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The more a woman loves a man, the more she should be wary of one thing!

When a husband and wife went back to their parents' home, the wife and her family were busy cooking and doing housework, but the husband sat alone in the living room, playing with his mobile phone without any intention to help. The wife asked the husband for help, but the husband was not very enthusiastic, which made the wife very ashamed and unhappy. The husband didn't understand either.

By testPublished 4 months ago 6 min read
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Too many people are going through this:

Not satisfied with themselves, often feel pain, and no way to break through.

Unable to leave the family of origin, unable to let go of their own, also have no ability to let themselves live well.

You overinvest in your relationship, you can't be yourself, and you can't get the love you want.

Eager to change the status quo, but the more you live, the more powerless you are.

If you don't know who you really are, you spend your whole life creating pain.

There is no destiny in this world. It is only you who determines what you become and what kind of life you have.

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A newly married couple who love each other very much. The wife came from a relatively poor economic condition, but warm and close family of origin. The husband, on the other hand, came from a wealthy family with frugal parents and indifferent parents.

The wife just started to enter the new family, the family will get together to eat, but no one will take the initiative to greet the daughter-in-law before eating, after eating everyone disbanded on the spot. The wife wept as she looked at the empty dishes at the table. Her husband did not understand.

When a husband and wife went back to their parents' home, the wife and her family were busy cooking and doing housework, but the husband sat alone in the living room, playing with his mobile phone without any intention to help. The wife asked the husband for help, but the husband was not very enthusiastic, which made the wife very ashamed and unhappy. The husband didn't understand either.

In addition to the concept of life is not the same, in fact they love each other very much.

So, when you don't feel love in your new family, it's not that they don't love you, it's that everyone from a different family of origin expresses love in a different way.

So when you feel sad and sad, it doesn't mean the other person is trying to hurt you.

Everyone experiences some very strong and painful experiences in childhood, and these feelings can have a lifelong impact and change without realizing it.

For example, a girl with beautiful appearance and gentle personality married an average-looking but not very excellent husband, who did not cherish his wife's contribution to the family, but had an affair.

The wife felt very painful about this. She begged her husband, but he still couldn't break off the relationship with the mistress. She came to the consulting room, under the guidance of the psychological consultant, tore heart crack lung to cry, said since childhood, the family is not rich, father good gambling, owe a lot of debt.

In order to live, she began to earn money from the age of 7 to support the family, because there was no money to pay tuition, thought of dropping out of school, but fortunately, grandpa helped her, let her go to university. However, due to the high debts of her family, she not only has no good living conditions in school, but also has to do some part-time jobs to pay for her tuition.

If she often eats steamed bread and wears the same clothes for several years, her classmates often give her strange looks, which she will never forget in her life.

From here, I can probably understand why he is willing to marry a man who is inferior to her, even if he cheated on her and begged him to return.

Her family of origin did not give her love and care, so that out of society, a man slightly better to her, she thought that the lifeline, dare not let go.

"I was so afraid of losing," she says. "What I got was a luxury."

A girl who lacks love in her family of origin and wants to protect herself from being hurt needs to build her own armor, learn the ability to love and how to deal with intimate relationships, so that happiness can be in her own hands!

In marriage, love is not a kind of ability, love is two kinds of ability, one is the ability to fall in love with others, and one is the ability to let others fall in love with you.

Why can't you meet the right person and have a long lasting love?

Why is it that the more you crave love, the more they ignore you?

Why do we learn so many communication skills and still get stuck in the pain of relationships?

There is a fact that is often overlooked.

Some relationship problems, which appear to be communication problems, are actually problems of the inner child relationship model.

Over the years, I've dealt with too many people trapped by their relationships, trapped by themselves.

Don't assume that when you get married, someone else will save you,

Don't even think that divorce will cure your inner weakness,

All you can do is save yourself.

Birth can not choose, the past can not be repeated, but in the next, you can choose how to go.

Each of us should break through the initial shackles of life, turn the injury into a powerful force, learn to heal ourselves, shake hands, break out of the cage of the mind, create their own life, live out the wonderful life.

Only then will the imprint of the family of origin become a scar on the memory rather than a wound.

What I'm going to do is give you a professional psychoanalysis, and I'm not going to give you a lot of theory, not a lot of emotion, but I'm going to use my 15,000 hours of counseling to help you dissect your relationship patterns, see what's stuck in the script of your life, and figure out how to really crack it.

Hu Shenzhi's Psychological Healing Lesson

To get you back to your confident, flamboyant self

Get rid of the image of the woman who sacrificed so much

Read your own life, see your own pain

Rediscover your better self

Make yourself the star of the marriage

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Follow Hu Shenzhi - Heal the inner child and deal with the intimate relationship!

In the 20 years of accompanying children, I published "accompany children to spend the first three years of life", "parental upbringing, the growth of children" and other books, became many parents in the eyes of the most understand parent-child relationship "sunflower dad."

CCTV, Hunan TV, "U Can U Say", "Dad, Where are We Going", "Metamorphosis" invited as psychological counseling guests, to participate in the on-stage and behind-the-scenes knowledge check and output.

Even, had the honor to be invited by Tsai Kangyong, Ma Dong, to become a professional psychological consultant of emotional intelligence class, workplace class.

To heal wounds, we should not rely on complaining against our parents. There are thousands of families and thousands of models. Childhood is not the shackle and the end of our life. We can try our best to create a harmless family of origin for the next generation.

To this end, I have set up 26 online audio courses, Hu Shenzhi Growth and Healing Course. This course will take you to find your own infinite cycle of stories, get out of difficulties and lead your own happy life through the interpretation of story scripts.

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