The Dilemma of Dating

Welcome everyone!

Before I begin I'd like to put out a disclaimer: This is my own personal view and opinion on relationships, men, women, and the role media plays. No bashing of either sex is included, this is just an objective analysis.

With that out of the way I'd like to emphasize that with the whole trend of podcasts focusing entirely on traumas and inherent issues between men and women--that that's the fuel economy in that niche. Those types of talks exist and run autonomously due to the fact that many of these issues are relatable.

With that psychological association of finding a 'hive' to be able to share thoughts and opinions, its obviously a double edged sword. One with an addicting nature to it. Not to disregard people's experiences, but using that solely as a means to create content (that's almost never ending) should bring to mind a few questions:

• What's the aim of this discussion?
• Is this discussion beneficial to you holistically?
• Is the individual hosting these discussions honest and has integrity?

With these focal points I aim to provide a holistic viewpoint, so that others can dictate whether these 'hives' are beneficial to them in the long run--or just another tool of manipulation.

I will also provide resources at the end of this article so stay tuned.

Bullseye or Bull's Eye?

When it comes to social media, you're bound to run into many engaging posts, whether it's a meme, video, audio clip, or even adverts. Due to the algorithm of these apps, you can run into many of the same topics and find different ones that are similar in nature.

This is common knowledge to how these algorithms function, but, it plays a major role in dictating narratives--no matter how subliminal. With the use of these algorithms, its very useful to those who know how to market themselves.

With marketing from these podcasts plus the algorithm, users are in for a lot of content geared towards their trauma. A tool of mind control in the hands of those with ill intentions. That doesn't mean all of the content creators are out to get you, but, it does mean that quite a few know how to push buttons.

It should be obvious what happens when you see a clickbait title or caption with an image/scenario addressing a small percentage of individuals that somehow gets applied to the majority. Great content interaction for the poster and a smorgasbord of arguments in the comment section. Easy strategy.

You could say this applies to more than relationship guru platforms and you'd be right. Many companies employ this strategy to create a buzz. For example, the Left Twix vs. Right Twix. Genius marketing!

The strategy itself isn't bad unless the intention is to influence others to behave irrationally or immorally. Keep in mind that if someone creates a common Devil, then a God (goal) is easy to follow without question.

The Hole in Wholesome

People often get stuck in a loop of bad habits, whether that be unconscious negative thinking or choosing to accept that whatever life gives them--is just the way things are. Which may be true to those unwilling to make those obstacles a stepping stone.

Easier said than done, but if it was easy...well you know how the saying goes! Using the "red pill" movement as an example, I notice a lot of the arguments are generally the same. Whether that's intentional or not would depend on the "guru."

That doesn't mean the information they present doesn't have value, but if its just an avenue of repeated information and no progression, then does it serve others in the long run? There's nothing wrong with analyzing a situation that arrives, especially in the case of relationships.

But if that information can't be used to progress and build upon, then its just mental masturbation. The information shared on social media has a large impact since a wider audience can be reached daily.

That audience includes those who had unfavorable experiences with people unfit for long-term relationships. Life happens and experiencing the ups and downs are mandatory to not only grow as an individual, but also to learn from and cut any generational curses.

The problem that arises with seeing triggering content over and over is that it can subtly program your mind to focus on the negatives. Doubly so for those able to relate to it, creating a reoccurring reality. But now that you know how it can affect you--you're able to see through the smoke and mirrors.

Wolves Amongst Sheep

This talk of content creators should have spurred some thought into the information they provide to their sphere of influence. Which is why I stress that you question who you get information from, even if its coming from the likes of me.

A good leader creates more leaders and you can only become someone of such status, by being able to have a mind of your own and giving something of value for others to benefit from. Just observing on my timeline alone, I see repeated arguments daily! Not to shame anyone for their perspective, but, you have to ask: What's next?

As mentioned earlier, analyzing a problem is one thing. Taking steps to solve a problem is another. If the content in question isn't facilitating solutions and it just recycles old arguments, then what's the end goal?

Hopefully this article inspires others to think critically of their own situation and be able to take steps necessary to improve their own lives. I'm a firm believer that people have the power to help themselves, its just that they must find that power within.

And in this world there are many wolves preying on those they see as sheep. But they can only do so if you allow them. It's an obvious statement to make that both men and women have experienced the bad apples in their lives--however I don't see the solution in regurgitating the same grievances on a daily basis.

The old saying of you can't love somebody if you don't love yourself is one people should reflect on. Not only for establishing a better relationship with yourself, but also being able to differentiate between those who truly care for you and those who do not.

Attracting situations with the same outcome of heartbreak and betrayal should spur the individual to figuring out why it keeps happening. Introspection is key in determining any subconscious habits that make that individual a magnet for bad situation-ships.

Often people get stuck in the mindset of its a lot of bad apples in their area, which could be true. However, knowing what qualities you're desiring in a "good apple" should eliminate a good chunk of that.

These are the thoughts of a millennial so don't take my words as law. I just hope this helps those truly seeking healthy relationships for the betterment of their lives, loved ones, and anyone that may need an alternative perspective.

Thank you for Reading

Resources

Below are a list of resources that I've either watched or read to help gain a balanced perspective in creating prosperous relationships. Feel free to browse.

The Science of Love by John Baines

The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida

Sexual Transmutation Article

The Manosphere and Red Pill Movement Video