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Dalia Llama's Life Lessons

Worth listening too.

By Elizabeth BoltonPublished 4 years ago 5 min read
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Don’t let a dispute injure a great relationship.

This is a big one. These days, in the United States, this seems to have completely eroded especially if you are talking politics. We have forgotten how to have a debate and still walk away at least acquaintances. It is something we need to get back.

Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk.

This is very true. Anything worthwhile is going to require a degree of risk. Safe lives rarely lead to the great that life has to offer. Step out there and do something that scares you a bit.

When you lose, don’t lose the lesson.

This is just another way of saying that when you fail, learn something from it. Don’t get bitter and complain. See what can be done better and try again. Failure is the best teacher if you let it.

Follow the three Rs: Respect for self, respect for others, responsibility for all your actions.

First and foremost you must respect yourself so that you can stand up for yourself and ask for what you want in this world. Respect for others makes it much easier to work with others and to get them to help you when you need it. Personal responsibility is important. You can’t learn from your failures if you don’t accept your responsibility in your life and the decisions you make.

Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck.

I’m sure we have all had that thing or 10 that we wanted in this world and didn’t get or that person we thought was the greatest and then we were crushed when they chose someone else. Most of us can look back and see that not getting whatever it was actually worked out better for us. People can be a bit blind sometimes and we don’t always know what is best for us.

Learn the rules so you know how to break them properly.

Rules help keep things organized and can keep us all on the same page. There are occasions though when the circumstances require the rules to be bent or wrong to do the right thing. Make sure you know what they are so you know when to bend or break it.

When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it.

This is especially true in relationships. Do not let things fester and become worse than they are, own up to what you did and do what you can to make it right. If it is not something you can correct then own it and apologize or accept the consequences.

Spend some time alone every day.

Being an introvert this is easy for me and necessary on most days. Time alone gives you a moment to reflect and go over your day. It also allows you to plan for what is yet to come or go over problems that may require some time to go over solutions.

Open your arms to change, but don’t let go of your values.

Change is inevitable in the world we live in and if we want to thrive we have to learn to roll with it. However, do not give up the things that make you who you are or that are important to you. Not all change is for you and sometimes you have to move along to the next thing, which is also changing.

Remember that silence is sometimes the best answer.

This is one I struggle with. As a friend told me, “You do not have to show up to every argument you are invited to.” Sometimes the best thing you can do is to be silent and not feed the troll.

Live a good, honorable life. Then when you get older and think back, you’ll be able to enjoy it a second time.

We all love to talk about “the good ‘ole days.” Make sure you live a life worth talking about. Have adventures, do good deeds and above all else have fun.

A loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation of your life.

We all know that a happy home makes life much easier. When things at home are calm and welcoming it makes the stresses of the world much easier to handle.

In disagreements with loved ones, deal only with the current situation. Don’t bring up the past.

There is nothing worse than arguing with someone you love and they drag back up something that happened in the past. It throws you off and makes you wonder what else they are harboring and won’t let go. It does nothing to solve the current issue and it adds another argument to the mix. Make sure and settle disagreements and then leave them in the past.

Share your knowledge. It’s a way to achieve immortality.

None of us get out of this world alive. Our knowledge is one way for us to remain. By sharing with others you are leaving a bit of yourself in this world.

Be gentle with the earth.

Regardless of your opinion on climate change, we should all be gentle with the Earth. It is our home and we should want to take care of it just for that reason. If everyone did a little bit in their small section the benefits would serve all.

Once a year, go someplace you’ve never been before.

Travel is the best cure for prejudice. Get out and see the world around you. It doesn’t have to be far and it doesn’t have to be expensive but go see and do.

Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other.

I was told that the person you marry is “not the one you can’t live without but the one you can live with.” Don’t let your independence go for the sake of love. You should always maintain who you are first. You will make a better partner if you do.

Judge your success by what you had to give up in order to get it.

Everyone has to decide what they are willing to give up for their definition of success but there will always be something. Just make sure it is worth it and you don’t give up what is truly important to you.

Approach love and cooking with reckless abandon.

Absolutely, both require a degree of recklessness and willingness for adventure if you want to do them right. You might be surprised at the outcome if you do.

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