Expectations vs. Reality

One of the hardest things to do is differentiate in life is your expectations and plain and simple the reality of things. Sometimes we examine our own lives through the lens of how we perceive our friends and acquaintances lives being and we subconsciously or sometimes fully consciously expect the same in our lives or become envious of that lifestyle although I believe firmly that everyone is deserving of a healthy environment a full stomach and positive people surrounding them, unfortunately that just isn't the reality and the sooner we are able to not only accept that it's the way it is but that there are alternatives to it, the sooner we can begin looking at a solution to the issue, instead of just being angry try your absolute hardest to be content in life and the slightest step in the direction of your expectations will be all the more satisfying.

Although expectations can definitely be healthy and beneficial in the career aspect of life in the sense that by having expectations of grandeur some of us are much more likely to achieve said success, but the other side of that coin is that by having those high hopes that if in the case we are incapable or simply fall short of those expectations we are nearly guaranteed to experience disappointment in ourselves, so my belief is mastering the perfect middle ground that grey area between the reality side and expectation side is the most healthy place to exist within the career aspect, so that if it exceeds those expectations you can be proud of yourself without the possibility of disappointment if you do not. Although there is nothing wrong with failing or falling short there is also nothing wrong with living comfortably and not taking risks, people constantly shame those people for living like that and I think whatever makes you happy is what you should do, if that implies setting yourself incredibly high goals or keeping within the perceived reality confines whatever makes you feel the most fulfilled is never the incorrect choice.

Relationships on the other hand can very easily become self-destructive when preconceived expectations are present. And there is no primary culprit really to blame for that; music, movies and romantic novels assist people in setting a subconscious standard for their own relationships. Although it can be helpful to have an awareness when it comes to what your ideal love life would look like, it's significantly more likely we will feel disappointed when our partner doesn't meet those expectations, so in most instances it is an inequitable and a lot of times uncommunicated supposition. Therefore as a result of that it is the death of a lot of relationships that may have honestly just needed some time to flourish. Also it imperative that it be approached as a joint effort because if only one side is fighting to achieve at least a semblance of an ideal style of a relationship then the union is almost always doomed from the beginning.

Another huge thing is understanding when you have realistic expectations, for some of us our expectations are not outlandish at all, some of us we have experienced such negative relationships in our pasts that our standards are set incredibly low for individuals we take on relationships with, and for those it is 100% okay to have those. When we don't have any expected behaviors that can become just as detrimental to our wellbeing, as we accept things that we would otherwise not allow, expecting basic respect and understanding within communication should almost be a universal standard as opposed to an individual standard. No human male or female should have to put up with toxicity within their relationships, and some of us can be understanding to a fault where we believe that with time that we can heal or repair these individuals but the truth is if they don't respect you or consistently treat you incorrectly maybe they are not mentally prepared enough to be in a relationship. Also, almost all people are incapable of change unless they actively seek that same adjustment in their behavior, so distance can be greatly beneficial to our own mental health in the long run in these cases.