Queen of The Moment

Own It!

Often times, we are faced with great sadness and despair, simply because of what we are feeling. We forget that we have a right to choose what we do with our emotions. We are given this life to explore this beautiful planet and all that we encounter within it, yet we are most likely to respond to our existence based on what and how we feel in any given circumstance. Our lives are not conditional when it comes to the experience of bliss. Nothing and no one can confiscate our right to choose how we respond to unfavorable circumstances. Of course, life will throw us left and right upon the coursing currents of unforgiving streams of emotional disturbance, but how we manage in the water is what counts. We all suffer deep emotional dis-ease at some point, whether it is instigated by our own children, mate, family member, friend or co-worker. It happens to all of us. What doesn’t always happen is our remembrance of our rights to choose how we react and respond. We find ourselves approaching that proverbial emotional elevator, and we somehow always seem to press the button that takes us DOWN, don’t we? Well, why? It’s as if we don’t know in that moment that we can choose to take that same elevator UP! It’s us, isn’t it? We are pushing the buttons, ultimately. It’s our very own choice. The doorman of our mind is standing there when the doors open. “Which way, sir or madam?” And then, we choose. We choose the floor, don’t we? There are so many floors. The let’s just have a few drinks floor, the let’s get high floor, the lets be promiscuous floor, let’s not forget the gambling floor, or let's beat our mate or children floor! Any one of those have been pushed repeatedly by someone in our society. It happens every day. They take the elevator down. Let me give you an example:

There was a woman who was very much in love with the man of her dreams. She catered to his well being in a way that sometimes took her away from her own well-being, but it was fine for her to do so (in the beginning) because she loved HIM so much. The beginning was dreamy for the two of them, but things became very difficult really quick. He began to work through his off days to make money AND to get away from his emotional fiance, which pained her tremendously because she wanted to spend time with him in hopes of curing her emotional discomfort. Things were rocky in her life, plagued by problems with her family and she tried to make a life-jacket out of him. He, on the other hand, had his own way of being and emotional availability was not on the menu. Soon he was laid off of his position and became even more unavailable to her. Their arguments and distance from each other began to increase. Very swiftly, he found another job working overnights. This was harder for the woman, but she didn’t complain. She looked forward to his off-days, hoping she could extract the comfort she needed from him and repair their relationship when he was home. But alas, he chose his off-days to take a break from work and his woman. She was left alone- not because he was always out of the house, but because even while he was home, he shut her out and didn’t talk to her. When he did talk to her, he would snap and use harsh tones. She was devastated, becoming an emotional basket case. She felt destroyed because she looked to him for her well-being. He wasn’t even the type of person to provide emotional wellness, but she didn’t know that. She was under the impression that what she created about him in her head, was the actual imagery he possessed as real attributes. She lied to herself and then blamed him for the lie, didn’t she? So, when he showed proof of his unavailability, her falling apart in her life seemed to be the only response she could provide. She was devastated by the disappointment of not receiving what she felt that she needed by way of closeness and re-assurance. She began to tell herself that he didn’t care for her at all, and that she meant nothing to his life. But she had made HIM her life, and the imbalance was mind-blowing. She chose to take the elevator down, didn’t she? She chose to feel the emotions that she hand selected as a response to the disappointment. She could have taken the elevator up at the first sign of discomfort. Any number of outcomes would have been better than the depression she created by choosing otherwise. She might have decided to venture into other areas of her life and produce outstanding results. Placing her energy into the things that she did have control over and extending her good self in those positive areas of her existence. She could have began a vision board of what she wanted to experience in life from that point forward, or spend time on any one of her brilliant creative projects, or even just learning to sew. She could have chosen to just find a space in nature to be still and quiet and breathe. She could have taken the elevator up and realized that she couldn’t control other people, but that she could love herself enough to control herself regarding other people.

There are NO BAD DAYS! There are only bad thoughts, bad choices and sometimes bad circumstances, but every single day is beautifully designed to support your life force energy. It is up to us to let go of the need to be anything outside of what we already magnificently are. I challenge you to be the Queen or King of your every single moment - and I challenge you to choose BLISS!