Self help, because you are your greatest asset.
2 Reasons You Are Unhappier Than You Should Be
#1 There is so much power in your focus. One thing that is nice about being a human being is that we have the ability to focus. You may be thinking, why is that so great? We can choose to focus on whatever we want when we want. That should be the best news ever! Think about that, we have the ability, day in and day out, to focus on what we personally want to. Now whether that is thinking about what makes you happy, what you want to come into your life, or what is going wrong in your life, YOU have the choice. That power gives you the ability to feel good more of the time even though for most of us it is doing the opposite.
It started when I woke up one day to a knock at my door. I lived in a dorm room with forty women. One woman came in asking me if I could go with her to get a flu shot and I said yes, of course. This one favor may not seem like it could lead to a whole turn around of my lifestyle, but it did when she had a favor a day. Soon, I was pushing my own responsibilities. I stopped going to the gym, eating when I was hungry, doing my laundry every week, and making my bed every day. My own responsibilities did not compare to taking care of others. I resented my friends and the people I spent time with because it felt more like a chore than my own choice. By spending time with others, I knew I could push my anxieties and depression to the back of my mind. Until, they would come out at my least convenience: at the grocery store, falling asleep at night, or in class. All I ever wanted was to be alone and sleep. Sleep because I hadn't slept that night and be alone because my friends weren't real friends. I was a puppet, completing their tasks and making them happy. Where was my happiness?
How to Stay on Top When You're Feeling Down
Down days are the worst days. They're always a real struggle, and sometimes you just can't avoid them no matter what you do. My down days are sometimes caused by other stresses in my life, and sometimes they're not. There are times when they just come up out of nowhere, and it's hard to stay focused and motivated when the depression monster is in your head again.
7 Things That Aren’t Deserving of Your Time, Energy, or Focus
I’m not about to tell you what you already know… cat videos, Netflix and chill, Snapchat… All these guilty pleasures we all know and love.
Laws of Attraction: The Secret to Mental Abundance
"If you can see it in your mind, it is already in your hands" — Bob Proctor The law of attraction is one of the most powerful laws of the universe. What you think about, what you spend your energy on, is what you will attract into your life. It is really that simple. You think negative, you get negative. Consistently worrying and dwelling on your problems will effectively only attract more negativity. Why? Because that is where and what you have focused your attention and spent your your energy on.
Understanding the Role of the Ego
Who Am I? It's been quite sometime now that I have been trying to grasp the concept of the ego. What is it? What is its goal? Is it bad? Is it this separate person living inside of me? Why do I hate it? And Why does it seem like its always getting in the way and causing problems for me?
Kung Fu Legend
There is a legend of a dragon that lives in a cave—a fierce creature that is the root of all despair, hate, jealousy, and much more for all of the world. It is said that the dragon is undying, and yet, it can be beaten. It is also said that a hero who beats the dragon becomes free of its plague on the world.
Why can't I just learn the easy way? I always seem to gravitate towards the hard way of learning. Sometimes, I find myself in the same situation over and over, like a goldfish continuously hitting its head against the reflective tank wall... when will I learn? Will I ever learn, or am I doomed to a similar fate to our poor, clueless, little goldfish? You see, the difference between me and the goldfish is that I actually have a sharply functioning memory. I am typically, to some extent, aware of the consequences of my choices, and even more so for the choices I've made in the past that resulted in a negative outcome. Yet, I still choose to turn a blind eye to the negative outcome reaped from poor past choices, and put the pleasure gained from such choices up on a pedestal. I then develop tunnel vision, and run with full force straight into a very dangerous and/or painful situation. I tend to justify my poor choice with thoughts such as 'I will handle this situation in such a way where I will not get hurt this time' or 'Maybe something has changed and I will have a whole new experience.' I seem to be my own worst enemy in this aspect of self. It really all comes down to choice, and choosing to be consciously aware of the small, momentary and almost subconscious choices made. Choices like the fleet of tiny choices made in forming one's perception, how one views people, places, situations, and things. It seems to me that to take control of one's thoughts and perception would take awareness, commitment, determination, and patience. It seems to me that training oneself to do such a thing would be absolutely life transforming. I find the phrase, "It's all in your head" to be an accurate expressional phrase for something we all know to be life itself. Because everything you see, hear, feel, create, destroy, sense, find, win, lose, gain, trust, hate, fear, and basically experience, is all in your head. Perception is a beautiful and complex phenomenon, and one can never be too aware of the little flight of thoughts that form one's perception. Awareness is indeed half of a tumultuous journey to one's higher self. The other half is action. Self-examination, reading, writing, meditation, affirmations, soul seeking, searching, positive intention, and of course the determination to kick one's own ass into choosing to take the necessary action. It is far too easy to go on about such things for a few moments, but when the time comes to get down to business, Netflix and friends and drama OH MY! Distractions and money and bills oh no! To summarize, it's easier said than done. It's easy to be lazy. Even with a full-time job, and a million things going on, everyone has downtime. It is up to oneself to make time for self-improvement. Take ten minutes a day if that is all one has, and meditate. Set the intention for the day. One must ensure awareness of what one wants and values in life, and what must be done to get there. Meditation is important, as it is far too easy to get caught up in the fast flowing river of thoughts, or lost in the "Tulgey Woods" of the mind (watch the original cartoon version of Alice In Wonderland to understand this reference) and to just sit in complete mental silence can be so very beneficial for one's personal growth! To conclude, this self-help seeking piece of my mind: I know what I must do. I'm aware, and now I must take the necessary action to become the very best version of myself. I 100 percent know I am fully capable of doing this.
The Crossroads of Mental Illness and Philosophy
The Unalome—a Buddhist symbol for the path to enlightenment. At the time I got the tattoo, it meant, for me, the notion that everyone has their own intimately diverse path, but that each and every one is essentially leading to the very same place; enlightenment.
The 5 Lessons That Helped Me Learn to Love Who I Am
I have learned a few things in my 19 short years. By observing the people, I have surrounded myself with, I have learned more about who I am and who I want to be than I ever thought was possible. When I was younger, it’s obvious that I had less of a choice when it came to the people who influenced me, but never the less, they taught me just as much as the people that surround me now. I would like to share with you a few lessons that have had the biggest impact on the way I live my life now.
To Be or Not to Be
“Ain’t nobody gonna piss on you!” were the words of a man by the name of Ryp (Roy) Riley. It means nothing other than, no matter what you do, as long as you keep being you no one will, harm, touch, or mess with who you are. Self-expression is a problem that teens and even adults struggle with. Whether from fear of friends' opinions, others' judgment, or simply not knowing where to start. The latter being a problem that must be solved.
Trust the Process
I've always felt like such a late bloomer. Ever since I was a kid, I would observe my peers and my friends. I would see them excel at certain things I felt I was not able to easily get. I would see them getting those math problems, earning those awards, and nailing those grades. I would even see girls blooming into maturity, dating the cool guy, or just enjoying popularity. I realized I was definitely different and I learned at an early age to appreciate my individuality. Since "comparison is the thief of joy." I allowed myself to observe without envy. Also, my mother always made it clear that God gave me my own gifts and I would learn to appreciate them and utilize them as I got older and I believed her. This truth allowed me to start looking for my strengths early on so I could cultivate them.