ask for help from others. If someone crosses the line, tell them right away. If you want to become better at respecting the boundaries of others, start by becoming better at setting and respecting your own boundaries.

It’s crucial to remember that you have a right to set boundaries. You shouldn’t have to tolerate disrespect. While you can’t force others to change their behaviour, you can decide how to react to it. You have the power to control how people treat you. It's tough to learn how to set boundaries, but it’ll get easier with time. You might not even need to think about it. Eventually, it could become automatic.

Once you respect yourself, it will become natural to extend that respect to others.

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About the Creator

Frank Lomax

Former newspaper reporter and commercial slave with a whimsical penchant for the unusual and unexplained. Writing, playing guitar, cycling, painting and reading keep me sane – just !

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