I Get by with a Little Help from My Friends

I’m on a journey. It’s been amazing so far and it will be so in the future too. By amazing I don’t mean that it’s felt good or great all the way, because it really hasn’t at all. It’s been amazing because it’s taken me to where I am today and I’m so grateful for that. I’ve learned a lot on the way.

Especially the steps that I’ve taken this year feel so important to me, though I know that every single step on the journey has been important in it’s own way. Still, some of the steps that I’ve taken this year surely feel very powerful. And I guess that though a step is a step, some steps are just bigger and longer and heavier than others.

Anette Prehn has written a song in Danish called “Sang om synergi” [Song about Synergy] (you can find it here: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_Ds02VwtADw). Synergy can be described as “the extra energy, power, success, etc. that is achieved by two or more people or companies working together, instead of on their own” (Oxford Advanced Learners Dictionary, 8th ed. p. 1570).

The text in “Sang om synergi” went straight to my heart when I heard it earlier this year. I guess it might be because my heart knows that I’m not supposed to grow alone on my own. I can do things by myself, of course, be in my own space, YES, I actually need that to grow, but I’m not supposed to grow alone on my own. I grow best when “I get by with a little help from my friends” as the Beatles sing so lovely.

For me sometimes that help has been from other people being in the same ‘same-time-and-space-bubble’ as me either in the same physical space (for example in the same room) or in the same psychical space (for example on the phone or at FaceTime, Zoom etc.). There’s definitely power in that and I’ve experienced really powerful energy in such same-time-and-space-bubbles, experiencing synergy happening right there.

Other times, and I guess that that’s what I’ve done most these last couple of years the help has been through other people’s ‘creation-bubbles.’ Such creation-bubbles could for example be recorded workshops available online, a post on Instagram, an article in the newspaper, a song, a chapter or a whole book for that matter.

Creations where I enter the creation-bubble are created by other people and grow from that. Though my entering in such bubbles doesn’t happen in the same time and space, I would say that there’s also possibility for synergy to happen in those bubbles. I need to reflect more upon that, but for now I’ll say that there is.

I would reckon that creation-bubbles could also be things or paintings or clothes or songs and so on. Those items that make you feel better inside and raise your vibration by being present in your life. Not because they bring you status or makes you think that you’re better or prettier or whatever than someone else, but because they make your heart sing. I guess often this could be because your heart senses “the why” (find out more about “the why” in Simon Sinek’s Start with Why) of that creation-bubble whether you’re conscious about it or not.

I wouldn’t have been able to have grown and come to this point, the step where I am today on this journey, if I hadn’t had the chance to enter other people’s bubbles and grow with their help. I probably could have come pretty far, but the synergy would have been missing. So I really am deeply grateful for the help that I’ve gotten along the way on my journey.

Lately I’ve truly discovered both the power of counting the things that I’m grateful for and also the power of saying thank you when it comes from my heart. I’ve experienced how being grateful and saying thank you can create magic.

So, here at Vocal and at my Instagram profile I plan on saying thank you to some of the people I can think of who’ve created same-time-and-space-bubbles and creation-bubbles that I’ve had the honor to enter and grow from.

To be honest my ego has tried to convince me quite many times to not say thank you and just keep quiet. My ego used to be biiig. She doesn’t really like when I step out of my comfort zone, and she tells me that people will misunderstand me (you can read more about my ego and how I associate her with a Chihuahua and my heart with a Golden Retriever (associating my ego with a dog after inspiration from Sonia Choquette in an episode of Kisser Paludan’s Soultalk podcast [episode 60]) here if you like: https://vocal.media/stories/i-believe-in-clover).

The truth is, that probably, yes, some people will misunderstand. Some people won’t. I don’t know through which filters people who enter my creation-bubble interpret what I’ve created. I never will with any of the creation-bubbles I will be creating and make open for entering to others in the future and that’s just part of the game.

What matters to me is that I can look myself in the eyes and in my heart and stand up for what I’ve created when I push the button. And if I flip it and look at it from another point of view, if I’d had the chance to help another person by letting her or him enter my creation-bubble and grow from that, I would have loved to get credit for that or hear a thank you.

SO in this case I’ve decided to say, thank you dear ego, but screw you ( :-) ), I’ll follow my heart and do it anyway. I’ll step out of that nice and comfy comfort zone which you’ve tried to keep me trapped in for so long.

Because, I truly am grateful for the "little help" that I’ve gotten to reach this step on my journey and I surely can look my self in the eyes and in my heart and stand up for what I’ve written when I push the button for this creation-bubble. How you enter it and if you get inspired from it, perhaps even grow from it is out of my hands. That has to do with you and the “little help” that you’ve gotten on your journey to reach the step you’re at now (and so much more of course).

So here I am, this is me, Mette. Posting one of my first creation-bubbles while being grateful and saying thank you. Let the magic moments roll :-)

THANK YOU <3