Secrets to Surging your SELF-CONFIDENCE

Ever wondered what’s that slight difference when two people have the same skill set and one of them gets hired? Or two people have the similar backgrounds and one of them gets the girl? Why do some people seem to do everything while others struggle to do even one thing right?

In my view, its SELF-CONFIDENCE! Of course it is related to self esteem, believing in yourself and self worth. But the major theme is confidence.

So everyone keeps saying boost your confidence or increase your self-reliance, but the key question is How?

Some of the tips that I have found extremely helpful are:

Posture and eye contact. Simple things such as standing up tall, or sitting straight, or having power poses( hands on your hips etc) make a huge difference in the way you feel. Even having a practice of eye contact can really change the way the opposite person perceives you.

Embrace and give compliments! And every time you do this just take a pause, a moment of reflection, 9 out of 10 times you will feel awesome about yourself in either cases. The elevator is the best place to start what do you have to loose, you might not even meet the other person ever again.

Motivating podcasts and blogs have them in your routine, read inspiring books on how people overcame their barriers. Have a morning and evening reminder of how you can inculcate this in your life and feel even more certain and confident about yourself.

Stop apologizing to be yourself. Everyone has quirks that some people like and dislike, that doesn’t define who you are. If someone doesn’t approve of your flaws or quirks stop trying to please them, impress others or keeping them on the pedestal no matter how much you look unto them. No-one has the right to shake your self belief or make you think something is wrong with you.

Everyday should be sincere practice from moving from your insecurities to believing in yourself, expanding your comfort zone and above all breaking the inner glass ceiling or limited thought pattern. Inch by inch, thought by thought.

Taking good care of yourself Whether it is hitting the gym to stay fit, eating healthy or even buying that new dress (or makeup for women) can be complementary factors adding to your game. Disclaimer: You also have to feel comfortable in what you do or wear otherwise it defeats the purpose

You are the king or queen of your own world! Don’t let the society, religion, your friends or your family bring you down. What they think or say about you has nothing to do with who you actually capable of. Start small in things that are not so important, but live life on your own terms, not because media says it’s cool, or peer pressure or it will look good on instagram. Do stuff that makes your heart sing, no matter how unconventional it can be. Stop showing your life is good and start feeling good.

Invest in creating a network of your well-wishers, these are the people who believe in you. By even meeting or thinking of them you feel so good and confident about yourself.

It’s all about how you feel about yourself, either by adding something external or doing the inner work with your thoughts (breaking the mind conditioning) ! The bottom line is feeling confident is synonymous to feeling good, proud, happy about yourself.

And from this confident space of trusting yourself you will get the dream job, the dream body and maybe even the dream girl!

Isn't that why self-confidence also seen as the foundation for all great achievement and success?

Stay confident, stay happy.