5 Simple Lessons On Life You Can Adopt Now

Growing up, I used to hear, "you got so much potential" - now all I hear is, "the rent due!"

My uncles gave all they could to point me in the right direction - staying outside trouble. We never owned everything, yet we never lacked anything.

I grew up around great men, that are now business tycoons today - my uncles. One of them worked as head director of DHL and left his job to go start a competing company that would later defeat DHL locally. Since then, he's moved on to make exceptional and notable businesses.

My other uncle, who's a banker, is nearly hitting the millions soon - he's a wealthy investor and stock tradesman.

Of all of them, there is a big theme that resonates with all my uncles. They are mentally strong.

"Don't try."

None of them grew up in a suburb or had lavish things, no, we all grew up in the "ghetto." One of them used to go on dates with a 6-speed city cruiser.

When the school riots broke out, he'd study in his room with a candle. The finals were still tomorrow, despite everyone's attitude towards the riot and a power outage. He had all the reasons on him to say,

"Don't try."

He did it anyway.

Strong people don't try to change

I am exhausted with culture telling us that we all have to change to feel better - ditch the old self.

Mentally strong people don't try to change who they are. They work with what they got.

It leaves us with a void inside us where the businesses are the messiahs, so we run to them to get saved - and our phones are the bible indoctrinating us with one more self-help advice.

Oh, your lover thinks you are shit in bed? HERE is a pill to last all night long!

Just like that, we grow into slaves of change. We could be like Bill Gates and stock up more change for some spare change - pun intended. We are no different from a prisoner waiting for his sentence to be up, while the brands count how many more commas to add to their zeros, looking at them as our heroes.

I hold nothing on marketing or businesses, I just hope we could do it ethically to empower the consumer, not a enslave them.

We don't have to give up our old self to achieve greatness.

All we need is all we got.

Strong people do fear

Mentally strong people do fear, in fact, probably more than those that aren't.

As seen in the book The Subtle Art Of Not Giving a F*ck, when you realize you're running out of f*cks to give, you start to focus on important things instead of endless matches on whether Jada deserves mercy or if Will should dump her ass.

Fear isn't a question of doing or not; it's about which poison you rather drink.

What do you give a f*ck about? Would you rather be free now and suffer later - or suffer now and be free then?

Either die a sheep or die a sheep that lived a day like a lion.

Our fears aren't going anyplace, today, or tomorrow. We can't get rid of them; we have to live with the.

When you fail to fight your demons, you learn to live with them. You adapt. Choosing gratitude over fear. You turn lemons into lemonade.

They don't get swayed by sheep's opinion

A lot of times, we get pulled into the smallest things. We get mad for being mad, get sad for being sad, Mark Manson calls this the feedback loop from hell.

When my uncle quit his head position, he lived paycheck to paycheck; he had a big lifestyle. No one approved his actions at the time. They'd talk behind his back what a bad idea it was. Imagine quitting a position where you were virtually the CEO, to go live in the slams because you have a higher purpose…

When you have bigger plans in life, you quit fretting sheep's opinion - as a lion

Mentally strong people aren't swayed back and forth emotionally.

If you find yourself getting set off by the littlest things, you need to stop and ask - why am I giving a f*ck about this? The things that rule our world are the things that also control us emotionally.

Do you fret about the elderly lady honking you at the green light cause she's late for tea with the seniors, or you care about getting to work safe and sound?

Which brings me to my next point…

They prioritize pain

Giving a f*ck about everything in life drain us, it also leaves us without a damn clue on who we are. When we prioritize, we gain clarity.

Prioritizing which pain is more valuable, makes us struggle differently.

My uncles weren't stress-free. They had got bigger fish to fry than yelling about a Big Mac that came with no fry - don't know why I wrote that.

When he purchased his third property, the market was terrible; during the pre-recession era. Everyone was going broke, businesses were shutting down, left, right, center. After the recession, his property was reevaluated; it almost tripled in price.

Everyone at the time called him stupid for purchasing a property before the weathering of the storm. He prioritized what he was willing to risk, losing alone, or letting the world do it.

They don't chase Happiness

When they won these gains, neither of them went around town boasting about it. They didn't go buy more things, surely they both had a lavish lifestyle - It wasn't that type to fill up the void.

They both knew that today, or tomorrow they could die, so why spend your entire life gripping so tightly to material possessions to feel satisfied?

"no truly happy person feels the need to stand in front of a mirror and recite that she's happy. She just is. - Mark Manson"