Getting Through (and Growing Through) Grief

We all have hard times, but getting through is what makes us stronger.

Getting Through (and Growing Through) Grief

Life isn’t always easy, and it can be at its toughest when we lose someone close. The connections and love we share in our lives are what being alive is all about, so when someone we felt a connection to departs, we can feel alone, reel with the loss, and even begin to feel depressed and uneasy about life in general. Grief is an incredibly difficult thing to get through.

But you can get through grief. What’s more, you can emerge on the other side having grown and improved as a person. Your path through grief won’t be easy, but you can do things that make it more manageable while honoring and treasuring the person you have lost. Here are a few things to consider as you make your way at this difficult time.

Managing the Essential Chores and Tasks

When a loved one dies, we can feel frozen in time—even as the rest of the world seems to speed up around us. We just want to sit down to try to process this, or perhaps close our eyes and refuse to acknowledge it—we need a moment, a day, a week, or longer. We just want everyone and everything to stop for a second. Yet suddenly, things are moving fast. Friends and family must be notified, a funeral must be planned, and there are legal concerns, too. Things feel too real, too fast, too confusing.

Your friends and family can be a strength at this difficult time. So can the professionals who specialize in these difficult tasks, explain the experts at Legacy Cremation Services. A good funeral director or other experts can help you juggle your different tasks and perhaps even simplify things. You’ll deal with fewer people and fewer bills if you let a professional streamline things.

Use helpful checklists online and trust your experts. Communicate clearly with family members and relevant professionals, and try your best to stay organized. In the meantime, care for your own mental health.

Seek mental health care and treatment.

Even if you’ve never before sought the services of a psychiatrist, psychologist, or counselor (or perhaps especially if that is the case), now is a good time to do so. Grief is natural, but that doesn’t mean you’re supposed to go through it without proper assistance. You wouldn’t ignore the symptoms of a terrible physical injury or ailment, so don’t bury your emotional trauma and try to go about your daily life.

Ask your primary care provider for a referral, or turn to grief hotlines (yes, they exist) and other resources to connect with a professional. Caring for your mental health properly will help you get through this stronger, and you’ll also be better equipped to handle the day-to-day tasks you need to take care of if you are caring for your mental health properly.

Don’t avoid your feelings. You may be considering some serious subjects, and that’s OK. Working with a mental health professional, you can process your grief and grow through it. Your mental health provider will help you sort out the unhealthy impulses from the healthy ones. Perhaps you’ll begin to see life in a new and more beautiful way. Maybe you’ll be inspired to change your behavior, improve your relationships, or your redirect path in life. Maybe you’ll find yourself taking an online learning self-assessment and preparing for a new degree program, or maybe you’ll stay on your current career path but start volunteering. It is absolutely possible for beautiful things to come out of grief. Grief isn’t just something that you get through. It can be something that you grow through, too.

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Marshall Stevenson
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