People wake up because of pain

Our life is always like this, no one can wake up a person who is pretending to sleep, only he is willing to wake up. Similarly, it is difficult to change a person, only he can change if he wants to.

So only if the person feels the pain, then he is willing to wake up. Perhaps you may think this passage is inaccurate, you can look at past events, in our lives, how many times have you woken up because someone else woke up?

Many times people want to change themselves because they have no other way to go, so they want to make changes.

01 Reading is a shortcut to life, you can avoid suffering

There is a saying that goes like this: life and learning hardships, always choose one.

When we are young, we always think that learning is suffering, and also do not have any freedom. When we grow up, we repent and realize that the consequences of not studying hard are serious. If you do not study hard, you will only get farther and farther away from real freedom.

02 When we face a crisis, the value of studying hard becomes apparent

We should not delude ourselves into that we can change a person, because if we are bent on trying to change each other, it is only ourselves who suffer.

I have two friends, and for convenience, I call two people A and B.

A and B are a boyfriend and girlfriend relationship, They Like to study, but B does not like it.

A is the only one who can change his fate through learning, while B only immerses himself in the world of video games every day and has no money, only constant questions and complaints. After B failed in his career time and again, A wanted to help B change his current situation and told him that "if you want to have a decent job, you have to study, and studying is the fastest way". But no matter what A said, B ignored it.

Gradually, A found that they had completely different values and often quarreled.

A came to me for help. I told her:

Don't try to make him change, let him continue his life now, there will come a day when he has experienced enough pain; he will know how important it is to learn.

Because he doesn't feel real pain, he doesn't like to learn. In a word, people are always like this; they will only learn when there is no other path to pass, and then they will give up the present ideas.

03 Only after feeling the pain of illness, do people know how to take care of themselves

Now I want to share a story with you.

Mr. James was a very hard-working man, because of his daily work, so that he did not have a good knowledge of his body, and always forgot to eat, and his time was scheduled by him so that he could pull in more customers and earn more money.

Then one day. , he felt unwell and went to the hospital for a check-up. He was very shocked to get the results because he had been ill for a long time and was already in the late stage of cancer and was about to end his life. He regretted very much his lack of love for himself.

He had earned a lot of money, but the lack of all this money was used to treat himself.

Therefore, only when irreversible consequences are caused do people know to cherish the present.

We can make changes now.