If You Are the Smartest Person in the Room, You Are in the Wrong Room

The wrong room is made up of people you know that are usually lazy and lack ambition. The wrong place also contains dreams that fled, hopes that died, and a movement of silent jealousy in every corner. This is perhaps a scenario you don’t wish to be in.

Rarely do we take the time to notice our surroundings. Once we have become used to them, we forget that people change over time and that bitterness takes a toll on those doomed by disdain. We must remember we are not those who wish to carry the weight of the world on our shoulders. There you are advising all your friends, being the good friend, selling your dreams short just to spend quality time.

No, its time to give those things up. If it doesn’t serve you, it's draining. If you're going around chasing people that aren’t the direct family in hopes that they don’t fuck up, you're just wasting your energy.

If it is not a fuck yes, it's a fuck no. Stop wasting your time. Cut the bullshit. Cut out the people.

If you question if you had a good time, you probably didn’t. If you suspect if that person is your friend, they probably aren’t. If you feel drained, tired, confused, or aggravated after hanging out with someone, close that door and do not see them again. Stop fleeing the truth, confront the problems and the opinions, and be real with yourself.

As people, we make the mistake of not letting go. We pain at the thought of losing yet another friend or becoming more alone then we already are. What you fail to realize is that sometimes life rids you of people and scenarios to take you to other people and situations. If you're too busy hanging onto the wrong things, you will never find the right stuff. That’s where that quote was created: “After one door closes another will open.”

I have a theory that old friends are useful only to an extent. They are the support we need and the good laugh once in a while, but they are not the people helping you chase your dreams nor the people meeting you on your new alignment path. They are merely the people that grew up in the same neighborhood, attended the same class; but that doesn't define yours forever.

Loyalty is arbitrary and confuses the world. In a world of such obscure friendships, we should be loyal to ourselves. Honesty to yourself is the best gift one can obtain.

Signs you're in the wrong room:

Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds talk people.

Let's say we are at heart of a living room surrounded by five people. This scenario can go three ways. You recite your theory.

1. The people question your idea, make statements, improve the design, give feedback or share reminders. (exp: Silicon Valley)
2. The people sit there think you're too aggressive start talking about the next big party, or the coolest shoes, or the coolest new bag. (exp: Burning Man)
3. The people become jealous they can't come up with their ideas, start rolling their eyes, making small chit-chat. Disregard your concept and continue gossiping. (exp: Small town talk)

Don’t be the person in room 2 & 3. You are selling yourself short; you're not walking out with anything positive. You're dooming your dreams and wasting energy on people that don't matter.

Things to do once you’ve rid yourself of wasteful people:

• Go the bookstore buy the book that haunts you.
• Attend the sketch convention you've been searching for online.
• Write a book.
• Play a sport.
• Learn a new kind of dance.
• Make peace with the worst thing about yourself and work on it.
• Learn a new language.
• Learn to play a new instrument.

I highly suggest downloading an app called Meetup: it shares interests between people in your community. You can do the things you like with companions that won’t obstruct your path. You can finally do the things you wanted to do that your friends didn’t accompany you too.

DON’T BE SCARED TO GIVE UP WHAT NO LONGER SERVES YOU & TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR OWN LIFE!