Be Yourself

I'm very upset, I'm worried about people, I don't know what's going on but I'm just scared, I don't know what to say ”. I called for help.

"Be yourself," said Joe.

Thanks fuck on Joe. Why didn't I hear about that? Aside from the fact that I myself am awesome about who is a budding infant crying out for the idea of ​​speaking in front of someone, it seems like an honest idea. It is an honest work that he was there to solve all my problems in two words ... Prick.

The easiest solution if you are sure, is to tell someone everything you should try to do to relax and be yourself and your problems will be solved, except for anyone who is really suffering from social anxiety this issue becomes more complicated.

Unfortunately, social anxiety is seen as the next glucose-free diet. A thousand-year-old fashion like fun in the mid 80s rave. With alarming frequency this ‘situation’ emerges from the conversation, it is found that ‘there is nothing’ by so-called dot com doctors armed with google and high school education.

This is not to say that it is not the case, there are some people who can leave the house, raise their voice or stick to young people and people, this text will not help at all. But for most of you little Facebook heroes, I will let you come in with a touch of privacy.

Everyone is concerned about society.

No one on this planet has ever felt embarrassed, afraid, and disturbed by society, and most people still are. So I feel like you are now asking yourself: How do they seem to be so comfortable?

When you were younger, you probably didn't know yourself well, you probably didn't worry too much about how you would go out and say the wrong things, but as we grow older, we naturally compare ourselves with our peers and yearn to be accepted and accepted. this is often part of our emotional intelligence or EQ.

This EQ is really important, and your level of hysteria is directly related. So stop, take a light and congratulate yourself on how emotionally smart you are, if there was a GCSE emotionally you would be in the middle of *.

So your concern comes from a world of worries about how you are perceived by your natural comparisons and your self-confidence. However, your childhood did not end without self-description first. And to some extent you're right, you shouldn't care how they look at you, but you should probably care about what they think.

It's easy to say, don't get tired. But you can't really help it. We all want the approval of our peers. So if everyone feels this way, how can they be so calm and confident? Two reasons:

1. Self-confidence can be a skill, not an object.

What do I mean by this? when you first learned to direct, you fell down, stumbled, stumbled. But soon, after many attempts, you will use the space. Admittedly, you will stumble many times and you will not want to run, except for the best part you will ever run when you arrive.

Confidence is like that. It takes practice and hard work. It’s not something you have or don’t have. The social situation is just starting to work, some people will be much better because they run all the time, but how can you expect to hit, if you have never learned to steer.

The problem is, you've given yourself a label and excuses. "I have social anxiety so I can't ..." etc. This suggests that you do not need to make a practice because you are afraid of failing. the fact that everyone inside the room looks just like you. The difference is that they did what they should have done.

Now what should you do? Do the difficult thing: Speak up, ask specific questions. Do a dance, say something if you think it's funny, and yes, it will be hard and you will never stop worrying, but it will always be easy and straightforward. you only need to discriminate against them with the help you give people.

2. Agree

I would think you have low self-esteem. You don’t really believe who you are, and that I think if someone tells you to ‘be’ you’re not sure what you’re trying to do about it. Let me help you. If you do not like it, you will expect to be rejected by everyone. So hitting your worries is important to simply learn to love yourself.

If you think badly of yourself, that's what you are. “A bad doctor doesn't love anyone” is what you think you are at the moment you are going to be, which is what others will see. you should know that everyone has flaws and good things, and you know that it is okay to make mistakes so that you are not perfect and accept those parts of you that will really allow you to “be yourself”. Probably 30 stones. Maybe you have a hairy lip. Lysp, a mole on your forehead, but that's okay. There are 1 000,000 more things you can feel good about. Like that A * in emotional intelligence.

I do not mean that you are perfect or that you are ashamed, but I say that you should both admit your mistakes and be comfortable with them. Then no matter who you see, you see them as part of you. But for that matter, it can bring in your talents, give them credit, even for now.

The first part is fun, it will help you beat this. then put down your phone! Social media will bother you with tons about you. But over time, acceptance comes with time. you will see many adults who do not care about how others view them. So twist my thumbs.

Conclusion:

By doing these two things you will overcome the public concern. Stop looking beyond the reason for your feelings. Understand that everyone feels this way and that everyone should try to keep going. Force yourself to talk to people, force yourself into the heat and learn to love yourself for who you are (Warts and everything!) It's okay to be imperfect. It will not happen overnight it will require diligence, perseverance and tons on the back, but it is worth it.