Please...Just Anyone Else!

🗨"Oh, I'm just beside myself today"... But try that, every single day🙄. 🗨"Oh, I'm just not feeling like myself right now"... But feel that, every single day😒. 🗨"Oh, I'm just not up to it"... But navigate that throughout the day, every. single. day😕.

It's fair enough to say that life comes with it's fair share of up's and down's. Although, is there or has there ever been a time when you feel/felt like you're just getting hit THE MOST with these supposed 'fair share' of hard times. Like why is everyone else doing just fine and I'm over here in the wraths of hell just to get my way into heaven. Okay yeah I know all about 'not comparing your life's journey with others', 'you never know what someone else may be going through' and 'just do you'. But listen, when your naturally drawn to pay attention to other people's life it's IMPOSSIBLE to not compare. I'm not even talking about social media, I'm talking about the regular everyday. When you're walking down the street and you see a happy couple then you start thinking about how you wish you had that. Or you're out at a public location then you see a group of friends just kicking it and you wonder 'why me & my friends can't be like that'. Or you've designated some time alone but all of your thoughts arise about how you don't have this or that as compared to her/him/they and you feel this pit in the bottom of your stomach because you sincerely wish that you had it going on like they do right now, but you don't - AND IT SUCKS! Sure comparison may not be healthy, but you do it anyway because YOU'RE HUMAN and that's what we do. It's how we adapt to various change of situations, judge if something is safe or dangerous for us, even what's the pros & cons of a current life venture we're contemplating 24/7. Also, how else are you gonna keep up with the day to day events if you're not comparing to evaluate what's really worth your time or not. Comparing your life all the time isn't good but not comparing isn't a sought after option either.

So now let's move on to my good 'ol friend - Complaining. Everyone seems to judge the act of complaining. Not just that, people also become very angry when or if you start to complain. Then they give you a run-down list of why your complaining isn't helping anything by saying things like 'people who don't have x,y,z aren't complaining', 'people over in a.b.c aren't complaining' and 'people who did 1,2,3 in their lives never complained'. I say hogwash. I'm pretty sure people who don't have x,y,z ; live in a,b,c ; or ever did anything within their life ; does/did a tremendous amount of complaining because...THEIR HUMAN. The primary definition of complaining is - the expression of dissatisfaction or annoyance about something. Raise your hand if you've ever been dissatisfied or annoyed about something...EXACLTY. With that simple indication in mind you have and probably are right now, complaining. And complaining comes in many different forms. Think about when (if you do) you pray, are you speaking from that 'grateful heart'? Or are you begging & pleading for things to go right, for everything to get better, or just asking for some sort of guidance & clarity because it's hard to understand the nature of your current reality. What about the times of when you get cut off in traffic, or the line at the grocery store is a mile long, or your doctor reschedules your appointment for the millionth time. Think about the subtle ignorance, the inconvenience and the absolute magnitude of raging A N N O Y A N C E that you feel. How exactly do you react to all of that? Are you kind, patient, forgiving, understanding and continue to go about about your day in a blissful state of sunshine. Or are you pissed off, about to blow up, roll your eyes and smack your teeth then say the one word we all know and love - UUUGGGGHHHH😤🙀! I think the first caveman said that beloved word 'UGH!' when the fire he worked so hard to ignite went out in a mere few seconds later. Also, just think about how all of the acts of complaints throughout the years have shaped the way of the world. From movements to marches & legislation changes ; school & classroom rules ; the frequency of family meetings & protocols ; even the products that we use everyday were co-created from reviews, opinions and high stakes of dissatisfaction. Complaining isn't bad or wrong, it's our natural reaction to when things aren't up to par. When we feel the need to make things better or bring a cause to switch things up for the good, it comes from rightfully complaining. Nonetheless, it just feels really good to vent from time to time😌.

Now that we've unearthed the ways of comparing and complaining, there's a question that hangs in the balance - where do I go from here? From comparing and complaining, what comes next is usually uphill or downhill. What if there was a middle ground though. A place in between the up's and down's. How does one become neutral in times of despair or in moments of uncertainty and chaos. Very good questions indeed...I myself am trying to figure out THE SAME THING🤣! Although, as I continue on to find my way through this wild ride of a journey called life, I find that the best way to remain neutral is to simply feel the feels. What do I mean by that you wonder. Well, to feel the feels is to allow the experience of whatever may be causing grief (or joy) to just wash over you. When there's an overseeing amount of the cause in effect, it can become a slippery slope to get overtaken by the arising emotions. So you have to align yourself to be the anchor rather than the steer. Of course it's tempting to want to control your emotions so you can proclaim that you have a hold on things but you don't have to 'control' your emotions. Emotions are just energy in motion. Everything you feel will naturally come and go. The ebb & flow of life is to feel, release and let be. 🤔~" Mmkay, sounds cool, but how do I do that? " You do this by acknowledging your emotions as valid, not necessarily good or bad...but valid. Become still within your inner world to find the peace that comes from self compassion. Feel the feels then set them free. You don't have to hold onto them, analyze there depths, or try to control the course of there direction because they will only be with you for a short amount of time anyway. However, as all of this sounds lovely it's incredibly hard to do when you're in the thick of things {trust me, I know!🙁} . So how to stay face and surrender to the waves of emotion based awareness? Just let it be. 😵~ " HUH!?! " Yep, you heard me right. Just let it be. If something comes up that pisses you off, your feelings are valid as to the pertained situation. Let that rage wash over you without a need of immediate action. Then let it go. It's okay to be angry. As it is also okay to be sad, confused, conflicted, anxious, worried, nervous, frustrated and flustered. All of your feelings are valid and you have the right to feel them. Your existence within this life isn't solely measured upon what you do as a human but who are as a being. The author, speaker and musician Justin Michael Williams says it best🙏🏽 : "It's not about what you are doing, it's about who you are being". From the moment I first heard him say that it stuck with me, as it rang truth within my own spirit.✨

Do you remember being in class and the teacher asked a unanimous question for everyone to answer - but you didn't know the answer. So you're just hoping that they don't call on you. Somehow they can detect that not only do you not want to answer, but that you also don't know the answer as well. So what do they do...they call on you😩. And here goes nothing. The class is quiet. The teacher waits for a response. Everyone stares at you. You get nervous. Next thing ya' know...you choke and say something completely left field. The class laughs. The teacher gets annoyed. And you get in trouble. Now tell me that doesn't relate to adulthood. You go to check the mail and hope it's not a bill. But guess what. It's a bill. Not just any bill though, oh no ; it's the one you've been secretly avoiding because you can't pay it. Or better yet when you go on a job interview then they ask you a question that you didn't prep for, let alone heard of before. And you try to casually change the subject to coax the fact that you have no idea of what they're talking about. We try so hard to avoid all the things that we don't know, don't understand and don't have the answer to. Usually as a way to buy ourselves more time to find a resolution. But it never fails that we ultimately just don't have the missing piece that's needed. A good day can turn bad at the blink of an eye once uncertainty comes along. How are we gonna be able to do this, if we don't have that. How can we go there, if we're stuck over here. The instant response is by becoming reluctant. Just hoping that another thing doesn't happen to throw you off course. And getting afraid of what tomorrow might bring as you try to figure things out. It's not a fun place to be in. You can become so overwhelmed with stress that you literally can't focus on anything else. Keeping up with the day to day gets to be exasperating. Why me! Why now! Why not anyone else?! 😶¦And not to wish any ill will on anyone but just please...anyone else, but me!¦ Within the teachings of law of attraction it states that like attracts like. If you think positively then positive things will come. If you think negatively then negative things will come. But it feels so offhand when negative things actually do arise without any of your own thought or input. So your then left to wonder, what now. Or even when you think all of the positive things you possibly can, just to get knocked down - a tenfold. And you're left feeling as though the good of the universe let you down. You 'thought' everything will be okay. You genuinely tried your best. Things still didn't work out though. But whose to say that it's all over and done with.

We plan things out to a T. We schedule things to be well suited for ourselves and others. We arrange for things to be in an exact order. We design everything with accuracy and precision. We perform at our very best. We use high tech tools and management controls. We seek out only value and quality. We attain high performing schedules of maintenance and routine. We do everything in our power to get the highest level of results. And...$h!t happens. Life happens. Things fall apart. You missed a beat. You forgot to add something to the schedule. You overslept and now you're running late. The internet is down. You have no cell service. Someone forgot to submit in the final paperwork and now the whole team has to pay for it. The car in front of you broke down so now there's traffic and you can't go anywhere for an X amount of time. We have zero control of our outside circumstances. We can plan all we want to, but the inevitable is in the uncertainty of itself. To simply release our need for control can bring in a lot more flow. Things won't happen in the way that we want or think they need to. Our safety trigger is to grasp onto control as quickly as possible so we can prepare and avoid a mayday situation. But hey, what if there wasn't a such thing as control. What if it was all in our head, this control thing. What if we are only telling ourselves that we need to control all of the circumstances in our life to just keep up with our own ego. Now with this being said, ego isn't bad. Ego is of whatever you tell it to be. As in, if you tell yourself everything needs to be perfect. Ego will kick in to direct course to make sure to prove this to be true then to divide & conquer anything that dares to challenge this notion. Same goes for control. We may often say that we don't try to control things but, subconsciously, we do it regardless. We're only human. It's natural to want to control our life. Although, wouldn't it be more fun if we didn't know how the story ended. If life is truly a journey then why not set sail on the sea of uncertainty. So what if everything didn't go as planned, maybe it didn't need to. So what if we didn't get that job we wanted, maybe we dodged a bullet. And so what if all of your adult responsibilities has now become unpredictable, maybe there's reason for it. Life happens. Things change to rearrange. I know it may feel like your life is falling apart from time to time {I get it, I'm there myself😎} but perhaps everything is coming together. Don't lose faith. You're more than allowed to feel all the feels as they come & go. Feel free to vent or just straight up complain. Don't beat yourself if you start to compare. Everything is as it should be, right now within this very moment. You're gonna grow from this. You'll be able to share your newfound gems with other people. You're gonna get that beautiful vision you have in mind. Just continue to hold on. I can't promise you it'll get easier. It will however, be worth it.

Thanks a million for reading! 🤓💐🍿🦄💖💃🏽