Sometimes the Girl Who Is Always There for Everyone Else, Needs Someone There for Her

You feel a lot when you're the girl who is always there for others, whether you're willing or not. Your heart is a vast expanse of water, sometimes troubled and sometimes calm—but always ready to give life to those who need it... even for those too afraid to swim. You are a multilayered personality whose depths seem to have absolutely no limits. You give and you give and you give; tearing pieces of your paper soul into the smallest of fragments just to set someone else aflame.

You're bruised. Good lord, do you feel the hurt. You ache, wondering if someone will ever give you the love you so candidly give out to others. All of this leaves you alone, to only guess if there will ever come a time when someone asks how you are doing, how you are surviving, how you are healing. To leave you guessing if someone will care. Your pain has reached levels of intensity that not many others could possibly bear.

And when that doesn’t happen for you, you heal yourself. Strength is then found for you in things, in other than people, in things you maybe would have never thought of. You find energy in your emptiness and at times sadness in your seclusion. Yet, at the same time, you find desire in your daydreams. You build yourself up, and tell yourself that you don’t need anyone to save you. You will disclose to yourself that you don’t need anyone to steady your foundation.

But you do.

The girl that smiles the biggest sometimes gets the biggest hurt. Sometimes the girl who is always there for everyone else, needs somebody for her. Sometimes the girl who is always the person who wipes other people’s tears, finds herself when she goes home and shouts at lakes in the midnight hour. Sometimes it is necessary to tell the girl who encourages everyone around her that she is appreciated, that she matters; sometimes it is necessary to encourage herself. Even now, you have to understand that despite the fact that you have a strong and steady heart, there is nothing that can compare to the strength of collective hearts beating in unison.

So, if you find yourself reading this and are realizing that you are the girl who is always there for others, I've got a message for you. Never forget that your heart is rare. Know that you hold within you an ability to calm storms in people. You possess a beautiful gift that has relieved aching eyes and battered minds. Know that it is you that gives people hope. Know that by acknowledging the pieces of people most ignore, that you make people feel wanted, that you make people feel like they have purpose. You inspire.

And yet through it all, maybe you do know that you don't need anyone to save yourself—you can be, and you are your own savior.

Sometimes you'll also have to remind yourself that you are not bulletproof. You are smart enough to realize that your fantasies are never a certainty. You need rest. Your heart needs rest. Emphasize within yourself that you need not carry the weight of the world on your shoulders. As much as your heart and mind beg you, you may not be able to save everyone, and you may not be able to heal every hurt. Show to yourself that you deserve to take all of the energy you put out into the world and invest it back into yourself from time to time. That you are worthy of the love you keep giving to everyone else. Remind yourself, that you don’t always have to be strong, that you don’t always have to be the fixer. You know that despite having a soft and gentle heart, it still happens to be a heart of a lion that will never go down without a fight. Remember you can be human, you can ask for help, you don’t have to be the one to save yourself at all times.