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Chapter 1 - How to become a better man

The Ultimate Resource For The Modern Man Who Loes Life

By Elisandro PedroPublished about a year ago 17 min read
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1 - Introduction

There is nothing of the sort as the "amazing man," however looking for personal development can make your life seriously satisfying. To be a superior man, you may have to roll out certain improvements to the manner in which you think, carry on, and connect with others.

The goal of this project was simple: to encourage men to be better men in all areas of their lives.

I am sure all of us have made goals to improve ourselves. However, often our goals become one of those well-meaning intentions that we plan to do...someday.

In addition, if you are like me, someday never comes, and you are stuck in the same place of mediocrity you were before. Personally, I’m more likely to follow through with a goal if I have a specific plan, instead of just some ethereal intention.

I’m also more likely to accomplish a goal if I have a group of people who are encouraging me and keeping me accountable. How it works? Each chapter has a specific task to accomplish that day.

The tasks will cover a variety of areas of a man’s life including relationships, health, career and money, and style.

Even if you already do the things we assign, it’s always good to have a reminder to keep on doing it.

You can tackle as many of these tasks as you want in a single day, but we encourage you to take it one at a time. In my experience, when I’ve tried to make dramatic changes in my life (even for the better) I end up falling flat on my face.

The name of the game here is small steps.

2 - Stay Consistent With Your Qualities

Put forth a cognizant attempt to characterize your fundamental beliefs - the standards you hold as evident and constant - and focus on finishing those qualities paying little heed to any burden that may come about because of doing as such.

Having a solid good base will make it simpler to stay consistent with who you are in any event, when circumstances become difficult.

Focusing on your qualities may set aside boldness from effort to time, yet it'll be certainly justified regardless of the exertion.

To fix your qualities immovably set up, set aside effort to really record them. Keep the rundown some place secure and once in a while get back to it, particularly when your current conditions begin testing those qualities.

3 - Become Answerable for Everything

Become answerable for everything in your life. All that occurs in your life is on you.

The great and the terrible it's everything on you. When you assume this liability on yourself you presently have the ability to plan the existence you need. You are in charge now.

We often hear to take 100% responsibility for our life.

What is the big deal about it? The big deal is that it moves you from victim to victor of your life.

It puts you at cause and not at effect, meaning that you accept that you create your life and not just reacting to it. You appreciate that things happen for you and not to you.

Taking responsibility puts you at choice and that allows you to choose how to respond to life’s challenges. You move into the driver seat of your life’s journey.

Most of all, taking 100% responsibility changes your energy and the practices described here put you in higher vibrating mind-body states.

As you know, we are energy, our thoughts, feelings, words and actions are energy and the law of attraction brings us more of what we think and feel. It merely matches the energy of your thoughts and feelings with experiences that will give you the same energy.

Now, when you broadcast thoughts that result in you feeling good, the law of attraction responds by bringing you the experiences that will confirm you feeling good.

4 - Become the Modeller of Your Life

You are a craftsman regardless of whether you don't have any acquaintance with it yet. You can plan your life and afterward transform that plan into a reality.

Assuming you keep that vision in your brain each day, you can make that fantasy a reality. You can plan your future in the event that you decide to do as such.

5 - Seek After Your Objectives

Think ahead and plan for what's to come. Ask yourself what you need to achieve and set the suitable objectives accordingly. When you set those objectives, focus on accomplishing them.

Somewhat, you do have to live at the time and make the most of your life for what it is. Try not to let the gifts your life vanish on the grounds that you're excessively cantered around the future to focus on the present. Then again, neglecting to set objectives for yourself can undoubtedly prompt stagnation, which can make your life feel less satisfying than it very well may be.

If you want to succeed, you need to set goals. Without goals you lack focus and direction.

Goal setting not only allows you to take control of your life's direction; it also provides you a benchmark for determining whether you are actually succeeding.

Think about it: having a million dollars in the bank is only proof of success if one of your goals is to amass riches. If your goal is to practice acts of charity, then keeping the money for yourself is suddenly contrary to how you would define success.

6 - Assume Liability For Your Own Conduct

At the point when things turn out badly and your activities are at fault, acknowledge your duty and proceed onward.

Also, when things work out positively and your activities are one essential driver, benevolently acknowledge your due credit for the achievement.

Try not to censure others for your own absence of progress, and don't zero in on the negative practice’s others have done while assessing why things turned out badly.

You have no power over the thing’s others do to you; you can just control your own behaviour, so it bodes well to zero in on your activities while assessing the past and pushing ahead.

When you’re too busy pointing fingers at others, it becomes difficult to see your own faults. Even in situations where you’re the victim, blaming others doesn’t get you very far. Instead, it causes resentment, bitterness, and negative energy to linger.

7 - Begin Treating Your Way Of Life Appropriately

As a man, you have a specific picture to maintain. You additionally have character, notoriety, and performance to consider. You need to have profitable connections, a hot sexual coexistence, a decent standing, and to build up yourself as a man of honor, trustworthiness, and coarseness.

This all boils down to the way of life decisions you make. You get 24 hours consistently to turn into the best man you're equipped for being.

How are you utilizing your time? What propensities would you say you are putting resources into? How long would you say you are squandering on idiotic poo that isn't improving your life?

Go to the exercise center, read a book, work on your business—improve propensities, better performance, better results, and better virility.

We just get one life, men of their word. Begin viewing your way of life appropriately.

8 - Hustle, Get Cash, Rehash

Quite possibly the most cringe worthy things I hear from men is this:

"I don't actually think often about cash. I'm not ravenous. I'm content with not having a lot."

A fruitful present-day man will comprehend that cash is vital for step up and winning. The Side Hustle Path is for people who want or need to earn some extra money outside of their day jobs.

Maybe you need a few extra dollars to make ends meet.

Maybe you want to pay off debt. Maybe you want to save for a rainy day, or for your children’s education. Maybe you just want to treat yourself to a nice vacation or a new car without feeling guilty about it. Maybe you’re looking for a way out of the corporate world, an escape plan.

But today, thanks in no small part to the internet, there are dozens of legitimate side hustles you can use to make extra income.

9 - Become Solid, Adaptable and Fit

Our body is the vehicle that will take you through this life. To make this life as pleasant as conceivable you need to ensure your body is solid, adaptable and fit. As an autonomous man, you ought to have the option to run, bounce, pull, push, curve, swim and be useful with your body.

Looking great is cool yet you need your body to be a machine that capacities appropriately. Things occur and you ought to be prepared for anything and have however much fun as could reasonably be expected.

Adaptability is an attractive quality. We all like to think of ourselves as being flexible and adaptable, a team player, “going with the flow”. It means that we are not rigid or stuck and that are open to change and challenges. I think if you were to ask most people if they consider themselves to be open and adaptable, they would tell you ‘yes’. If you truly are adaptable then you are more likely to handle change with grace and ease, not be thrown by the unexpected and be a lot happier.

Yet most of us are actually a lot more resistant to change than we might perceive ourselves to be.

10 - Become Hard to Slaughter

Become somebody that anybody would discover a bad dream to slaughter. Be the person that everybody needs to associate with when poop turns sour.

Figure out how to protect yourself. Learn Jujitsu or another strong self- preservation military craftsmanship like Boxing, Muay Thai, or Wrestling.

Figure out how to utilize weapons. Become capable with firing rifles and guns. Skill to utilize and protect yourself with a blade.

In today's society you never know what we might have to face, when we might have to act. That's why we always need to be prepared for anything that can be thrown our way.

You can workout in the gym all day long but if you truly want to Become Hard to Slaughter it takes more than just having rock hard muscles.

Mindset, nutrition, application, it all plays a vital role in what it means to be a real warrior in this day and age.

11 - Know Fundamental Cpr And Essential Endurance

Get familiar with the Sheepdog outlook. We live in a cutting edge yet risky world.

Mass shootings are getting more normal constantly and you need to realize how to deal with yourself when a clusterfuck occurs on your watch.

The vast majority are vulnerable objectives, don't be one of them.

It can be difficult to contemplate negative or traumatic events, but mentally “walking through” a situation that would put you out of work for an extended period of time can help you identify what you would need to weather that storm.

What would you need if you were going through an illness, personal tragedy, or disaster? Think about what you would need personally and professionally. What help would you need for yourself and your team to emerge from the situation in the best way possible?

12 - Become A Renaissance Man

A Renaissance Man is a refined man who is learned, instructed and capable in a wide scope of fields. Find out about the world and become somebody with a rich comprehension of how the world functions.

In the simplest terms, a Renaissance man is a person with genuine competence in and understanding of multiple different fields, all of which complement one another to make him a more talented and productive person.

A true Renaissance man will never claim he can accomplish everything, but he will accomplish anything to which he commits his time and energy. In other words, he tries his damndest.

As you probably figured out, the term Renaissance man was coined in reference to some of the most talented artists, inventors, scientists, and thinkers who lived during (and were the drivers of) the Renaissance, a period of flourishing progress in the arts, sciences, learning, and philosophy generally accepted to have begun in the 14th century and lasting through the 16th.

13 - Become Extraordinary With Ladies

Figure out how to be agreeable around ladies and embrace your sexuality. We live in a world where acceptable manly men are caused to feel awful for being pulled in to ladies.

Manly men are being reprimanded for everything terrible on the planet today. Try not to tune in to the BS, on the off chance that you see somebody you find alluring, stroll over and start a discussion. Life is short, so go converse with her and appreciate it.

Be OK with taking care of business that loves ladies and embrace being a current sexual man.

You must have extraordinary thoughts. You must offer yourself up to be utilized by Divinity. Open yourself to a higher power. Think of extraordinary results.

But you must never let it go to your head or to ego. You must remain caring and thoughtful and considerate, even to the imploring voice of a kitten.

14 - Keep An All-Around Prepared Appearance

Your appearance assumes a significant part in somebody's early introduction of you. While a woman's stunner customs and schedules can be fairly unpredictable, all you truly need to do as a man is keep up some fundamental cleanliness and wear perfect, systematic garments that fit the event.

Wash routinely. You don't have to swim in your cologne, yet you should think about touching some on for an exceptional event, similar to a significant date.

On the off chance that you have beard growth, keep it managed. In the event that you just have stubble, keep it shaved.

Wear clean garments that look great, and ensure that they fit the event. Pants and an old shirt are fine for a night with companions; however, you should look somewhat more honed for a prospective employee meeting or a first date.

15 - Clean Your Living And Working Spaces

There's a motivation behind why single men have gained notoriety for being good-for-nothings. Resist the generalization and keep your own space in moderately clean condition.

You don't have to keep up supreme unblemished conditions, however you ought to presumably ensure that you can at any rate peer down and see the floor as opposed to seeing heaps of messy clothing and void take-out holders. The value of an organized workplace is severely underestimated and should be given more prominence seeing as it contributes to productivity and involves time loss.

A decent filing system is still vital, despite most documents saved on hard discs and in the cloud. Many businesses create a backup on hard copy, and it is still necessary to print such documents.

The primary benefit is therefore improved productivity. It has to be the most critical factor that should always be prioritized. Being organized should be a state of mind.

16 - Think Before You Act

While foot-in-mouth disorder can influence the two people similarly, men by and large have to a greater extent a standing to stumble into difficulty for it.

Whether or not or not this is reasonable, you should put forth a cognizant attempt to place a couple of moments of thought into the things you plan on saying or doing before really finishing them.

Being "hot-blooded" is regularly seen as a manly attribute, however it by and large isn't astute.

While you shouldn't be hesitant to make a move, perceive that a few motivations are not great.

A fast assessment ought to be sufficient to decide if it's protected to continue.

For example, if your first response is to affront your colleague or subordinate for a minor misstep, it'll be to everybody's advantage in the event that you stop, question your drive, and pick a superior method to manage the issue.

17 - Embrace A Philanthropic Disposition

Look for the best game-plan for all gatherings included, regardless of whether you need to make some generosity end route. By showing your readiness to put others before yourself, you send the message that you're somebody worth trusting.

Sympathy isn't something that comes effectively to many men, and it's not difficult to dismiss others when you're cantered around your owl objectives.

In any case, it's essential to continue to endure in your endeavors to meet the spoken and implicit requirements of others.

This doesn't mean forfeiting your confidence, obviously. There's a scarcely discernible difference between forfeiting for other people and allowing others to abuse you.

The previous is your decision, however the last is a decision constrained upon you that you indiscriminately acknowledge.

18 - Meet Your Familial Commitments

You may play many family jobs during your lifetime. You may be a child, a sibling, a spouse, or a dad. You might have significant associations with more distant family, or your companions may be your family despite the fact that they aren't connected.

Notwithstanding where you fit, you need to ensure that you meet the obligations called for inside that job. The two people should be similarly associated with their families, however while this is as of now socially expected of ladies, society doesn't regularly put similar level of assumption on men.

For example, a working mother may get questions in regards to how she offsets her profession with her family, however a working father most likely will not.

By endeavoring to meet your commitments inside your family, you can assemble your connections while likewise fabricating your own ethical character. Families are long lasting proving grounds, and treating your family well instructs you to treat others outside the family with comparative consideration.

19 - Show gratitude

Improving as a man takes a ton of difficult work, and you ought to be pleased with your own achievements. You likewise need to recognize the assist you with accepting others, however. Be thankful for that help inside, and be anxious to share your gratitude remotely to the fitting gatherings.

The Merriam-Webster dictionary as ‘the state of being grateful, thankfulness’, defines gratitude. Many people fail to understand how gratitude can change a life and alter one’s perception for the good. A life without gratitude is often an unhappy, unfilled life.

Putting a little gratitude in your daily life is a first-step to achieving many of your hopes, your dreams, your goals.

The thing with gratitude is that it actually helps you way more than the person you’re showing gratitude towards. When you feel thankful, grateful, and content in your own life and in your own experiences then you will find that want less. You’ll find that you’re actually more satisfied with where you are and with what you already have in life.

Conclusion

In the event that you need to be an incredible man, you need to step up your brain.

The absolute most powerful individuals in our reality (Bill Doors, Oprah Winfrey, Warren Smorgasbord, and others) use the 5-Hour Rule.

They go through 1 hour daily, 5 days every week, in 'intentional work on,' step up their insight and rehearsing to improve at something they need to dominate.

This could mean perusing, contemplating, rehearsing an exchange, and so forth

Over the long run, this prompts individual dominance—which is a pivotal component to progress.

In case you're similar to most men, you likely unwittingly part with little pieces of your force for the duration of the day.

This can take many structures.

• Saying 'yes' to things you would prefer not to say yes to

• Neglecting to keep up sound limits

• Backpedalling on your choices out of blame

• Collapsing on things out of pressing factor

• Investing energy around individuals who 'dull' your satisfaction and free-soul

As a man, you will turn out to be limitlessly more joyful and better when you figure out how to keep your force as opposed to parting with it to individuals around you.

• Honor your own words.

• Talk genuinely.

• Figure out how to say 'no' to things that you would prefer not to do.

• Try not to concur with individuals or oblige them just to dodge strife.

Adhere to the course that feels really right. This will accomplish such a great deal to help you become a superior man, and is frantically required in our reality

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About the Creator

Elisandro Pedro

I am a writer, a web developer, an entrepreneur, a father and a husband. I love sharing my knowledge to everyone and I try everyday to impact as many lives as I can.

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