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Are You Wasting Your Time?

by S.K about a year ago in happiness
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“Life is what happens when we are busy worrying about everything we need to change or achieve. Slow down, remember, and try to enjoy the moment. This moment is your life. ”~ Lori Deschene

Are You Wasting Your Time?
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“Life is what happens when we are busy worrying about everything we need to change or achieve. Slow down, remember, and try to enjoy the moment. This moment is your life. ”~ Lori Deschene

I was on my way to work. At the time, I was working in a bar. It was a Thursday night and my shift started at 8:50 PM. I was running late. I was in a hurry. A block happened away from my job.

The green light changed and the earth stopped. The next thing I remember was waking up in an ambulance. The paramedics asked me if I knew what had happened. They asked me if I knew where I was, but it was all in vain.

I don't remember how it happened. I don't remember much to this day. That I was driving to work, and next time I knew there was a woman in my driver's window telling me she was calling for help and an ambulance would be there soon.

I was angry. I had no idea what was going on. Why do they call an ambulance? What's going on? Is anyone injured? The truth was divided. One part of me was in the car while the other was not eons. I am black.

A police officer arrived while I was in the hospital. He said I was hit on the passenger side of my car by a small Chrysler Town & Country car. There were eighteen-year-old boys inside. They were all right.

I started to remember the accident a few days after it happened. I remembered falling into a passenger seat and bleeding and crying.

At the time, I could not see that I was injured, and I did not know what had happened. All I could remember were thoughts running through my head. Not if I was disabled or badly injured. Not if I was going to get a chance to go to college in the fall. All I could think about was "I'll be late for work."

At that moment, instead of thinking about my own interests, all my obligations were bothering me at the same time.

That experience made me think, why was it that the first thing on my mind was work, weekend responsibilities, and household chores? Why should my ignorance help me to focus on these things? Why is my boss, of all people, the first one I called? Was my health and that of my family more important than my job?

I thought a lot about that night for the next few months. It was the scariest time of my life. Not because I could have been worse or worse, but because it was the first time I realized that my priorities were not right. The things I was worrying about and worrying about were irrelevant to the schedule.

It's been five years since the accident, but in those years I found a few things:

1. Everything is temporary, be it pain or pleasure.

My eighteen-year-old mind began to realize this after a car accident but did not fully understand it until five years later. At the time, covering up my entire car, minor injuries, and the fact that I had to be an adult to go to work and family events, seemed like the worst thing in the world. I didn’t want to do any of it. Sometimes in college I had the same misery when life just seemed to pile up and crush me under the weight of responsibility.

Even if the world feels like it is going to dry up, it will not stop. Life goes on. You find a way to move on, and the pain eventually subsides.

2. Always be grateful.

Be thankful even if you don't seem to have anything to be thankful for. Be very grateful when times are difficult because it reminds you how lucky you are when things are right. Learning to accept what life has to offer and how to enjoy this journey requires practice, patience, and a grateful heart.

Some time after the accident I went through life feeling really angry. I was angry that I did not have my own car. I wanted to sue the boys who had beaten me. It took a while but I realized that what happened to me was not the end of the world. I had all my body parts and was looking after my whole life.

3. When we spend our time pressing on small things we will always be stressed.

Once you have come to the conclusion that all things are temporary it is easy to let go of small things because you know they do not deserve to be pressured by them. Give yourself a five-year rule. If it doesn’t matter five years from now (and most things won’t last five weeks from now), don’t let yourself work too hard on it.

4. We all get the same amount of time each day, and it is up to us how we use it.

I had a high school teacher, Mr. Fails, who emphasized the fact that we all get the same amount of seconds a day, and it is up to us to make good use of that time. We set our priorities on how we use our time, but are our priorities the same? Do we use our time to improve? To learn as much as you can and keep growing?

I wasn’t in the mood to do that yet, and I wouldn’t be in the next few years. The more my life took a turn for the worse and the more I saw people change without growing up, the more I thought about the obstacles we could face.

I have decided that the most important thing I can do in my moments is to make me happy, to see myself learning and growing, in writing, in the challenges of life, and in the blessings of life.

When was the last time you did something that made you happy? I do not mean temporary happiness; I don't mean to say that the summer vacation you went to was fun for a moment. I mean the kind of happiness that lasts a long time, that you can think of and smile, the kind of happiness that you get with so much love, or doing something you never thought possible.

Most of the time, we base our happiness on material things - in houses, cars, clothes, and foolish things that give us a sense of instant gratification. The kind of things that will give you happiness only with a blip of time in the stuff scheme.

Real happiness comes from using our time in a way that sounds real and meaningful to us.


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