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8 Signs You're Not Broken, But You're Traumatized

Your past doesn’t make you damaged.

By Jessey AnthonyPublished 2 years ago 3 min read

Everyone experiences some form of trauma at some point in life. Sometimes you may feel broken inside. It all seems too much, and we fall into a black abyss of despair and despair.

If you feel broken, incomplete, or lost, know that this is the story of many of us.

Some are still in there, some are trying to escape it, some are grieving about it, some are expecting it ahead of their journey.

Sometimes, we allow the trauma we experience in life to determine who we are. We lose focus of our dreams and lack the inspiration to go after hearts desires.

Trauma can be absolute neglect. What makes up most of our adult trauma is emotional neglect.

Emotional neglect occurs when there is a repeated pattern of ignoring, minimizing, or disregarding one's emotional needs, such as attention, support, affection, respect, and security.

Over time, emotional neglect negatively affects a person's mental health, self-esteem, and ability to form close and healthy relationships.

Some children are denied parental love and safety. Sometimes it is because their parents are not good with emotions and therefore do not give their children the affection they need.

Such parents will try to protect their children from the real world and keep them locked up because they don't want them to hang around, be gullible and get into trouble.

When your parent pulled love away from you in order to reprimand you, that was trauma. These children grow up being fearful, feeling damaged of some sort.

Signs you are emotionally neglected

Neglect can be intentional or unintentional, and there are many reasons why child neglect happens.

The main causes of child neglect are often poverty, substance abuse, depression, lack of support, poor social skills and loveless relationships, past abuse, and misunderstandings about the child's development.

People who are abused in childhood are often subject to more than one form of abuse, and symptoms can vary depending on factors such as age, including:

  • Being emotionally upset or agitated
  • Being extremely withdrawn and uncommunicative or unresponsive
  • Displaying unusual behaviors commonly attributed to dementia (for example, sucking, biting, rocking)
  • Nervousness around certain people
  • Suffering verbal or mental abuse
  • Unmanaged or untreated health problem
  • Malnutrition and/or dehydration.
  • Reluctance to take medications, treat illness or injury, or join health or care services.

You are the victim of a broken system, but that doesn't define you

If you need someone to say it, here it is: "You are not damaged."

There's nothing wrong with you. You may have been broken, but that's okay. In fact, everything that has ever happened to you is perfectly destined.

The trauma that you have experienced had to be a massive one to leave a really deep scare. And it's impossible to go through this life without a scare.

The things that hurt you, the things that broke you and caused you pain, don't define you. Nothing that has hurt you more deserves the right to define who you are.

What you define is your survival, your ability to have experienced terrible things and still find within yourself the chance to survive.

You have a courage so many would not dream of, to grow wings where yours had been taken and cut down.

You are beautiful, incredible, and destined to do impossible things, and your trauma should not make you believe otherwise.


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Jessey Anthony is a motivational speaker, fitness coach and relationship expert who helps people become confident in themselves in any challenges they face in life. Sign up to my newsletter & more cool stuff.

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  • L.C. Schäfer2 years ago

    Good piece! Minor error, I think you meant "a really deep scar".

  • Steve Lance2 years ago

    You make some great points.

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