Self Worth Should Be Priority

Self worth—you need to find yours!

I have a strong belief in self worth, I believe it's something that not enough people put first. I feel like many rely on others to make them feel good about themselves; They rely on others to make them feel worthy, beautiful, important, loved, the list could go on. The problem with this is that when that comes to a stop, the average human response is to seek validation from another to feel that worth. And when/if that doesn't happen, desperation comes in to play. You may settle for a partner that you know isn't right or a job that you don't enjoy, because you don't feel like you will find another. Self worth is about saying no to the people who don't treat you right, because you deserve the best. Many people rely on a romantic relationship, friends, family or a job for a sense of identity but it is important to ask yourself who you are, without your attachment to others. Ask yourself: What are your beliefs, what do you want to achieve in life, what makes you happy, what do you want to be remembered for, what's your dream, what drives you? And if something or someone was to come along and try to push you in the opposite direction of your dreams & ambitions, how would you react? Would you give it all up for another who didn't support or believe in you; or would you remove yourself from a situation if anyone was to try and jeopardize your dreams? Deep down you know exactly what you're capable of. There will be moments where you get a glimpse of all the potential you have. You will get there. You just have to be willing to sacrifice the habits, objects, relationships & situations that are standing in the way of your success. I have walked away from people that have tried to hold me back, because I know my potential, I know what I want & what I deserve. Life is short, too short to waste your time with people that don't see what you're capable of. Surround yourself with like minded others, who support you. Don't allow people with toxic intentions negatively affect you, it comes from understanding what you deserve.

I feel like self worth is a combination of many emotions; self love, self trust, confidence, strength, belief. Once you find, understand & put them all together, you will see your worth & believe you can do anything. Once you understand your true self, nothing else matters. Because from then on, every situation you go through you will be able to overcome with no doubts. You will no longer doubt yourself when you're faced with obstacles; you will make your decision and back yourself 100 percent. It is important to trust how you're feeling; your body & mind know exactly what they wants & needs, you just need to trust that whichever path it's taking you down, it's for the right reasons. You may not have reached your destination yet, you may even feel like you're being lead astray, but understand that everything has a purpose & if you follow your instincts and trust the process, you will end up exactly where you want to be.

With this, I also believe that your self worth will grow from what you go through. You will have situations in life where you can either be strong & stand up for yourself or keep living the same life & forgiving the people who continuously let you down. At the time you may feel weak, too weak to stand up for yourself; You fall back into the trap of putting another before yourself & feeling like it's easier to stay. I get it. But how long can you continue with this cycle? Something must give; you have to believe everything will be okay. Because it will. Remember when you feel like you're in a hard place or you feel like your strength is being challenged, picture yourself in a year's time. Do you want to be in this same position? If the answer is no, then you need to leave that in the past & look to your future—if you feel like you're too weak each time, you'll end up in the same position months or years down the track. It may be hard for a short time, but what will be harder is if you stay & look back a year later and be disappointed you didn't find the strength to change. For me, if I ever feel like I am being challenged & I know what the right thing to do is, but in that moment I feel weak; I tell myself, "Deana, you can do this, everything will be okay, be strong," over and over in my head. I remind myself how strong I am, what I want, the love & worth I have for myself, whose feelings matter the most, what's really important—it helps put everything into perspective & shift my mindset back to how I feel.  

I hope that whatever you are going through, you find the strength to fight for yourself. If you don't fight, if you don't believe in yourself, who will? Find the strength to understand that you are important, you are beautiful, you are worthy. Believe it so deeply that if someone or something tried to challenge your self worth, you won't listen. Ask yourself, do the opinions of others change who you are as a person? They don't understand the struggles & internal fights you're having with yourself trying to keep everyone else happy. Make the decision to do what's right for you, even if that means leaving a relationship, friendship or steady job behind, if that's what you feel needs to be done to help with your self growth & happiness, then make that leap of faith.

My five steps to help to understand your self worth:

• Self love. Love yourself for who you are. Don't compare. Let your beauty from within, shine through.
• Self trust. Follow your intuition & gut. No matter how scared you may be, it will be the right decision for you to follow the journey.
• Confidence. Back yourself in every decision you make. Stand up for yourself & what you want.
• Strength. Find the strength to overcome your challenges. Remind yourself the way you feel now, it won't last forever. Once you rise on the other side you will be reminded just how strong you are.
• Belief. Believe everything will be okay. Because it will be. Believe you deserve the best life. And believe you deserve to be happy.

I hope you conquer any internal fights & challenges you are facing & decide who is important. Remember to trust your intuition, love yourself, understand your worth & do what you feel is right.

Deana xoxo