Avoiding is better than doing

There is the age-old saying, ‘don't cry over spilt milk’, and it rings true in almost every aspect of life.

Once you have done something, once you spilt the milk, it has happened. It cannot be undone.

And obviously, there are places where we must take action to move the needle forward- however, there is often the tendency to move in a hurry and with a lack of calculation towards the next decision.

We all have decisions in our life. Yes or no, football or basketball, sweet or savoury.

The sheer amount of them can cause paralysis as we have so many options.

Studies are increasingly coming out with the harsh psychological analysis effects of this paradox of choice- especially amongst young adults. The mid-life crisis has new embodied a new phase of its life- the quarter-life crisis.

We have so much information around us, people telling us what we have to do- so as a result we often rush into decisions to escape the feeling of being left behind.

This is a terrible solution.

As said before, once you’ve followed through with an action, you can't undo it.

Don't get me wrong, it's good to take action, it’s necessary to take action, but do we take more action than we need to?

Heck yeah.

So what is the solution?

Curating individual thought.

Don’t worry this isn’t an existential dilemma of sorts, but instead a challenge to think for yourself.

Delve into wh you want to do things and look into what you want to achieve.

Create the person able to make the right decisions when the opportunities come instead of rushing to decisions preemptively.

Yet the world pressures us.

Sometimes we just feel the need to make a decision and do something because everyone else is making decisions.

But when you have confidence in yourself and your own individual thought you recognise that people will go down their own lanes and their own progress doesn’t cause you to falter or change your plan- you know what your game plan is.

Saying all this action is essential but because you don’t rush into everything you are positioned into a much better place.

Imagine this; every so often you engage and have a decision- one response could be that the decision goes right and that’s great as you’ve progressed forward, but what if that doesn’t happen?

Well if the decision goes wrong that’s still progress because for one you are not making lots of decisions so therefore not continually making failures which often leads to burnout. In addition to this, you have been working out of a confident perspective by which failure can be seen as providing direction for things you need to work on individually.

So you might be wondering why I am hammering on about this- surely avoiding stuff means you miss out on things out on stuff?

Yes, yes it does.

But if you are worried about missing out on stuff you need to work out your priorities because a sad fact of life is that you cannot do everything- especially if you want to make a difference.

In avoiding unhelpful things you are already miles ahead of most people.

Unhealthy eating habits, bad sleep schedule, toxic relationships- these are not the foundation to any success in this life.

If you have nothing and have not achieved anything you're way ahead of those who made bad decisions.

Obviously, mistakes will be made and that is fine, however, when a bad decision comes out of pressure to do something that is sad.

You are letting people run your life.

It is all well and good hearing advice but when we take action ourselves it is our responsibility and we can’t simply pass on the blame.

That sounds quite harsh but ultimately it makes us understand why avoiding decisions is often better.

So how does the story end?

Do we avoid making decisions forever, and every so often tentatively try things out?

No of course not.

When time and decisions are treated as valuable assets rather than simple commodities you work out how to use them the most efficiently.

As talked about previously, the plan is curating your individual thoughts- and that means you will improve.

After a while of avoiding unhealthy things, learning about yourself, and intentionally taking action you will be able to mature into more consistent deliberate decisions that (fingers crossed) should work out well for you.

But it all stems back to curating the person who is able to do that.

We all get opportunities in life but it often takes time to be the person who can capitalise on those opportunities.

Start saying no, be true to yourself, and avoid unhealthy habits- soon you’ll be able to take on that next great venture.