Living Off-the-Cuff

With the many self-help books out there, no one can imagine the millions of perspectives out there, including my own.

Until you see all the viewpoints in different writings, then you are bombarded with which direction to go. Even the different religious books state in one way or the other, theirs is the one and only to read. Not saying that you shouldn’t read your preferred books, by no means. These writings all give you an outline, of the day in the life of the one writing it, of course. The author’s point of view or experience is what they write from, that may or may not help you at the time. We essentially do know (or should know) what is right and wrong for us.

Where am I going with this? Oh, yea, off the cuff or life unscripted or spontaneous even. Going with the flow is what I’m sharing. Some love plans and the normal routine that is fine. I still plan too but not as bad as I used to be. Planning myself neurotic. I am learning just to be, which means you go with what comes at you. Have a plan or general direction? Absolutely! Don’t beat yourself up if you don’t fully know what direction you are going in. As you go with your flow, share what you need to. Stop and listen, even for a minute. Your gut or conscious lets you know by sending signals to you what is the right and wrong. Tune into that sends you signals and/or signs (whatever you want to call it) and living off the cuff will be easy to be attained.

Throughout our life, we were taught to plan, vision, and work hard, which is not all incorrect. I am a planner by nature and I’m learning to let some of the control go. Have you ever driven to work at a job you just felt like a number? Did you just to have a pile up on 95? Or whatever highway you drive to get to that job. Did you plan to be in a pile-up? If you get some notice, you may be able to detour your track to work. No matter what we plan, doesn’t mean that is the way life is going to go. Doesn’t mean you can’t adjust your sails a little. To allow for the change in winds and still end up where you planned to begin with or an even better place.

Open book people are great, indeed. They seem genuine and authentic, in most cases. However, I’ve learned not everything needs to be let out of my story, to know I have one. Even though I have shared many things on these pages, there are some things viewed inward as my own journey. In some things, privacy should be respected and appreciated. I don’t have to announce what I stand for, people will know by my actions. It’s good sometimes to keep quiet and just let your intentions speak for themselves.

Go through life in the dark? Even in the darkness, something can be learned. Just because it’s dark at night, doesn’t mean the stars aren’t there to shine. You’re a being in this moment, a part of this world. Recognize the darkness and the light. Rejoice in each. Your instincts or learning experiences shaped you. No one can take away what is in your soul. So, don’t let anyone try. Light your own path through the dark times. Be kind to others in their walks, they may be in darkness or they may be in the light. Both instances are not all bad or good. There’s a lot of gray areas that we all need to consider in life.

You may think I have my head in the clouds, or that I wear rose-colored glasses. It’s ok! I prefer the way I think just fine. Maybe it’s true or maybe it is what I’d love to see during my lifetime. You were not made to be junk in this world. You are part of the universe, as the universe is part of you. The future is yet to be, the past is gone—you have this one moment in time. What love can you show yourself today? What today is your heart telling you to do? Where and what is your moment?

Living off the cuff / in the moment is full of surprises of what comes across our spirit. Simplicity with wisdom gained in experience. When seeking knowledge, seek the wisdom in how to apply it. There is just no need to over complicate life. There will always be a struggle as life happens around us, there is the other side of it all too.

Notice in the development of your character through all the days of your life. Determining what happens in the quality of your life. It is rather within in you is far more than measuring up to the external. Take all these happenings in life into consideration. Ponder it if you must to make a lesson learned. There is something good that can come out of the bad in any situation. The good, bad, and the parts you just need to love yourself through. It really isn’t about another; everything starts with you and what you see. It’s about where you sit with yourself, right now on that cuff moment. All this makes living "off the cuff" a little easier for you. Don’t fight the learning opportunities that come along in the moment. It’s like fighting against a champion when you haven’t trained. Therefore, meditation is such a powerful motivator to kicking butt in life. Kicking your own butt, that is…. lol.

Right now is your chance at a life unscripted to reclaim the lost bliss. "Bleace" is found in a moving or active sense. Bleace is ever moving, flowing as well as peace does. LOL makes sense to me anyway. To stay in boredom and humdrum-ness leads to depression. Most of the depressed feelings come from a state of I don’t want to do. Make yourself snap into a state of doing. Even during relaxation and meditation, you are doing something for it is free flow. Flow is a state of movement, people. Breathe deeper, take walks, and enjoy the earth. Evoke the inner you that comes up with the next best thing.

Just like the methodical process of restoring a classic car to its glory, it takes starting with a great foundation. It might take busting knuckles, stripping screws, and not finding the right emblem pieces. It may cause frustration, as I heard many of times, “Why the hell won’t this thing turn over?” Working through problems to find the solution was there all along. Yes, finally! Getting the engine to turn over after many of the unique swear words you can come up with nights. The thrill of driving it knowing all is fixed and you are proud to drive it. Bleace can even be found in these moments too. When doing this with someone in hopes of handing it down yes, it is a reminder of the memories made. Yes, I love classic, muscle, and fun cars of yesteryear.

Whether it be you found an easier way to do something, or a new wellness app, or for helping humanity in general. Whatever it is, go do it. How freeing is that to you? If you have a fear or anxiety come up, you are letting the ego back in. Change occurs which can be just as exhilarating as it is scary. Why not step out in faith that your body, mind, and soul can motivate you? It is possible you don’t have to plan everything? Instead of planning everything in your head, change what you can. Controlling for every avenue, every issue that comes along is a waste of time. You can have a guide, not control, life will make certain to throw a curve ball. Know what truly happens can be more of a blessing, without the plan.

I have read on a quote board, not sure who started it thank you. Sometimes you just don’t get closure. You just move on. You may never get the “I’m sorry” you wanted. You may not get the true unconditional, “I love you” or even the romantic one. You may not get the “goodbye” you wanted. Though there are no guarantees, continue. There will be moments that swing back around in your favor and make all the difference in your world.

We’ve hopefully was taught to share, not just our toys, as in our youth. In the daily sharing of our encouragement, giving, and our wisdom we find something more than money can buy. The hope, joy, and love that is far more precious than jewels. This goes along with that filling of cup spoke about in self- talk. I think in a circular pattern, sometimes. Other times, it’s kind of a scribble. We learn through experience. If your desire is to help and assist others, yes you can give from where you are now and many people do. Aren’t we to also teach others? So, they can get their own lives straight. From a successful place, we can share more with less fortunate then giving a quick hand out. Why because we’ve mastered our own selves and what success looks like for us. Then we share.

I hope that when I’m older, even more, that I am able to experience and share. Just maybe, I’ll be one of those crazy older people, dancing at the drop of a hat. I’ll be laughing it up with other friends. Yep, just laughing like a lunatic remembering some great times. The next moment I can even the person sitting on the park bench next to my love, enjoying a moment of silence and feeding the birds. Possibly, writing again about some hidden mysteries I have yet to unfold. Why wait until you are older? Have this day, unscripted and off the cuff. Take that route not taken before. Laugh at things you find funny. Forget who’s around and be you in that moment.

It is true, I could have taken all I have learned and hide it within and not share. That wouldn’t be true to me and living my authentic, unscripted life.