Self-Love

How many times have we heard the self love talk?!

I can tell you, I have read or heard about it more than one hundred times. Through posts, books, articles, videos, therapists, what have you... I have had people tell me "oh you are so wonderful", "you are so pretty", "you are so brave" several times. However, I was always so critic of myself that those compliments never stuck. The one "you are not enough" got stuck almost a lifetime though...

It took me a lot time alone with myself to really get it. I realized that when you are alone no one is going to root for you; no one will make you get up and go do the things you have to do and no one will look at you and tell you "you look wonderful". Except for you! You are your best friend, your biggest love and your own cheerleader!

One day I read something that said "You live most of your life inside your head. Make sure it's a comfortable place.". And I can't stress enough how this is the core of it all! It starts in your head, in your thoughts to yourself.

Firstly, think of a garden. What do you do if you want a beautiful garden? You start by planting things you like, helping them flourish and tending to them constantly. With love.

Secondly, think of your head as a garden. Start by planting beautiful, striving and achieving thoughts. Thoughts of love, worthiness and success. Now, the hardest but most important part: help those thoughts flourish, feed them and tend to them constantly. With a lot of love.

What thoughts have you been planting lately?! Remember, if you plant love you will get a good love harvest. Always do it with love!

It starts with the acceptance of how special you are just by being you. With your quirks and flaws included!

It starts in front of the mirror with morning pep talks to yourself about your wonders, "woow I look so cute even with these puffy eyes" or "specially with these puffy eyes"!

It starts with self compassion and self forgiveness. By treating yourself with kindness, being mindfull of your language to yourself and forgiving your past mistakes. Believe me, no one remembers that one time that your t-shirt was see-through and your bra was showing. That´s just your mind playing tricks on you...

It starts with you supporting yourself everyday, when things are wonderful but also when they are dark. Specially when they are dark because that's when self-doubt kicks in and you need to love yourself the most.

It starts with letting go of the idea of perfectionism. You don't need to be perfect or to achieve perfection to be worthy and most importantly, to be happy!

Imagine the following, your best friend comes to you feeling useless, worthless, what would you do to help her? You would build her confidence back, right?! Remind her of how great she is and how important she is to you.

Self love is you doing this to yourself! Being kind to yourself, building your own confidence back and reminding yourself that you are an absolute treasure!

Now, I know it sounds simpler than it is, but with baby steps you'll get there! Train your head like a muscle to daily love yourself a little bit more. Self love is a journey not a destination.

Now if you need a little motivation to start of your own journey:

You are wonderful, you are beautiful, you are smart and, specially you are enough! Believe in me, I believe in you!