I'm not on the Clearance Rack

The dictionary defines Self worth as the sense of one's own value or worth as a person; self-esteem; self-respect. So it makes sense that our choices when choosing a mate will be directly connected to self worth. For example, have you ever been in a bad relationship, then afterwards asked yourself, "What was i thinking"?! Ever wonder why you keep attracting the same type of individual? Different face, but same characteristics? Knowing deep inside, your settling for far less than what you deserve? Truth is, the relationships we chose are very often are a direct reflection of how we feel about ourselves. If we believe we unworthy of love, we will choose a mate that will support that. Although it can manifest itself in many different ways, here i will address three ways in which low self worth will have you choosing from the bottom of the barrel.

The first tell tale sign is that we choose someone who disrespects us or devalues us. When we allow someone to treat us this way, it speaks to what we feel we deserve. We cannot say we are worthy of respect, yet allow someone to treat us poorly. When we allow someone to treat us this way, it also sends a message to them that it's ok to do so. When you know you are worthy you will not allow anyone to mistreat you. In fact, when someone treats you that way, you let them know this is not acceptable.

The second sign would choosing someone who continually violates your trust. Perhaps they've stepped outside of the relationship and were unfaithful. I heard many women say their partner has cheated, sometimes numerous times, and they've accepted it. Many times in the name of "Love"! To continue to accept this, speaks once again to how we value ourselves. Not to mention, what our definition of love is.

Lastly, and this one's a biggie, Begging or pleading for someone to spend time with you. Recently i was at the nail salon, when i overheard a woman there arguing with someone on the telephone. She was quite loud, so i couldn't help but hear. In fact, everyone there took notice. What was troubling about the conversation, was that she was arguing with her boyfriend about him not spending time with her. She angrily stated how he spent time with everyone else but her. When you know your worth, you know you don't have to beg or plead with anyone to spend time with you. You know what you bring to the table and will not lower your standards or compromise for someone who doesn't see that. You know your not something on the clearance rack, so you won't give others a discount!